Hey all
I have a big moral dilemma and would like to know what others wold do....
Sadly, I recently miscarried. It was my first pregnancy, and I was so excited that everything was planned around the arrival of the bub in Oct. My contract at work finished in Aug, and I was keen to just relax before bub came along. The thought of future employment was far from my mind.
Now that I have miscarried, I am devastated for the obvious loss, but also have NO IDEA what to do work wise. I am a researcher so most of my positions are longer term contracts. It's also very important I do not leave people in the lurch as can be detrimental for studies and given grant money is tight and we are researching for children with mental illness, morally I am in a pickle!
I want to try for another bub in a couple of months, but I am still faced with looking for a new job. I have a job in mind but it is 'till Mar 10 and am hoping I'll be a Mum early '09. If I apply, how do I get around the whole fact that I will be in the middle of trying to get preg, or perhaps even newly preg, and may have to leave 7 months or so later!
I do have the right to don't i? But I just don't know if I can do this morally. I will feel I am being dishonest and letting ppl down. But then again, nothing is certain (as I now know!) so perhaps I need to go on with my life. Not sure but it's adding to my stress so would love others opinions.........
I have a big moral dilemma and would like to know what others wold do....
Sadly, I recently miscarried. It was my first pregnancy, and I was so excited that everything was planned around the arrival of the bub in Oct. My contract at work finished in Aug, and I was keen to just relax before bub came along. The thought of future employment was far from my mind.
Now that I have miscarried, I am devastated for the obvious loss, but also have NO IDEA what to do work wise. I am a researcher so most of my positions are longer term contracts. It's also very important I do not leave people in the lurch as can be detrimental for studies and given grant money is tight and we are researching for children with mental illness, morally I am in a pickle!
I want to try for another bub in a couple of months, but I am still faced with looking for a new job. I have a job in mind but it is 'till Mar 10 and am hoping I'll be a Mum early '09. If I apply, how do I get around the whole fact that I will be in the middle of trying to get preg, or perhaps even newly preg, and may have to leave 7 months or so later!
I do have the right to don't i? But I just don't know if I can do this morally. I will feel I am being dishonest and letting ppl down. But then again, nothing is certain (as I now know!) so perhaps I need to go on with my life. Not sure but it's adding to my stress so would love others opinions.........