Aargh it's 2014 not 1940!!

[Lucyboo]

We are seriously getting frustrated with hubby's mum who has now been talking to her mum and they keep telling us we need to know when to stop and consider adoption.. MIL is quite old fashioned but seriously.. I mean we have been ttc for almost 2 years and been having treatment on and off for 6 months.. We are determined to keep going as long as we can afford to..it's just so annoying as when we start to think she gets what we are doing again something like this comes up.lol had to rant. Now I remember why we didn't tell anyone the last 2 goes...

 

[Lucyboo]

Plus there are so many more options these days first!!!

 

[Blueflower]

Maybe they think its taking its toll on you? But only you will know when and if its time to stop trying. When I told someone I wasn't sure about IVF she said "is that because its unnatural?"!
What about keep changing the subject when she mentions it? I have some weird conversations with my mum: "So and so has just had a baby" me: "have you read any good books recently?" Mum: "I saw so and so's baby yesterday, do you remember her?" Me: "No, I'm just going to make a cup of tea, do you want one?"

 

[Lucyboo]

The thing is we are coping pretty well...Theyjust think because 50 years ago if you couldn't have children you gave up and adopted. They think that's what you do now. We can afford to keep going for the time being.. and are determined to keep going. Just drives me mad. Defo like the change of conversation idea..

 

[Blueflower]

What about giving them a leaflet on fertility treatment? Or a fertility magazine? It would blow their minds!
Before I see my mum I try to think of 5 conversation topics to switch to if necessary! Its become a bit of a game for me!

 

[Blueflower]

I was thinking that you might also be able to get them off your back with some shock tactics!
Tell them you’d like your own healthy baby rather than adopting a child with problems and if they ask what you’re talking about, tell them you can’t just adopt a 6 week old baby from an unmarried mother like you could 40 years ago!

Most relinquished babies are withdrawing from heroine or alcohol sadly, and most children available for adoption are older. They’d have sibling contact visits and letter contact with the birth parents until they are 18. I bet your MIL doesn’t realize that!

Of course its not always like that and you might be lucky, but it might shut them up for a bit! (Also from your other thread it sounds as if all is not lost with getting pregnant anyway!)