Will You/Did You Find Out Your Babies Gender?

[love87]

No, we are not finding out the sex of this baby. We didnt find out on DD1. We did on DD2 so knew she was a girl long before she arrived and now we dont want to find out on this one. This is our last baby and i remember the suprise of DD1. It was amazing, i feel it just topped it off for us. Also i would love a boy and i know of i find out i will probably spend some of my pregnancy dissapointed, where if i wait till baby is born it wont matter because once i see little one the sex wont matter.

Everbody is different and i think ypu should do whats right for you. X

 

[vic30]

I like this question!

With my daughter we didn't find out. Like you, it was a no from the start. I wanted my husband to tell me the gender at the birth and he didn't want to find out beforehand either. I had a few people tell me I was basically being secretive, which I find really odd! A friend at the time said she wanted to find out so she could plan and be prepared. I don't see how the colour of the walls in the nursery and the colours of clothing prepares you more?! Now if it's about knowing to bond with the unborn baby then I can appreciate that. We loved our neutral nursery (still the same 3 yrs on) and I adore neutral clothing. I also liked the surprise for friends and family. I loved wondering each day about it. It kept me going in labour also! The midwife said 'oh we don't get many surprises now' and she was excited too.

On the other hand!!! I'm now 18 weeks and scan is on Monday. We think it's best to find out as we have all of our daughter's clothes and a 2 bedroom house! So we'd like to know as soon as possible if we'll have to move sooner rather than later (not very soon of course, either could share for a long time). But we are still undecided! X

 

[vic30]

Didn't find out with my two boys, it was amazing to find out at delivery. Tempted to find out this time mainly so I don't have to listen to the 'fx for a girl', 'did you try for another to get a girl' comments for 9 months, lol! Also we struggled big time on boys names for both so be good to know if we need to think of another or not! X

I've only got 1 boy and already been getting these comments it really annoys me! It made me want to find out purely because I actually felt a bit pressured into having a girl from certain family members. Hubby and I don't care what we have though so I don't want to feel pushed into finding out! Totally with you on names though, we're majorly struggling for names for either sex so at least finding out would narrow it down. But hubby doesn't want to know so I guess we've got another 26 weeks to wait xx

I really don't understand the comments. I know people mean well, (I think) but I feel like it's something they just can't resist saying. My mother in law, when I'd just had my daughter, said 'oh you just need a little boy now and your family will be complete'. I'm sorry???!!! Don't get me started! There's so many wrongs with that sentence. I'm pregnant again and a few people are saying 'you must want a boy'. We would actually both like another girl! X

 

[vic30]

I find it strange when people react like that. Totally standard to not find out! We didn't find out with my little boy but are with this one. Partly for practical reasons and partly because we figured we've had that surprise experience with my lb and want to have a different experience with this one!

Yes, I think that's also why we may find out next week - to have the other experience of knowing (praying the midwife is right haha). I also think I might not get they lovely experience of finding out again (in case I'm still high on drugs, lose blood, section general anaesthetic type thing. I think it was so perfect last time, especially as we were hoping for a girl l, thought we were having a boy and it was a girl. I said "it's a what???"

 

[anicca79]

I am pregnant via IVF donor insemination and my same sex partner really wants to keep it a secret and I am respecting her wishes. I wasn't keen at first but she has won me round. Her thoughts are that everything is so regulated with IVF and she wants to keep some mystery!

 

[Rooster30]

I found out with my first because I was way TOO excited! I didn't with my second - not because I wasn't excited but everything was a little more of a muted affair, so wanted the surprise just for the different experience! It was great for both so it really doesn't matter how you do it. Both reveals are equally as exciting

 

[Dolores]

Didn't find out with my two boys, it was amazing to find out at delivery. Tempted to find out this time mainly so I don't have to listen to the 'fx for a girl', 'did you try for another to get a girl' comments for 9 months, lol! Also we struggled big time on boys names for both so be good to know if we need to think of another or not! X

