Work colleagues

[Gill09876]

Hi I'm just wondering how you found your work colleagues to be after your mc? I am currently on sick leave and they know why I'm not at work but apart from Management and a close friend I have not had a text of sorry or hope you are ok? I knows it's tricky because people won't know what to say but it makes me more nervous when I go back because then the ice would have been broken so to speak.

Thanks for your time girls x

 

[tinselcat]

I kept it fairly private so only a couple of people knew & they were sympathetic.
A couple of people said that they were sorry i'd been ill upon return to work (they didn't know why)
Mostly i think people might not know what to say or might be scared of contacting you at home - i doubt it's thoughtlessness and going back will be hard just because life is now so different but if people know then that may help xx

 

[Jem1]

People i worked with were really good after i lost mine. They knew i was pregnant with a change in my duties where i work but i found that extra support from work staff helpful and touching. Sorry for your loss. xxxx

 

[CARNAT22]

Sorry for your loss hun,

I guess it depends on how close you are to the people you work with and your general relationship with them?

I told one person at work about all of my losses, my family only know about one

But I consider her to be a friend.

It may be that people know about your loss but don't want to disturb you whislt you are going for this difficult time?

xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Sunbeam638]

My work meant I had to go on light duties so they knew what had happened when I mc'd. I heard off one person and my boss and no one mentioned it when I came back but I did get a few squeezes on the shoulder which was sweet. I was worried about going back but no one mentioned it and I carried on as normal so was lucky. I had a few men tell me recently about their wives mc's which was sweet (I work in a hard environment) so in some ways it's nice they felt they could mention it now.

There's no way to predict some peoples behaviour but don't worry what they think this is your time xxx

 

[Gill09876]

Thanks Sunbeam x

 

[Katkin72]

Hi Gill, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss
I have just lost my 1st baby and am currently starting my third week of sick leave. A few of my friends at work and my boss knew I was pregnant. I have had texts from the friends who knew and I have asked them to tell my other colleagues so hopefully it won't be so awkward when I return to work. I'm still really scared about returning to work though. I dont know how people will react - if they avoid me or the subject that will really hurt, but I know if they try to comfort me I will break down in tears. It's a no win situation.
I'm sure when you return to work you will find everyone is really supportive. As you say, maybe they are worried about saying the wrong thing. Sadly miscarriage is a very common thing (not that knowing that makes it any easier to cope with when it happens to you), you may find someone at work has also been through this heartbreaking situation. Two of my colleagues have told me they miscarried and have said they are there if I need to talk to them.
Sending love and hugs xxxxx