Will You/Did You Find Out Your Babies Gender?

[MrsS15]

Didn't find out with my two boys, it was amazing to find out at delivery. Tempted to find out this time mainly so I don't have to listen to the 'fx for a girl', 'did you try for another to get a girl' comments for 9 months, lol! Also we struggled big time on boys names for both so be good to know if we need to think of another or not! X

I've only got 1 boy and already been getting these comments it really annoys me! It made me want to find out purely because I actually felt a bit pressured into having a girl from certain family members. Hubby and I don't care what we have though so I don't want to feel pushed into finding out! Totally with you on names though, we're majorly struggling for names for either sex so at least finding out would narrow it down. But hubby doesn't want to know so I guess we've got another 26 weeks to wait xx

 

[candymycandy]

Haha yeah I've had a few are you hoping for a girl comment and I've only got one boy! I honestly am happy either way. Have a gender scan booked for Friday and hoping they can find out for me! Having to go without DH so going to get them to write it down and put in an envelope to open together after work! x

 

[Hoping for no2]

Didn't find out with my two boys, it was amazing to find out at delivery. Tempted to find out this time mainly so I don't have to listen to the 'fx for a girl', 'did you try for another to get a girl' comments for 9 months, lol! Also we struggled big time on boys names for both so be good to know if we need to think of another or not! X

I've only got 1 boy and already been getting these comments it really annoys me! It made me want to find out purely because I actually felt a bit pressured into having a girl from certain family members. Hubby and I don't care what we have though so I don't want to feel pushed into finding out! Totally with you on names though, we're majorly struggling for names for either sex so at least finding out would narrow it down. But hubby doesn't want to know so I guess we've got another 26 weeks to wait xx

Honestly people are so insensitive. A healthy baby is all we want! Hubby wasn't keen to find out either but I told him after this sickness I think I deserve to find out if I want and he's agreed. We may keep it to ourselves though, will decide at the time. If you are tempted to find out you could always play the same card, lol! Xx

 

[russellmuscle]

With my first we had to find out. I was just dying to know, OH wanted to know so that was set. We got to see for ourself before it was confirmed on scan which was nice. A bit hard to avoid actually lol. But we didn't tell anyone gender except on pf and ourself. People did guess boy but it was nice we had our own secret.

Second time we kind of had to find out because we were mid decorating the house and Jacksons room so had to whether to opt for boyish colours as apposed to neutral which was important because it was also hard to match both age groups so that wasn't to babyish for my boy going to school but also not too old for the baby. We brought the eldest to our scan and he told us what we were having which was lovely because I don't think I could have him in with me during labour to announce it. So to hear him say he was having a baby brother was nice. It was important as he'd been the only one he kind of understood alot too so him knowing he was having his brother meant we could remind him daily because he does have emotional transitional issues although not so much now his brother is here.

If I had a third I think it be my last so I don't think id wanna find out so that I can have tried it another way and with it being my last I probably won't mind the wait to find out.

No plans for a third yet! But this is just my future thoughts. For us it wasn't so much about the colour or gender (I suppose a tiny bit for the nursery planning second time round but mostly for Js emotional prep). But mostly it was decided on how we felt at the time and what suited us as a family. If OH didn't want to know or I didn't there would not have been any pressure. We would need to.move before a 3rd so colour or gender wouldn't matter greatly. I love white and greys anyway.

I believe every pregnancy journey every labour and birth is just as special as the next and this is because it's special most to you, not anyone else. So try not to feel pressured to follow. Sometimes people are arsey if they are jealous but you should remind them it's your journey and it's how you want to do it as a family.

I also believe that no matter what you do when it comes to fertility pregnancy and kids it's never going to be the exact same as anyone else and there is no right or wrong time, way, gender, amount. It's all for you and your happiness.

People who do things just for the pleasure or purpose of others never end up really happy so do what you want and ignore the ridiculous comments. I once had a lady tell me it was a waste to find out "all that pain for nothing" as if I was going to feel any different about meeting my baby for the first time regardless of gender. Idiot. you get people at both ends of the spectrum.

xxxx

 

[Dyan Belinda]

I love being Team Green. Didn't find out with my first daughter, and I'm still not planning to find out with this one. The "big reveal" at the end is always such an amazing moment, after all the work of labor.

 

[Dolores]

Wow!

Thank you each and everyone one of you for your fan respomsss! It ses like a real mixed bag, maybe roughly half on here finding out and maybe half not, seems to be more of a keen towards keeping it a surprise which I didn't expect!

If we're lucky enough for everything to be healthy and well in this pregnancy we are definitely still keeping it a surprise!

Great replies x

 

[Dolores]

I love being Team Green. Didn't find out with my first daughter, and I'm still not planning to find out with this one. The "big reveal" at the end is always such an amazing moment, after all the work of labor.

