advice please

[staceygirl]

hi girls,

Im new here but looking for help!
Its a bit of a sticky situation so please dont judge me!
I was seeing this guy for around 6 months we broke up i was sort of with him on the rebound, anyway on the 11th september we went out partying all weekend and we both stayed around a friends house this night and also 12th sept, no sex happened but other stuff did and i was very drunk.
this boyfriend always had troubles doing the deed when he was drunk.

on the 17th sept i slept with a friend of mine, this was full sex.

My lmp was 5th sept.
On october 2nd 2010 i did a digital pregnancy test and this came out positive 1-2 weeks preg, on monday 4th oct i did another one and it said 1-2 weeks pregnant.

i had a scan at 5 weeks 5 days and 10 weeks these both said due date 14th june

I paid for a private scan at 8 weeks that said my dd wa 12th june

i then had another gender scan at 16 weeks that said 18th june

I then had 2 more scans at my birthing hospital at 13 weeks and 20 weeks which gave me 9th june.

I have always believed the second guy to be the father of my baby as even though the dates differ they all fall under the day i had sex with him, plus this correlated with the digital pregnancy text, plus it was in the middle of my cycle. This coupled with the fact that i didnt believe i had sex with my ex (which he also confirmed at a later date).
The thing is lately i have been doubting if i did actually have sex with him, i was going through a really bad time and if im totally honest was really really drunk and not treating myself well. I have sorted myself out now and have managed to be on good terms with my babies father, but am thinking what if she is not his? am i being paranoid? iv gone through all the online calculators and none give 12th sept as a conception date, PLUS i was also on the last day of my period on the 11th, but im still worried?

please can anyone work this out for me to see if there is any chance at all? im worried sick as i have told the dad he is the dad but i couldnt ever go through with lying so will have to come clean if there is a chance? my mum tells me im being paranoid as i have a history of extreme anxiety and often find it hard to think situations clearly so an outside view would be much appreciated!! x

 

[xx emma xx]

If the last day of your period was 11th sept, even if you had sex on the 12th I doubt you would have ovulated by then to be able to conceive. It sounds like your having a panic cos you seemed sure at the start of your thread that you didn't sleep with that guy. Obviously I can't say, it isn't his baby but I think the chances are very very slim as you don't think you had sex with him and your dates work out for it to be the friend of yours thats the father. Xx

 

[nmf1987]

i agree with emma. i doubt very much if you had only just finished your period you would have ov'd. i would say it's your friends but obviously i can't say for certain. xxx

 

[hopefulmummy]

I think the only thing to do is be honest and open with your friend who you believe to be the father. It's not like you were in a relationship with him and you didn't cheat so I would tell him you'd like him to take a paternity test. Personally if it was me i just couldn't live with myself not knowing 100% however unlikely the other guy is to be the father.

 

[cherelle]

I agree with the above, if it was me i dont think i could live with myself until i had a paternity test and id told him what happened. It doesnt make you a bad person i dont see why anyone would judge you! And it also sounds like it isnt your exs but for your own peace of mind maybe telling the truth would be best x

 

[midnight]

ive answered you in the pregnancy chat section x