Advice needed ladies

[Franna75]

Sorry you're going through this ; I know how awful it can be. I found pics of my FOBs phone. It was the girl that he had gone off a month after my LO was born ( we'd just split up) he left her six months later to try again with me and it was just after we'd got a house together. I went mental about it. He said to me, she started it and it was only a bit of fun. We have since split up and I look back and think yeh it was; but if he really loved me he wouldn't feel the need to do it. Men are different to us girls, they don't realise how much these things can hurt. As you have made up your mind to move on, do it; if u keep checking his phone etc it means you haven't. I think you are intuitive enough to know if something is wrong and as you say, you WILL know if he tries it. He's an idiot if he does it again and he doesn't deserve you. Take care Fx

 

[TORino]

I hope it works out for you.

I couldn't personally put up with this sort of behaviour because I don't deal well with not trusting people. It would eat away at me.

I once dated a guy who used to hide his phone from me, I found messages etc and he swore he wasn't cheating. Well he was in the end, it all came out and I swore I wouldn't be made a fool of like that ever again.

My oh knows that if he ever cheats on me I'll cut of his member with a pair of bolt cutters like the unfortunate dude had done to him near me last week. I was late to work because the police had closed the road searching for the severed tail :

 

[HeppiBean]

I saw about that in the news!

 

[freespirit29]

I feel for you Hun xxx I'm a gutless one my oh has done the same thing several times and due to financial and family commitments we have stayed together. July last yr I had it all again it had been going on since b4 Xmas nothing physical just in depth slagging me off and all pity for him he has such a sad life. I spoke to the woman involved and of course blew it out of the water. It was very very strained and I wasn't sure if I wanted to continue the relationship then found out that I was pregnant. I was totally gutted abt being pregnant but no way could get rid if the baby. So we have worked things out. Do I forgive him? Nope. Do I check up on him? Yup. And I've caught him lying abt silly things so I know there are bigger things that are lied abt too. Don't know what the future hold I just take each day as it comes. I can't tell you what to do just when u have had enough you will know. Take each day as it comes either things will become solid and I really hope they do Hun or you will split. I do think the internet has a lot to answer to but that's no excuse. Big hugs to you Hun I know only too well how u feel xxxx

 

[HeppiBean]

Thank you freespirit. He's been pretty wonderful since then, but am unsure if it's because he feels genuine remorse or because he's trying to cover his tracks. Only time will tell x

 

[HeppiBean]

PS. I hope your oh sorts himself out soon xx

 

[freespirit29]

Like u say hun time will tell........... good luck lovely xxx