We just dont know what to do...
Basicaly my partner has just walked into an absolutly amazing job oppertunity. (to work as a chef in the most up-market-footballers-and-millionares-only-resturant in Liverpool.
(im SO proud of him)
But theres draw backs.
- the money isnt great, not untill "he has shown his commitment" apparently. (how ever long that is i dont know!)
- he suffers from dermintitious (sp?)nothing from the docs helps, he gave up chefing at xmas due to his hands being sooo split and raw. (he applied for this job ages ago - its cooking that makes them go like this)
- his boss said to him "seriously, if your a 'family' person then this job isnt for you, you will be here ALL the time"
-He will do no less then 55 hours a week - mostly more.
-my partner says its very pear-presure too.. like you MUST socialise after work with them too. (till 1am in the morning) (drinking) (this seems to be everynight)
- due to reasons above he will only see Hananh about once a week!!!
-we where ment to be going to scotland next week fro a holiday, theres no chance if he stays in this job.
He leaves for work at 8am. (comes home wayy after 1am)
But this IS the most amazing oppertunity.. maybe in a few months/years the money will be great, we'll be able to buy our own place/car etc. Even just saying you have worked in 'so-n-so' resturant on your C.V. is brilliant. It was also his childhood dream to be a chef.
Also im suffering from pnd. (it has been diagnosed altho im not taking/doing anything about it yet) Im struggeling with this pregnancy also so doing 'everything' from now on scares me quite alot. My life will be a 'single-mother' if he stays in this job. Supose thats me being selfish tho. Before this job came up, my partner had given up the idea of being a chef and was just trying to get an office job 9-5 like.
We just dont know what to do.
he says hes not bothered if i want him to leave (he thinks he may want to leave himself anyway cos of his hands) but i dont want us to end up regreting this oppertunity.
What would you do?