purpleslurple
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12 weeks ago I was induced at 40+12 and I had nobody with me during labour - alone in an induction bay in the dark as I was told there was no way I was in labour. I was induced at 6pm and wasn't checked on again until I rang the bell at 5.30am (LO born 8.14am). My husband missed the birth as by the time the MW finally examined me I was already 9cm and my son was born around 40 minutes later. I had no pain relief except 2 paracetamol and was completely abandoned by the midwife on duty.
I thought I was ok with it as my son is fit and healthy and that's all that should matter however, as more time passes I'm getting quietly more upset that my husband wasn't there and that I was in agony alone in the dark.
I did write a letter of complaint to the hospital and received a very thorough response which indicated that the midwife failed to do her job on a very quiet night in the unit. The midwife has been spoken to as there were things in the response that only she would have known - things that were said between us etc. I was satisfied with the reply as I thought it meant that a lazy nightshift midwife had been caught out and therefore wouldn't be able to do the same to someone else but now I'm feeling that it was really unfair how I was treated and she spoilt something we can never get back.
I don't know how to put it behind me - I haven't told OH how upset I still am as he thinks it's all forgotten about but it's really getting me down. Any advice?
I thought I was ok with it as my son is fit and healthy and that's all that should matter however, as more time passes I'm getting quietly more upset that my husband wasn't there and that I was in agony alone in the dark.
I did write a letter of complaint to the hospital and received a very thorough response which indicated that the midwife failed to do her job on a very quiet night in the unit. The midwife has been spoken to as there were things in the response that only she would have known - things that were said between us etc. I was satisfied with the reply as I thought it meant that a lazy nightshift midwife had been caught out and therefore wouldn't be able to do the same to someone else but now I'm feeling that it was really unfair how I was treated and she spoilt something we can never get back.
I don't know how to put it behind me - I haven't told OH how upset I still am as he thinks it's all forgotten about but it's really getting me down. Any advice?