way off topic but dont know where else to turn.

[PrettyFx]

Thanks ladies for such a supportive response. I'm only 20 for those of you who asked. Things have gotten alot better. I have tried to be a bit more calmer and it has resolved lots of situations. I'm making him talk through things as appose to just doing things whenever they suit him, and am trying to reward him in acknowledgement of hm doing something for me. Like, he hasnt been out with his friends for a while so last night when he came in at three, I didnt really complain because I know where he was and that he really was just catching up with a friend who he hadnt seen for a while.

I think when writing the blog on here, I just vented everything and that really helped, my parents are honestly great, I dont want you ladies to think that they are these opressive parents, because they are the complete opposite, they are extremely modern and encouraged me to try things when I was younger, I was allowed to wear bikinis, go on holidays alone, do as I pleased, getting married was my choice, to avoid getting myself into a boyfriend/girfriend relationship.

I am feeling alot better now, I am thinking about things alot more rationally, I also have come off the EPO and I have noticed myself being alot more calm and alot less angry. My character is quite fiery anyway.

I have decided to focus my attentions on my degree, to work harder and to aim to get the job I always dreamed off and nothing less. This will take my mind off niggling at everthing he does, and him for me.

I just wanted to thank you ladies, you truly have been amazing, and I really am grateful for all your support.

Jomc.... I hope things get better I really do, I know I'm young and also experiencing problems, but my advice really would be to take deep breaths, and just allow some things. I cant make my hubby perfect and he probably hates some things about me, I have come to realise that now.

Love you all xxxxx

 

[jomc]

Glad to hear u feel a bit better! I think in general everyone gets set in their ways and its very hard at times to find a copromise, especially when there is alot goin on! At the end of the day, I feel when u love someone there is always a solution, its just not always an easy road! But this is the best place to vent!

 

[cosmicgirl]

That's great news, I'm so glad you are feeling better, take care xxx

 

[Ems]

I was in this sittuation a while ago with my OH.

We have been together for almost 7 years now and about 2 years ago we had a very bad break up which involved me having to move out of our flat and giving up our dog Molly which was so so sad

Everything you mentioned and more was the problem and yes you feel completely unappreciated, unnoticed and almost a bit unloved.

I moved out back to my mums and a friends and was off the rails for months. I didn't no what to do!

After a while he started to call me and ask me if I was ok?? as friends had told him I was loosing too much weight , drinking and crying every hour of every day etc...

After talking for 2 months or so, we started to work things out however, we lived apart for a year!!!!

Over time HE realised the HE was missing out and HE forgot exactly what I meant to him.

Sometimes men do forget (what they've got) and it can be heartbreaking to go through the consequences of a breakup but..........

2 years later, we have learnt to appreciate each other, having a baby and was most definitely the best thing we could of done.....

I hope your husband sees what pain he is causing you, but maybe it may need some further sacrificing to tell him what this is doing to you will cause detrimental problems.

I forgot one thing....I forgot about putting myself first and that is so important!!!

Don't forget to put yourself first because you are important!!

Best of luck! xxx

 

[PrettyFx]

Ems, I'm so glad for you that things worked out in the end. I do love him, I know I do, and we argue alot, but when we're not arguing, its great. I have noticed that it seems to be me who starts the arguments. I could just let things go a bit more, as he does.

I guess I'm just going to take things as they come, who needs a 10 year plan? I just want to be happy. x