samanthajayne
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i wasn't sure whether to post this here or somewhere else but i just found out something very disturbing and i'm not sure what to do about it.
me and my bf have never really had the type of relationship where we can talk about our feelings him more than me though. he doesn't talk and i don't talk because he doesn't listen. my pregnancy was planned. we both want a baby and i am enjoying it a lot more than him. so far he has hardly spoken about it, won't talk to me about it and certainly won't go anywhere near my bump which i find very upsetting and until now i always wondered why when we both wanted to try for a baby. i have a heart problem but its very minor and not at all serious just a leaky heart valve which is not bad at the moment as i am young. my mum has the same thing and she was fine having children and she is still fine and she is almost 50. my bf knows this and knows i am absolutely fine. but i just found out he has no intentions of getting close to me and my bump as he is sure we are going to die.
i'm not even sure how to take that. its a ridiculous thing to think. think i'll have to have a word with his sister maybe she can talk some sense into him. we both decided we wanted a baby so why did he agree if he thought anything bad was going to happen. i don't want to have to go through this pregnancy with him thinking that about the situation and ignoring bump for the next few months and then suddenly being interested when baby is born and we are both ok. if he isn't going to bother now then i don't want him around when baby is born. i'm just in total shock that he could be so negative and selfish and i don't know what to say or do now i'm almost speechless.
how do i handle this and make him stop being so negative?
me and my bf have never really had the type of relationship where we can talk about our feelings him more than me though. he doesn't talk and i don't talk because he doesn't listen. my pregnancy was planned. we both want a baby and i am enjoying it a lot more than him. so far he has hardly spoken about it, won't talk to me about it and certainly won't go anywhere near my bump which i find very upsetting and until now i always wondered why when we both wanted to try for a baby. i have a heart problem but its very minor and not at all serious just a leaky heart valve which is not bad at the moment as i am young. my mum has the same thing and she was fine having children and she is still fine and she is almost 50. my bf knows this and knows i am absolutely fine. but i just found out he has no intentions of getting close to me and my bump as he is sure we are going to die.
i'm not even sure how to take that. its a ridiculous thing to think. think i'll have to have a word with his sister maybe she can talk some sense into him. we both decided we wanted a baby so why did he agree if he thought anything bad was going to happen. i don't want to have to go through this pregnancy with him thinking that about the situation and ignoring bump for the next few months and then suddenly being interested when baby is born and we are both ok. if he isn't going to bother now then i don't want him around when baby is born. i'm just in total shock that he could be so negative and selfish and i don't know what to say or do now i'm almost speechless.
how do i handle this and make him stop being so negative?