to ttc or not to ttc, that is the question!

[trixipaws]

LOL.

hmm i'm not sure whether we are mutually, silently ACTIVELY ttc already or not. ask your blokes for me and tell me what y'all think

my boyf is the type who loves sex for pleasure- but for purpose he's like no way. when i was 39 weeks pregnant i was BEGGING him to "do me" but he wouldnt come near! even offered him those rare treats that start with "b" and end in "j" coz i read it can work better in the stomach (LOL! bet a man wrote that) but even THAT rare chance he didnt jump upon! he said it made sex sound all "clinical" and he felt "used" and put him right off. i assumed TTC would be the same, as he commented while we were watching friends once when monica was going on about ovulating saying what a turn-off he would find it.

so, its his idea to ttc in july but he makes out like he wants me to pay my overdraft off first, as part of his "terms" for me to get preggas. and in the meantime he KNOWS i'm doing NFP contraception.

oh by the way he is fully aware that i miss being preg since the m/c and i dont care if NFP doesnt work- in fact i'd be quite happy about it! HE KNOWWWWWS THIS iv been very upfront about it.

aaaaaaaaaaanyway we had sex last nite and we aint got any condoms in, he knows iv stopped spotting etc. afterwards i asked him if he got it out in time. he laughed and said "oh no, u got a ***** full!" so i said "ermm, u know i'm not on the pill dont you?" and he shrugged "yeah" so i was like "oh right" and he said nonchalantly "i thought you were doing your natural contraception thing?" so i said, "i am but i havent learnt it properly yet and i havent started taking my temp yet" all he said was "oh"!

what do u think? doesnt sound like someone who's that bothered about waiting til july to get pregnant does it? do u think he wants to actively ttc but just doesnt want to make out like he is coz he finds it unsexy, or do men just really really really think with their ****s?!?!?!

no point asking him, he's gonna say no either way! do u think he's passively allowing me to just sort the ttc'ing out on my own? i'm not hiding anything and he knows he's risking pregnancy, surely he must be?

maybe i'll be joining y'all soon after all?!?!

 

[babyblonde]

Sounds like a typical man tbh hun!

Mine is similar - our first month ttc he couldn't get enough, but as soon as we had to try for a second month it was clearly too much effort and it was like he couldn't be arsed! BUT when asked he says he definitely wants a baby (think he just wants to be handed one with no effort involved).

Have to say, as far as your chap goes he is either:

1) Assuming you have sorted things out (no effort on his part - just splosh and go )
2) Not actually that bothered whether you get pregnant earlier than you said

You know him best hun!

 

[BabySols]

I would go with the "men think with their *****" theory lol, i reckon they have it in their heads they will pull out at the critical moment but then they get carried away with themselves and don't, thinking they would rather feel like a man now and deal with the consequences later

 

[ejjie]

I think you'll get your answer if next time he gets sexy you tell him that is a fertile time of the month so there's a chance you can get pregnant and see what he does. To me it sounds like he's letting you TTC to be honest but you'd get your answer then hon xxx

Oo it's exciting

 

[larisa]

yess hun u should try doing wat ejjie suggesting if he back away u no ur answer and if he still wants to get it on theres ur answer me personally...i think he thinks he ttc allready if he nos ur not on pill and ur not using condoms then he nos u can get pregnant and if he dint want that he wudnt do it wud he ,,,,,he's jst being a typical man a pretending he dont care xxx