When to tell??

[Jayjay027]

I know I'm very early as I'm only 4+1 pregnant but I was wondering when you all told people or are planning to tell?
I found out yesterday and we have told our parents but I'm afraid DH is getting carried away, he wants to tell everyone!
I'm tempted to tell my best friend, we're asking her to be Godmother, but I might leave every1 else til the New Year, or after my first scan!

What did everyone else do?

Xx

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[frankie247]

First time I fell pregnant we told everyone right away - really excited and never thought anything could go wrong. Except we got to the 12 week scan and the baby had died. We then had to tell everyone. It was nice to have support but as it's such a risky time (first 3 months) I felt also somewhat embarrassed and there was times that I wanted to just move on and think about other things but it was constantly brought up.

This time we've told no-one. We'll tell close family/friends after the 12 week scan but probably wait a bit longer before generally announcing.

But you just have to do what you feel best and enjoy it!

 

[hellywelly]

We told family and close friends at 8 weeks and were hoping to wait til the 12 week scan before telling other people, but I'm a big mouth so other friends knew at 10 weeks and I told friends at work 2 days before my scan (I was sort of forced into this as my boss had started to let it slip - grrrr!!).

Our motto was we told them if they were people we would have told had we lost a baby. Maybe had we lost one before we would have been more wary but luckily for us all was ok.

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

We told everyone early with both our pregnancies, with Jasper because i had such bad morning sickness people were worried about me and with the angel baby because we didnt imagine for a second that anything would go wrong

when i get pregnant again, i wont be telling anyone until 25 weeks x

 

[TORino]

First time I fell pregnant we told everyone right away - really excited and never thought anything could go wrong. Except we got to the 12 week scan and the baby had died. We then had to tell everyone. It was nice to have support but as it's such a risky time (first 3 months) I felt also somewhat embarrassed and there was times that I wanted to just move on and think about other things but it was constantly brought up.

This time we've told no-one. We'll tell close family/friends after the 12 week scan but probably wait a bit longer before generally announcing.

But you just have to do what you feel best and enjoy it!

^^this exactly. It was heartbreaking having to tell people it hadn't worked out

I didn't tell a soul until 12 weeks and only told most people when I was about 15 weeks this time

 

[x_larlybelle_x]

We told everyone after our 8 week scan. We had been trying so long we couldn't contain our excitement. We decided that if the worst was gonna happen it was gonna happen whether we told people or not xx

 

[Sleepy sue]

First time I got a bfp I told friends and a few family, unfortunately I mc early and then had to tell people which I think had to be the worst thing ever!!
This time I told a few select friends and parents at 8 weeks after I had an early scan. I told work at ten who then announced it at a team building event!!!! Xx

 

[Emily0505]

I got my bfp yest and told my mum and dad and my 2 best friends. Oh will tell his mum and sister but thats it till 12 week scan. Gotta tell my boss obviously though! I was too excited not to tell anyone- i think i would have exploded!

XX

 

[Jayjay027]

Thanks for replying ladies.
I'm thinking of waiting until the new year to tell but not sure I can keep my mouth shut lol.
But I am absolutely PETRIFIED of something going wrong.

I also feel a bit silly telling people I'm only 4 weeks lol.
Xx

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[laura.roper]

hi hun dont feel silly im still very early on 5/6 weeks im unsure..and i couldnt keep it a secret i think i have waited that long for this to happen i wanted the whole world to no
you do it when the time feels right congratulations hope u have a smoooth pregnancy xxx

 

[TaffyRose]

We weren't planning to tell anyone until the 12 week scan, however that was easier said than done so ended up telling our parents and siblings at around 8 weeks. We haven't told any other friends or family and anyone that does know has been sworn to secrecy. We'll tell other family and close friends after the 12 week scan xxx

 

[K80]

I told people I could trust. I basically only told people who I would want to support me if something went wrong. The weeks actually fly past and we told average one close friend or family member a week, so not only did it pass the weeks away, it also kept the excitement building! Got scan on Monday. Praying everything ok and we'll slowly tell people after that.

 

[Jayjay027]

Oh good luck with ur scan K80

Thanks so much girls, my brother found out today by accident (long story) but I might wait until Christmas to tell the rest of my brothers and family. I'll be 8 weeks or so by then.

I'm just so afraid of something going wrong xx

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[baby43]

I told FOB i was pregnant and he don't want to know anything about us, then i told my sister. Im waiting for my first scan at 10 weeks or less as i have high blood pressure. I'm planning on telling my boss after the scan i want to see if all is ok. I told one person i work with. It's so scary i'm on my own but i have to stay strong.

 

[Butterflykisses]

I told my family straight away which is mum, dad and sister. Also had to tell boss as I teach spin classes and didn't want to teach whilst pregnant. I know they say you can do what you body is used to but spinning involves serious sweat loss and calorie burning and decided to take it easy this pregnancy. My boss just told other work colleagues that I was sick and couldn't teach. I have bronchiectasis (lung condition) so this was very feasible.

Also told few friends (basically those who would support us if something goes wrong).

Had scan last Monday and to date everything is ok so no need to lie anymore although I'm not standing in street announcing it. Just if it comes up in conversation I'll say.

DH had never told his family so we put copy of scan photo in their Christmas cards which were posted today. Now waiting the telephone calls

 

[Jayjay027]

Butterfly kisses - that is such a cute way to tell ur OH's family lol. Love it!

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[Jayjay027]

And baby43, I'm so sorry the father doesn't want to be there for you and LO.
You're both better off without someone who doesn't really want to be there anyway.
x

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[kanga86]

Butterfly I am doing the same thing, quite a lot of my family dont know yet, so hoping to have scan in time before Xmas to sent out cards with scan pics to everyone with instructions not to open until Xmas day!! xx

 

[baby43]

Thanks Jayjay027 your absolutely right xxx

congratulations to all XX