This may sound like a really stupid moan! Me and my partner have always done everything together. He's a car fanatic and I've been to events with him although it's not an interest of mine. I love him and that's what you do when you love someone. However, he's just started a coarse and has met some new friends. 1 of which is also a car fanatic. He announced last night that he was going out tonight to a car event with this new friend of his. Then this afternoon says he's not going as his pal isn't going. Now he's just gone, as his friend has changed his mind and is going after all. We are so strapped or cash, but he will drive umpteen miles away to go to this event because his pal is going. Then he'll need petrol tomorrow to get to his coarse! Firstly I resent him for being so bl***y selfish about spending money we don't have to go somewhere that isn't a neccessity. Secondly I feel so jealous that he doesn't even ask if I wanted to go, as his new best mate will be going. I just feel so upset and left out. I also feel so stupid for feeling this way. I'm an adult and shouldn't be so jealous about this new friend, but feel that he's taking him away from me. This is just the start and know that he'll end up going out with him more and more and I'll be left behind. I'm actually crying as I write this! Is it just my hormones making me feel so irrational and upset about all this??
Why do I feel like this...........
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Could be the hormones but i understand why you're a little upset about him spending money on things like this. My OH used to be horrendously bad with money but lately i can see him making a concious effort to save (although he did go out and buy a new mobile phone this week...hmmm). The point is it's frustrating to see money being 'wasted' when you're going to have so much upcoming expense. I can see why you feel left out, but it's nice for your OH to have a friend with similar interests and lets face it, it saves you hauling your ass out to events you're not that interested in. If you feel lonely then try and visit a friend or find your own hobby. I think during pregnancy we all feel a little clingier to our OH's but its important you still have your own lives while continuing to support each other xxx
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sweetie, I know how you feel but in a different way. My husband has started uni in September, and now he has loads of people texting and emailing him, he is training to be a primary school teacher, so they are all girls that are getting in touch. And as he is at uni, I am bringing in all the money for the baby, so that's a worry to me. But with your OH, why don't you say something like "so you don't want me to come any more now you have a new friend". See what he says.
I am sure it will be ok. xx
I am sure it will be ok. xx
Thanks ladies. littlemuffin, my OH also has constant texts and is on the phone to this 1 friend a lot of the time at the Weekend which I also resent, as don't see him during the day all Week, so would be nice to have him to myself at the Weekend. I did broach the subject of him preffering to go out with his new mate than to be with me and he said that I have to allow him to have friends which I can understand, but doesn't stop me from feeling pushed aside. I know this is so irrational of me and even possesive of me. I did text him when he was out last night to appologise!
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maybe its a little panic on his part - like he feels he wont be able to do this kinda thing went LO arrives, so he's kinda trying to cram it all in before hand. i kinda went through the same thing - but thankfully my OH is pretty anti social and usually tells me to go out wit my mates.
I'm sure it'll pass.
I'm sure it'll pass.
Well, he's still being ridiculous with money we don't have. He got home from his coarse today and announced that he's going out to town,(40 mile round trip in a very thirty car), at 11.30 tonight so he can cue up outside Game to get a new X box game!!! Says it won't cost him for the game as he's exchanging another 1 and has points on his card which will go towards it. He's even going to bed early so he can play it when he gets home!!! I HATE the ruddy Xbox and if he was my child would tell him to find something else to do, as he spends most of the day on it when he's at home. Forgot to say his new mate also is an Xbox fanatic and he texts him to let him know when he'll be on and they talk on the headsets together and play bl***y games all day/night. This so drives me up the wall and think he's like a little child at lot of the time. Why on earth do I love him so much? LOL!!
