Work is a pain already

[Kerrykins]

I really don't know if this is the right place to post this so apologise if it's wrong.

I am just 6 weeks pregnant and of course in normal circumstances wouldn't be telling work just yet. But...........I work in accounts and we have just had year end so at this time of year I would usually be lugging boxes up and down the stairs for the archiving. I decided I'd tell just the two MD's (brothers and boy they couldn't be any different) as of course I won't be doing it now.

I told one yesterday and he couldn't have been nicer, congratulated me and said not to worry we would just leave it until I was 12 weeks and let people know, I could then just get people to help me with the boxes. We agreed that his brother should know but no-one else. He said it was fine not to have the H&S guy know yet as long as I used common sense and I already know what parts of the factory to avoid because of the fumes.

I have just been called into the office by the other MD who couldn't say "it's very early days" and "anything could happen" any more times. I really felt like he just wanted me to lose the baby. He also said I want David (H&S guy) to do the risk assessment now, to which I said ok (thinking I had no choice anyway). Good job I did!!!!!! Turns out he had told him anyway!!!!!

I just feel so upset. I hate my job anyway (big surprise, having to work with people like this), and it's just made it worse now. I just don't trust that he hasn't told anyone else either..........

Argh!!! Sorry just had to vent. Has anyone else had similar experiences with work?

 

[kanga86]

I had to tell my work last week as i'm a cleaner and use big buffing and scrubbing machines so wanted to make sure i was safe to use or not. So I told my manager who then had to tell the H&S manager who decided he needed to tell the payroll lady, not sure why!! And since then it has escalated so much, I have no idea how may people know there now!!

I also had to tell my great aunty as she works in the offices where I do and was scared she was going to here from one of the other people in the office hat all seemed to know within hours. So I asked her to keep quiet until I had chance to tell my grandma (her sister), which of course didn't happen, so now my grandma, aunties, uncles and cousins all know. I can't help but feel annoyed that so many people know when it is still early. Especially when I wasn't even the one to tell any of them!! Talk about taking it out of ur hands!!!

 

[Kerrykins]

So sorry for the terrible delay in replying Kanga - it's just so frustrating isn't it - I feel like something is happening to me but my bosses are deciding what to do about it. OK, I know they have to think about H&S but they could at least consult me first - just out of courtesy. Hey ho, done now, I just have to get on with it.

I have to say I would be pretty peeved if quite so many people know as do in your case.

I really feel like my partners dad is pressuring me to tell my OH's brother as well, because others know, but my OH is working in the States at the moment and I just don't think its fair to do it without him. I wish people would just let us be really - especially as it's still so early.......

 

[pringle88]

Sorry to hear you are having such a rubbish time! Seems to be the in thing at the moment!! He shouldnt have told anybody else if thats what you had agreed just goes to show you cant trust him!

Lets hope they dont get even more carried away and tell everbody else!!

Try not to let them stress you out too much though hun x

 

[Kerrykins]

Thanks Pringle, sadly stress is definitely one thing I am having to keep an eye on. I've been known to be a bit of a stess head at the best of times (moi - never!) ha ha ha. Just trying to let it all go over my head really...................

 

[Kerrykins]

Talk about stress - it's like the last post was tempting fate - why do I have to work with such morons!!!!! Argh!!!!! And my MD's just ignore me....................................huff. Calming thoughts, fluffy kittens, floaty clouds................