wish i had my dog back :(

[prettypenguin]

so in may i did something that i thought was right at the time- i gave my dog away.

wed only had her just over a year and she was really good, when Charlie came along she felt left out and started misbehaving for attention- peeing in the house and in between me and Charlie if there was a gap or if he was sat on the couch and i was sat on the floor.


also when Charlie was born it hit me really hard and only in the last few months i was told i have pnd, and i had this obsession with germs and even though she didn't malt much i was petrified of being around her and of Charlie being around her in case she was 'dirty'.

so all in all at the time i just couldn't cope and looking back she was a really well behaved dog just wanted more attention, and i kick myself every day for sorting out that she went to live with someone else. i don't speak to her new owner (it was a friend of a friend) but my friend says she's happy etc.

anyway we got a letter through to request permission for changing the address etc on her chip, i feel like ticking 'no' and asking for her back i miss her so much and have done since she went, i have one part of me saying to just leave it as how bad is it to ask for her back but then another part of me argues that she was my dog to begin with, and i wasn't in a good place and i never signed anything officially handing her over....


arghhh!

and its not just now that we've had this letter its always on my mind how much i want her back,but when i try and forget about it something always happens like this letter arriving or clearing stuff out and finding some of her toys or seeing pictures on Facebook


:,(

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[Humesy]

I understand how you feel but I think if the dog is happy it would be cruel to tear her away from another family. Esp as its been a few months and the dog is probably settled.

You will love another dog like that one, so when your ready hunt out another dog. Im not saying one dog replaces another but i think it would be unfair on the dog to pull her/him away

hugs tho as it must be a horrible position to be in xxx

 

[BabysMomma]

Aww hunni

You did what you felt was right at the time. When my OH and I broke up for just over a year, my doggies had to go back and live with him. It broke my heart but I couldn't afford them because I was made redundant. Plus I was staying with my sister in a very small, cramped house which wasn't suitable at all for them. I remember standing in the shower one day bawling my eyes out thinking how could I have given my babies away, even though they knew OH and we're looked after.

OH and I did get back together so I got my babies back. Well got them back off him a few months before we got back together again but that was because he was saying that he was going to move country and he couldn't get them rehomed and I couldn't face him the thought of them going into a dog home until they were put to sleep and I desperately missed them too.

It was an easy option for me in getting them back because they were with my OH. It might not be so easy getting your wee doggie back from the person she's gone to as they might be very attached to her now. Also if she was a wee bit jealous of Charlie, it was more than likely the best option that you chose to find her an alternative home if that makes sense.

I'm probably not helping in the slightest here hun. I guess I just wanted to let you know that I understand a little bit of what you're feeling.

It's hard work having a bubba and a dog too to look after. Maybe you could look at getting another little dog once you feel ready to? xx

 

[prettypenguin]

thanks guys, i know, it is my own fault and she should stay there if she's happy. they've changed her name and everything makes me sad.

oh has always been adamant we will never get another dog because he was heartbroken when qe gave her away, he just went along with what i.wanted to see if it would make things better between us and in the home.

but oh doesn't feel angry or anything at me he's happy that she is, but in a way she was my first baby and i feel like i gave a child up and can't seem to just shake this morbidness off when it comes to her.

x

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[prettypenguin]

i just want her to come back and for me to make her happy x

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[Humesy]

they changed her name and she was over a yr old i dont understand that.

hope ur ok xxx

 

[Doob]

I think it would be too hurtful for her to move back again Hun so sorry for you though maybe when your lo is a bit older and this memory isn't so raw you could think about another dog xxxx

 

[NaomiiLeiigh.]

Arw hun really feel for you couldn't image parting with my dog
But you did what you had to rember that she's happy now (and not been horrible
It would more likely rowen the dog by past her home to home)
Maybe ask your friend to set up a day you could go visit her so you can see for yourself
That she's happy and healthy x (might help settle any bad throughts)

 

[prettypenguin]

yeah i know i couldn't believe they changed her name.

i know, i wouldn't ask for her back as much as i would love her back, id also be afraid of the same happening again when #2 arrives...
that's quite a good idea about going to visit, she doesn't live far from me i dont think, i don't know if it would be awkward though after so many months? i was thinking last night about how well groomed she was after her new owner took her (i did have her number but lost all my numbers a while back but shed sent me pics) and me feeling rubbish at the time that we couldn't afford for her to get a proper dog groomer to cut her fur (she's a shi Tzu) so i felt a bit better that they'd have the money to pamper her x

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[LikeJohnnYoko]

I would advise to leave her be, she sounds like she's happy and well cared for. Changing names when you adopt a dog at an older age isn't that uncommon, I've always known people to do it.

To be honest, I wouldn't visit her, because it might confuse her or unsettle her. Unfortunately honey this is a decision you will just have to live with. It hurts and you'll always miss her but you did the right thing for you all at the time.

 

[Doob]

I agree I think visiting wouldn't be fair either and very confusing. She might also start to pine or become distressed. Sorry hun x

 

[prettypenguin]

thanks ladies

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[NaomiiLeiigh.]

It might depend on her age we got are dog of ohs mum as she didn't know how to train him with her older dogs (he was 8months when we got him) & she still visit and he gets very excited when she does but doesn't pin for her in anyway after coz his happy & settled with us
But it's decision you'd have to make with her new owner . I Dont know much about small dogs so don't know the affect it would have as mine is a German sheapered. Best of luck either war hun x