why do I feel like this?

[kellylou]

In the past week or so I uave felt really angry towards my husband and I dont know what to do. Dont get me wrong I love alex to pieces but sometimes I just want a break to be me! Hubby has spent last 3 weekends entertainig at our house and playing ps3 and tbh not really pulling his weight compared to what he was like when alex first arrived, I get so annoyed that I have adapted to fit in with a yet he hasnt he still goes golfing every week and plays onps or net and I get an hour in the bath or so thats all its driving me mad-
He also doesnt take my side when I dont agree with something to do with alex ie giving him cream on his dummy! Or froth off his beer, neither of which I have let a have but when it is mentioned by parents isound bad when I say I dont want that for a and we get home and I have a barney ive now said am not comfortble leaving him with other ppl s my opinion seems to count for nothing. Ive tried talking to him but amhitting a brick wall do all u other mums struggle with oh helping out, respecting your wishes? Im getti so exhausted looking after house hub and a that I feel dizzy allthe time x
Sorry for the long rant my mum says put up, his mum agrees he is messy but prob thinks hes a saint otherwise and hubby claims hes tired and stressed from workin all day he shld get weekends off!

 

[Zazu]

Sorry you are feeling like this, I think you need to talk to him.

You deserve time off too, looking after a baby is just as exhausting as going to work, and you don't get to stop when u get home!

Don't really know what to suggest, maybe ask him to do everything for a day, look after LO, clean and make dinner so he sees what it's like, and can appreciate you a bit more?

As for the beer on the dummy, I'm totally with you on that! Your the mum, you know what's best, stand your ground.

Not much advice sorry, just hope things get better for you soon, you're doing a great job xxx

 

[Yodabo]

I hate it when men use that excuse..I work all week I deserve a rest blah blah blah! So when do we get to rest? They just don't get it! I'd suggest leaving your LO with you OH for the day like Zazu said. Might make him see how bloody hard it actually is. I'd also try once a week to go out with friends or visit them without the baby..gives you a chance to switch off.

As for the housework, I've said to hubby. I don't expect you to clean the house but when I want you to help with something then help! Or just look after the kids so i can do it properly. I've had a few words with hubby about this as he's so old fashioned with his views but I told him, they're HIS kids too and HIS house also, pull your bloody finger out!

Lol sorry, men really get on my nerves with this shit!

 

[kellylou]

Thanks Ladies I will try and talk to him again, he has had non stop moaning over the weekend and I am moaning to anyone that listens, I jsut feel so angry, stressed and upset all the time, I know the house doesnt have to be clear but he wants me to go back to work full time in a couple of months and I want to enjoy what little time I have left alone with alex rather than having to clean up after him!