Team Green! Haha! Like that!

I think that makes me Team Green too I guess

X

 

[Dolores]

We didn't find out with any of ours, though to be honest not a single one was a "surprise" because I knew with 100% certainty in my heart the sex of each baby, even from before (s)he was conceived.

Do you have a feeling with this one? So exciting!

Hi Kholl,

I have an unexplainable feeling it's a boy! I don't know why!

Maybe it's the old wives tales of craving sour things means a boy or whatever but, I just feel like it might be for some reason!

How did you know without knowing?

X

 

[Dolores]

This is my first pregnancy and we found out at 20 weeks and confirmed it yesterday at 29 weeks that we're having a boy. My reasons for finding out were so I can be more organised with what I'm buying (trying to stay gender neutral is difficult sometimes!) and because I thought it would help me connect more with the pregnancy and the baby.

I love the idea of keeping it a surprise until the birth though, and some women do say it's added incentive to get through labour - to finally find out if they're having a son or daughter. I just don't have the patience for this.

I find that people can be so judgemental about other people's pregnancies and children, especially when it comes to the decision of finding out the gender, breastfeeding or returning to work etc, but just tell them that your reasons are your own and you don't have to justify why to anybody but you and your partner!

Congratulations!

Thanks First!

Glad you stuck to your guns!

X

 

[Dolores]

I'm not finding out this time round. It's been lovely not knowing, all the comments and guessing and suspense.
I feel very comfortable not knowing this time as I really do not have a preference as to the sex of the baby and would be delighted with a boy or another girl.

I found out with my first pregnancy because for some reason I really wanted a girl and I had to know.
I know most people don't feel like this though and maybe it's second time round they might have more of a preference.

Enjoy the not knowing.
Xx

Thanks Elspeth,

For a control freak like me I am actually really enjoying the not knowing!

All the best with your pregnancy x

 

[kanga86]

Didn't find out with my two boys, it was amazing to find out at delivery. Tempted to find out this time mainly so I don't have to listen to the 'fx for a girl', 'did you try for another to get a girl' comments for 9 months, lol! Also we struggled big time on boys names for both so be good to know if we need to think of another or not! X

Hi hoping for no2, I think we were in the HG thread in 2014 together, congratulations on baby number 3 I have 3 boys and I forever got the girl comments and although we found out at 17wks with number 3, we didn't tell anyone for ages because of the negative comments the comments didn't stop after he was born either, will did you want a girl, are to going to have another to try for a girl etc

I also struggled big time for a 3rd boys name xx

 

[Kholl]

How did you know without knowing?

X

Oh gosh I just KNEW. Can't explain how, but I knew beyond any doubt.

Congratulations!

 

[Hoping for no2]

Didn't find out with my two boys, it was amazing to find out at delivery. Tempted to find out this time mainly so I don't have to listen to the 'fx for a girl', 'did you try for another to get a girl' comments for 9 months, lol! Also we struggled big time on boys names for both so be good to know if we need to think of another or not! X

Hi hoping for no2, I think we were in the HG thread in 2014 together, congratulations on baby number 3 I have 3 boys and I forever got the girl comments and although we found out at 17wks with number 3, we didn't tell anyone for ages because of the negative comments the comments didn't stop after he was born either, will did you want a girl, are to going to have another to try for a girl etc

I also struggled big time for a 3rd boys name xx

Hi kanga! Yes we were both on the HG thread in 2014. I've got HG again unfortunately but not as bad thank goodness. I saw your post about possible baby number 4?! Test looked pretty convincing...how are you feeling??

I'm expecting it will be another boy, can't imagine ever having a girl! Had lots of comments about how it'll be a nightmare with 3 boys, honestly people just don't know when to shut up 🤐!! Xx

 

[Dolores]

That's so insensitive Hoping for no2

You'd think people would just be happy the baby is healthy and the mum is well rather than make those types of comments but I guess it's always going to happen!

Hell if you'd been born a different century birthing all those sons you would've been popular as anything!

X

 

[Donna88]

I always said I didn't see why people wouldn't find out, not to their faces if they told me they weren't don't get me wrong... but when it was brought up, I always though why wouldn't I find out... it helps me prepare etc.

I found out when I had my son, I'm glad I did. However, now we're talking about trying... I actually really like the idea of finding out in the delivery room. I know my husband will really want to find out so we probably will find out.

I hate it when people say, we want a ''surprise'' I don't know why but the phrase really annoys me, or even when they say, we want it to be special... I think it's because I feel that takes away from people who do find out... having a baby is special, you're not underwhelmed because you already found out the sex of the baby.

But I think that's it, it's special either way and you have to decide which kind of special you want. Do what's right for you and don't worry about what others think or say.