I've only got 1 boy and already been getting these comments it really annoys me! It made me want to find out purely because I actually felt a bit pressured into having a girl from certain family members. Hubby and I don't care what we have though so I don't want to feel pushed into finding out! Totally with you on names though, we're majorly struggling for names for either sex so at least finding out would narrow it down. But hubby doesn't want to know so I guess we've got another 26 weeks to wait xx

I really don't understand the comments. I know people mean well, (I think) but I feel like it's something they just can't resist saying. My mother in law, when I'd just had my daughter, said 'oh you just need a little boy now and your family will be complete'. I'm sorry???!!! Don't get me started! There's so many wrongs with that sentence. I'm pregnant again and a few people are saying 'you must want a boy'. We would actually both like another girl! X

Hi Vic,

I understand where you and others are coming from - there is an element of preparation that you can get from finding out, as you say, you might need to look at moving house etc. It makes sense!

I guess I am just so old fashioned and traditional in my values that it seems right for me and my husband to not know - no real logic too it, but I definitely don't look down on anyone who finds out! Each to their own exactly, and a baby is a baby, girl or boy, they are a gift!

X

 

[Dolores]

I am pregnant via IVF donor insemination and my same sex partner really wants to keep it a secret and I am respecting her wishes. I wasn't keen at first but she has won me round. Her thoughts are that everything is so regulated with IVF and she wants to keep some mystery!

Hi Annica!

Firstly, congratulations!

I completely understand your partners line of thinking!

All the best luck

X

 

[Dolores]

Just reading back through this thread ladies!

So interesting because although we all agree it is personal choice and no one should be judged the find out and don't find out folks seem to be on divided sides of opinion here which is very interesting for me to read!

Do any of you feel really strongly one way or another, just out of interest?

I love hearing everyone's opinions on this it's fascinating!

X

 

[russellmuscle]

I don't feel really strongly against one or the other given I intend to maybe try not finding out one time.

I also am not overly fussed with how others chose to make their pregnancy experience.

What I don't understand is people who are so apposed to it or not apposed to it in extremes and force people either way. I don't understand how someone's choice that has no impact on you would piss you off so much (not personally you just people who get so OTT and those who are opposing for/against).

The assuming of genders does peeve me. But I have two boys. I thought my youngest was a girl but was actually relived at a boy. Just don't see me with a girl always just boys. Plus we had no girl names that we loved. If I had a quid for the amount of people who assumed we wanted a girl.. that is partly the reason we didn't keep gender a secret this time. Because I just wanted to cut the girl guesses and opinions out. No its not a girl. No we weren't hoping for a girl. No a girl wouldn't complete us. And no I won't keep trying for a girl I do think there as such a thing as gender preference just like I probably preferred a boy but then I'm an open person I would take the blessing I was given and be happy. We have a girl name sorted for future so next time I hopefully won't feel as anxious about that since I'm gonna try remain yellow.

xxxx

 

[millielaura]

I found out but I'm so impatient and I love planning lol I just wanted to know name and sort clothes and nursery etc!
I think a suprise would be absolutely amazing! But I don't think I could do it.
We would find out early as possible next pregnancy too.. we have a girl , got no preference either way for a 2nd. xx

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[natjc172]

only a bit of fun but maybe worth giving these a try http://genderprediction.co.uk

they were accurate for myself and some friends. I'm 30 week and maybe i should have waited until they arrived as my partner wanted.. instead i searched every theory on google lol

 

[mrs_cookie]

I dont feel strongly either way. We didn't find out first time cos hubby wanted the surprise and it was lovely having that "Hollywood moment",I even put it in my birth plan that hubby was to tell me the sex so he got to say it first. Was lovely! But this time around we will deffo be finding out. We've kept all dd's clothes so need to know whether to wash and sort them or sell them and get boys ones so purely being organized this time xx

 

[natjc172]

awe thats nice you both were able to wait so long.. my partner wanted us to keep it a surprise and not find out.. i was too giddy it would have been a struggle for me to wait lol

 

[fairyfun]

We didn't find out with our first baby, we wanted to save the wonderful surprise moment for the day baby was born rather than a day during the pregnancy. This time I would be happy to find out but suspect my husband will want another surprise.

 

[Nemi]

I'm currently expecting my first and I don't want to find out. I love the idea of a surprise!