what do i do

[koalasyrup]

sooo i started my new job yay this will mean 3 times a year i will have to attend events and just so happens the next one is next week, it means i will have to stay one night in a hotel. my other half has gone spare, she said no i cant go, doesn't trust me, thinks ill drink, sleep with someone etc which i would not. so shes given me a choice her or the event. this is a realy good job i wont get anything better and i dont want to screw this up, i can support my family and get a good career so its vital im punctual. but somehow im putting our unborn child last if i go adviceeeeeeee???

 

[Jayjay027]

How old is she? She sounds incredibly immature. Why doesnt she trust u? Have u given her reason not to or does she just have issues?
You cant not work because she's posessive. Thats an incredibly unhealthy relationship and will only get worse once baby arrives!
You need to calmly explain to her that u love her, will not cheat but that in order to be able to afford a baby - u have to work!

Tapatalking

 

[koalasyrup]

well about 4 years ago when we weren't propaly together before anything was official i made a couple of mistakes but we weren't exactly together and she was getting out her previous relationship. so what i did then, has had long term effects. i also at my previous xmas work doo was told not to drink and i ended up having a couple. but still.. ive never cheated, i wouldn't now and i wouldn't drink cause i dont want to

 

[Jayjay027]

Then she has serious issues that need to be addressed, preferably before baby comes along. People think having a baby will make everything better but believe me if there are cracks in ur relationship, a baby will only make things 10 times harder. Even the strongest relationships can suffer when a baby arrives. It tough! Maybe she should seek professional help to talk through her issues.
Keeping u locked away isnt the solution to her problems, tackling them head on is the only thing that is going ti work.
Pandering to her every whim isnt helping her either. She needs to learn to trust u or admit that she never will and allow u both to move on.

Tapatalking

 

[mylullaby]

^^WSS^^ Talk to her properly about this as soon as you can.

 

[mel0013]

i know its probably a bit late but could she go with you to these events? at least until the baby is born or could you find a baby sitter so she can still go? if she went with you and saw that these events are about more than getting hammered and that the women there wouldnt want to embarras themselves by getting drunk and sleeping with colleagues she might relax.