 

[kanga86]

Didn't find out with my two boys, it was amazing to find out at delivery. Tempted to find out this time mainly so I don't have to listen to the 'fx for a girl', 'did you try for another to get a girl' comments for 9 months, lol! Also we struggled big time on boys names for both so be good to know if we need to think of another or not! X

Hi hoping for no2, I think we were in the HG thread in 2014 together, congratulations on baby number 3 I have 3 boys and I forever got the girl comments and although we found out at 17wks with number 3, we didn't tell anyone for ages because of the negative comments the comments didn't stop after he was born either, will did you want a girl, are to going to have another to try for a girl etc

I also struggled big time for a 3rd boys name xx

Hi kanga! Yes we were both on the HG thread in 2014. I've got HG again unfortunately but not as bad thank goodness. I saw your post about possible baby number 4?! Test looked pretty convincing...how are you feeling??

I'm expecting it will be another boy, can't imagine ever having a girl! Had lots of comments about how it'll be a nightmare with 3 boys, honestly people just don't know when to shut up 🤐!! Xx

I've had it with all 3 of my boys just will be expecting it this time too. I'm so excited and petrified about number 4 but it was obviously meant to be so I'm going with the flow lol

3 boys aren't too much worse than 2 boys fighting haha Alfie is just finding his voice to really join in, so it is definitely loud in my house. It is so upsetting when others have to get their opinion in.

I must admit I really struggled with finding out I was having a 3rd boy, and part of it was because of other people's reactions and then feeling like he wouldn't feel special with hand me downs x2. So I had fun giving clothes away to a local women's aid place and buying Alfie some new bits just for him I also thought having a girl would complete my family, and that I wanted to experience having a girl, but when he was born I couldn't have been happier.

If all is well with this one I think I will go for a surprise as as much as I would love a girl another boy would be just as special xx

 

[KHTW]

I always said I didn't see why people wouldn't find out, not to their faces if they told me they weren't don't get me wrong... but when it was brought up, I always though why wouldn't I find out... it helps me prepare etc.

I found out when I had my son, I'm glad I did. However, now we're talking about trying... I actually really like the idea of finding out in the delivery room. I know my husband will really want to find out so we probably will find out.

I hate it when people say, we want a ''surprise'' I don't know why but the phrase really annoys me, or even when they say, we want it to be special... I think it's because I feel that takes away from people who do find out... having a baby is special, you're not underwhelmed because you already found out the sex of the baby.

But I think that's it, it's special either way and you have to decide which kind of special you want. Do what's right for you and don't worry about what others think or say.

Donna, I am starting to feel the same way after reading all the posts form people who didn't find out... With DD we both wanted to know for practical reasons and it was an experience itself to be told at 16+ weeks that you were having a little girls (especially that we were expecting to hear it was a boy - most of the kids in the family are boys!).

But now I am thinking it may be nice to find out when he/she is born. Another experience

 

[KHTW]

People can be really inconsiderate! I don't know why some just feel the need to comment on the gender, like it matters to the babies parents!

We have a daughter and the way I see it is that if we get a boy that's great - we will have one each, we get to buy boys clothes and toys. If we have a girl that's awesome - it means DD will be getting a friend for life and we already have lots of girls clothes and toys etc. Either way IT DOES NOT MATTER

 

[Donna88]

I don't understand why people have to always stick their nose in. It never stops... questions on whether you're going to have a baby and then when you do the questions on what you're doing. I know most people do it with best intentions, but people can be so unaware of how rude and sometimes hurtful they can be.

 

[Loopylou1980]

Hi all!

I'm about 8 weeks pregnant and me and my husband knew from the moment we found out I was expecting that we would be keeping the gender of our baby a surprise and not finding out.

Since we've told a few close friends the second thing they ask is if we are going to find out if it's a boy or a girl. When we say no, we'd like the surprise, most of them have looked at me like I'm mad!

Our main reason we gave to people when asked to explain why we were waiting was that we just want to have that sacred, Hollywood moment straight after you've given birth and they say "Congratulations! It's a boy!" or, y'know, "She's a healthy baby girl! Congratulations!"

I realise it's really common and normal now to find out what you're having, but I just wondered if you ladies did and the reasons why? And if you didn't, your reasons why!

D x

Hello there, With my 1st pregnancy we decided to wait & have the surprise then when we went for the scan at the hospital it wasn't even in the hospital`s policy to tell you lol because we had already agreed on having the sex has a surprise we were fine about it
However after a long labor & feeling very exhausted i was just relieved to have my baby the sex sort of just took a back seat, I felt sort of cheated because we had hyped it up so much by this point.

Then with our son we decided we wanted to know because we wanted to be able to prepare for the sex better this time around. From his clothes to his nursery & just all those other little bits & bops. We were definitely better prepared second time around just knowing the sex.

This time around we are most definitely going to find out again X