Who Suggested TTC?

[russellmuscle]

Just mostly intrigued really to see who suggested TTC in your house? you or your OH?

How did it come about?

First time round it was pretty much my choice when I just out one day said I wanted to move and fill the extra room with a baby. OH was a bit gutted he missed out on a gym, but he got used to it.

Second time it was mutual he kind of initiated it but I had been thinking on it due to a suprise pregnancy/loss. This time OH actually said to me he liked the idea of another, so I wedged in another pro with alotta sex, which I am getting better at as the cycles go on..

Anyone else? Vote above. My bets its the ladies, broodiness eats us like no other!!

xxxxx

 

[Ragdoll]

We were both on board for having children but I was the one to request bringing the date forward( I knew from previous experience it's not a quick thing- tried with an ex for over 3 years and nothing) . Other half said try from September 2014, I wanted January , we started in April ! As of yet nothing, starting IVF journey 12th Jan.

I think we are generally more pushy about it because we know our time is short, whereas men can become fathers until death it seems !!

 

[Lau24]

Hi! It was me mostly but that was because I haven't got children, hubby got 3 from a previous marriage. He had a vasectomy reversal in march 2014 and his SA come back with amazing results. The Dr said it was the best he had seen in a guy who had a vasectomy reversal...I got pcos so it is taking its time...I'm currently taking clomid and metformin.

Good luck on your journey xx

 

[J9nine]

It was definitely me! The compromise was that he wanted us to have a house and get married first so we started straight after our wedding in August. Since his niece and some friend's babies have been born he's much more excited about having a family of our own. Given our ages though I hope it happens fairly quickly for us, I don't want to be the granny at the school gates!!
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[BabyMaker]

After a pregnancy scare in August last year, OH said it wouldn't have been the end of the world if I actually was pregnant. Turned out I wasn't but it got us both thinking and decided to start trying this year. However, it was me who suggested which month we should start trying and after months of further discussions (and a slight cold feet type panic from OH) we finally decided to get the coil out in August this year. I'm 18 weeks today
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[snowbee]

We had discussed children quite early on in our relationship and decided we wanted to be married first but did both want children. Once we got married we never really mentioned it for a year or so afterwards and were happy to enjoy each other. Then we both started mentioning it a bit more and thinking about when we would start ttc and agreed on going for it soon. I think I made the actual call, one day we went to dtd and I said lets go for it, so we did.

 

[kittykitchn]

Absolutely me. He wanted children, but he's so laid back and just thought it would happen when it happens - unfortunately sometimes things don't work that way! I wanted to wait until we were married, so came off the pill that month. I think I told him within the few couple of weeks of meeting that I wanted children badly and if it's something he's not interested in then it couldn't go any further.

 

[fairyprincess]

We've talked about kids for a while and knew we'd wait until we were married and settled in jobs etc. Then after the wedding I started talking about it, suggesting we stop using protection etc. X

 

[Aragon]

We spoke about it but it was my OH that told me to stop bc and start trying!!!! X

 

[russellmuscle]

14-3 to the ladies. Intrestingggg...

xxxx

 

[phonixgirl]

I can't remember, it was that long ago!

 

[Flickalicious]

First baby it was all me. I told my OH I wanted babies and I didn't wanna mess around and get serious with someone who didn't. 9 months into our relationship we fell pregnant but we weren't trying!

Second time around we tried for over 3 years, it was mutual we were both desperate for another. We stopping trying, got married and I fell a few months later.

This time it was more him! Our LG was just 5 months old when I fell this time and he kept saying he couldn't wait to get me pregnant again. We weren't protecting as we assumed after waiting so long previously it wouldn't happen so quickly. Oops

 

[Mumzilla]

Me OH would have been happy without (or now with one) but I don't feel our family is quite complete yet. x

 

[russellmuscle]

I think D was happy with 1 until I mc.

Deffo puts things in perspective.

xxxx

 

[PeanutButter]

Well me and hubby have never used contraception, I had vaginismus for about 6-7 years and last year finilly was able to have sex, we both always talked about having children so when we finally started doing 'it' regularly we talked and said it wouldn't matter if we got preg then after the wedding, we was trying more but it didn't matter as we are saving up for our own house instead of renting but after the mc I was like I want a baby so much and he said ok, so here we are hehe x

 

[russellmuscle]

Yeah sometimes you just gotta go with your gut.

We did this second time round and even if we dnt fall in the next to cycles I wont be too disheartened as we originally planned to TTC from June.

Always good to get the practice in. If it happened id be over the moon of course.

xxxx

 

[Airsle]

Ha, ended up being me. Which surprised me, I'd always said when we're settled in our careers and have our own place.. then my cousin got pregnant and I was unbelievably excited, and it seemed to trigger baby rabies!

We've been together 4 years, married one year though and both employed so it's not the worst time. OH is really laid back, he was just like "oh ok then".

We've just started trying so fingers crossed it won't take too long

 

[russellmuscle]

Baby rabies

Fx you wont be waiting too long hun

xxxx

 

[PeanutButter]

Yeah RM, nothing works out the way we plan them anyway aha x
Fx it won't take too long for you airsle x

 

[russellmuscle]

I fell pregnant on the coil and even though we went planning and I was pretty sure Id lost it, I did have slim hope and had everything been ok I would have been happy.

Sometimes the scariest thing is to take the plunge I have a child already and even TTCing a second time round I was scared to take the leap and just go for it, but Im glad Im here now.

xxxx