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hi girls,
me and OH have been continually arguing about an issue we have.
both of our parents are smokers, his mum and my dad do about 50 a day
anyway, now im pregnant my OH insists that they dont smoke in front of me when im around, which my mum and his mum have agreed to do (his dad doesn't smoke).
i went to my dads for the day yesterday (i only see him every 6 weeks or so) and he's so old fashioned, he puts people down who have a problem with smoking and thinks theres nothing wrong with it. well i went on my own and i didn't ask him or his OH to not smoke around me as i didn't feel i was able to.
anyway, OH has been insisting that when the baby arrives there will be no smoking at all around him (which i agree with) but he is taking it to the extreme. he is saying that his mum will have to go outside of the house. she lives in a flat and it will mean she will have to come right down and smoke in the street. she is digging her heels in and saying she will go into the kitchen, close the door and smoke out of the window. my OH and the MIL have argued about it constantly and its really stressing me out.
my mum will agree no problem. i have no idea how im going to approach the subject with my dad although it is easier for him as he has a conservatory and back garden.
all the worrying about this putting a big dampner on the birth was bad enough but the other day he came home and said that someone at work said that you shoudn't let them hold a baby after they have been smoking because of the particles and today at lunch with friends another said the same. now my OH is saying that they wont be able to smoke at all.
i feel so sad and depressed about it all. its making me dread the birth now as i can see family arguments starting!
i know deep down OH is probably right but it all feels too extreme. what do you girls honestly think?
btw he is an ex-smoker and i've never smoked.
xxx
me and OH have been continually arguing about an issue we have.
both of our parents are smokers, his mum and my dad do about 50 a day
anyway, now im pregnant my OH insists that they dont smoke in front of me when im around, which my mum and his mum have agreed to do (his dad doesn't smoke).
i went to my dads for the day yesterday (i only see him every 6 weeks or so) and he's so old fashioned, he puts people down who have a problem with smoking and thinks theres nothing wrong with it. well i went on my own and i didn't ask him or his OH to not smoke around me as i didn't feel i was able to.
anyway, OH has been insisting that when the baby arrives there will be no smoking at all around him (which i agree with) but he is taking it to the extreme. he is saying that his mum will have to go outside of the house. she lives in a flat and it will mean she will have to come right down and smoke in the street. she is digging her heels in and saying she will go into the kitchen, close the door and smoke out of the window. my OH and the MIL have argued about it constantly and its really stressing me out.
my mum will agree no problem. i have no idea how im going to approach the subject with my dad although it is easier for him as he has a conservatory and back garden.
all the worrying about this putting a big dampner on the birth was bad enough but the other day he came home and said that someone at work said that you shoudn't let them hold a baby after they have been smoking because of the particles and today at lunch with friends another said the same. now my OH is saying that they wont be able to smoke at all.
i feel so sad and depressed about it all. its making me dread the birth now as i can see family arguments starting!
i know deep down OH is probably right but it all feels too extreme. what do you girls honestly think?
btw he is an ex-smoker and i've never smoked.
xxx