Why?? :(

[proud.mummy]

Hiya Girlys,
Please tell me if im wrong but i broke up with my boyfriend today due to his selfishness, he keeps buying things eg, 4 iphones in the last 2 months im due in 19 weeks and havent started baby shopping yet, i have my 20 week scan tomorrow and would love to have gone baby shopping afterwards,
He calls me a bad mum and lots of other names that hurt.
Anyone felt like this?? xx xx

 

[x-misspinkuk-x]

I'm sorry your going through a tough time hun.

why does he need to buy 4 iphones in 2 months?
i mean does he not think that you need to buy things for the baby, and you need to save for the baby! that is just selfish!!
i cant say I've been through this myself but, i don't think that your wrong at all hun !
there is no expect able reason, as to why he should be calling the mother of child horrible names

have you sat down, and told him straight, that the baby needs things and how he makes you feel?
xxx

 

[MrsR]

Omg that's totally unacceptable! Why does he call you a bad mum? x 4 iPhones? Are you guys loaded?! I only just managed the one! x I think you're well within your rights to be pissed with him he needs to start being responsible and thinking about buying things for baby, not himself x x big hugs

 

[proud.mummy]

Yeah i have told him over and over hes not listening to me, so i told him he had to go this morning as i cant take ne more.
i dont know why he needs that many he takes em apart then they end up broken.
i cant take it anymore hes not bothered anyway as hes going out drinking tonight. xx

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Wow thats bad stuff - he shouldnt be calling you names you are vunerable right now, i would maybe try and sit down with him and ask him why he is behaving in the way that he is, does he not realise that you both have this little life to nuture right now and will need to be getting ready and sorted for it?

I do feel sorry for blokies because they dont get the hormones and chemistry to tell them to sort their lives out that us women get when we fall preggers, often they need a proper kick up the backside to get them fully thinking about what is really happening in life right now and how damn important it is.

I went through it with my OH and i sort of felt that it was my job to help him reach that point. He was never offensive to me though, he never told me i was a bad mother or did anything like spend all our money on his toys -

I think you need to sit down with your fella and give him it straight, tell him exactly how you feel and ask him why he is hiding away from his responsibilities... If he cant give you a straight answer or doesnt make any noises like he cares, perhaps move away from eachother for a while and give him time to think things over

i think its hard for men but alot of them do come around eventually

Good luck xxx

 

[scaredmum2be]

Omg i would of asked how you was a bad mum because your not an u want the best for your baby, an i thought u wud of started buying and told him that money he got with them iphones should of been for going baby shopping. If he doesnt seem to appear bothered in the slightest i would say he isnt welcome to the scan you've got because one he hasnt made any effort in saving with you for the baby and 2 he doesnt appear to be bothered about it so whats the point him going to the scan.

He sounds a right selfish pig and i would of ended it to there is no need for it, maybe he needs that kind of split up thing to make him realise how selfish he actually is and to be honest you deserve better for the best of you and ur unborn child he aint worth it.

Hes guna end up really beign selfish if you stay with him and when the babys born he wil stil want to spend more money which you have until your child gets older. Its just not on hun xx

 

[evajo]

Sorry to hear your having a bad time with OH that kind of treatment is really unacceptable; it sounds to me like he may be feeling pushed out hence the name calling - but you really need to tell him to get over himself or go x

 

[aliceo]

sorry to know that u are going through at such a time when all u need is love. Just wondering if he has things bothering him that may cause him to behave this way The most important thing i may suggest now is try not get upset at the name calling cuz u dont need all of that. take care!!!!!And wishing you well in uer pregnancy

 

[titch]

Hun if its got to the stage of nasty name calling I think you're right to do something and not just take it. I would find that really hard to deal with too, and Im glad youre sticking up for yourself.

He is the father of the baby though so unfortunately you cant just cut him out of your life, but some time away for him to really think about what he wants to do with his life is definately a good plan. Make sure you think about what you expect from him clearly, so that you can talk to him about it, men tend to need more specifics about whats wrong!

 

[Leanne and Andy]

sorry mistaken post

 

[charlene09]

I am not surprised hun , 4 Iphones in 2 months tbh if my OH done that I'd ram the Iphones up his arsee!! .. this is no way to act when he has a baby on the way have you not even started buyin lil bits for your baby? x