Dragonfly Fi
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So, Liams mum was due to visit this weekend to see her grandson, i pumped milk all week, prepared the house for her, made sure i had somewhere else to go (because we DO NOT get on at all, apparently me wanting her to be civil to me is just too much and therefore i wont have her around me) and prepared myself to be away from my 5 week old baby just for her to meet him
which i thought was quite reasonable of me...
We discover on FRIDAY NIGHT that she has decided not to come, Liams sister cannot journey with her so therefore shes not going to come down at all. Piss take
Anyway, then i spoke to Liam and asked when she would be travelling down because i need a good few weeks to prepare and get feeds ready for him so that i can make myself scarce (Jasper relies on me for everything so for us to be seperated takes its time)
He told me she was going to try and come down at the end of September but she was coming with his other sister (who i absolutely cannot stand, want nothing to do with and has done nothing but judge me and Liam and our life together since the day she met me)
I am so upset by this... Liam has basically invited this woman into my home without even CONSULTING me about it, with his mother i could handle him being here alone without me but that girl wants nothing but to judge us. I dont want her in my home!
Liam just gets angry when i talk to him about it, refuses to have a polite or open conversation about any of it, i mentioned that i didnt want his sister here and he said they could go out in town for the day (but six hours or so is a long, long time to have Jasper out of the house, we dont have a pram so where would he be able to lie down and have a sleep? How would that work exactly)
Anyway, so Liam got more and more angry and shouty with me, i was like 'why dont we just go up to Leeds, i can stay in a BnB and you can take Jasper to your sisters house for the day' again pretty nice of me i thought, considering i think this woman is the bitch from hell.
Nope, not good enough, its too long a drive, they can just come here (and have my son uncomfortable all day, dont think so...)
Anyway, we finally agreed on a couple of things but i am pissed off with him, for suggesting that his bloody sister is just welcome to walk into our life like that, and he even said 'i hadnt discussed with my mum where we would be, just that she would be in salisbury, she probably thinks shes not welcome in the house' so why the HELL do i go through the effort
surely if you wanted things to be nicer between your wife and your mother you would say something like 'Fi knows how much you want to meet Jasper so she is going to bugger off for the day and let us chill with him at home' or something
Nope, as usual i get made out to be the evil bad person (who abuses Liam dontcha know) and nothing gets sorted ever
So i have said to him that by law Jasper is too young to be removed from his mother and i think according to the courts i can have him near me until he is two and no one can suggest that i do otherwise, so thats what i am going to do, if they want to see him they can wait until he is old enough to not need his mummy as much as he does right now
Liam has gone off in a huff claiming that 'i do it to myself' and 'no wonder my family hate you' and i am here with Jasper screaming
What would you have done?
which i thought was quite reasonable of me...
We discover on FRIDAY NIGHT that she has decided not to come, Liams sister cannot journey with her so therefore shes not going to come down at all. Piss take
Anyway, then i spoke to Liam and asked when she would be travelling down because i need a good few weeks to prepare and get feeds ready for him so that i can make myself scarce (Jasper relies on me for everything so for us to be seperated takes its time)
He told me she was going to try and come down at the end of September but she was coming with his other sister (who i absolutely cannot stand, want nothing to do with and has done nothing but judge me and Liam and our life together since the day she met me)
I am so upset by this... Liam has basically invited this woman into my home without even CONSULTING me about it, with his mother i could handle him being here alone without me but that girl wants nothing but to judge us. I dont want her in my home!
Liam just gets angry when i talk to him about it, refuses to have a polite or open conversation about any of it, i mentioned that i didnt want his sister here and he said they could go out in town for the day (but six hours or so is a long, long time to have Jasper out of the house, we dont have a pram so where would he be able to lie down and have a sleep? How would that work exactly)
Anyway, so Liam got more and more angry and shouty with me, i was like 'why dont we just go up to Leeds, i can stay in a BnB and you can take Jasper to your sisters house for the day' again pretty nice of me i thought, considering i think this woman is the bitch from hell.
Nope, not good enough, its too long a drive, they can just come here (and have my son uncomfortable all day, dont think so...)
Anyway, we finally agreed on a couple of things but i am pissed off with him, for suggesting that his bloody sister is just welcome to walk into our life like that, and he even said 'i hadnt discussed with my mum where we would be, just that she would be in salisbury, she probably thinks shes not welcome in the house' so why the HELL do i go through the effort
surely if you wanted things to be nicer between your wife and your mother you would say something like 'Fi knows how much you want to meet Jasper so she is going to bugger off for the day and let us chill with him at home' or something
Nope, as usual i get made out to be the evil bad person (who abuses Liam dontcha know) and nothing gets sorted ever
So i have said to him that by law Jasper is too young to be removed from his mother and i think according to the courts i can have him near me until he is two and no one can suggest that i do otherwise, so thats what i am going to do, if they want to see him they can wait until he is old enough to not need his mummy as much as he does right now
Liam has gone off in a huff claiming that 'i do it to myself' and 'no wonder my family hate you' and i am here with Jasper screaming
What would you have done?