Want a baby so bad but Hubby says no!

[KJLorraine]

I'm new to this forum so hi everyone!

My husband and I have 2 boys who are 4 and 2 and I desperatley want to try again for a little girl. I know I could have a boy. I would prepare myself for that but I cant get it out of my head. I am driving my husband mad!!!! He just doesn't understand how much it means to me.

This feeling will never go anyway however I know that if he does agree and it's a boy then that will be it, no more. I don't think we could cope emotionally or finacially with 4. This really would be my last chance.

Help.....am I in the wrong for pushing this on him or is he for not letting me try one last time? Is anyone else in this situation?

 

[lauramumof2]

without knowing you that well my gut instinct would be to say that your dh could be right. Why is it so important to have a girl? What if it were another boy, would you love him or think, you should have been my girl.
Its putting a lot of pressure on you and its a shame.
I dont really know what else to say. You sound like you have a lovely family.

 

[Urchin]

I think I may well be in the same situation as you in a couple of years. I would happily have one more, but I was lucky to get Brody I think.
My main thing with having this baby (Brody) was company for Mason,I did not want to have an only child. This time around I don't have that excuse LOL

I personally would love a girl, but there would be a postive side to having another boy for me too...3 lads together would be so cool!

I think the only thing to do would be to not pressure hubby too much, but try to make him understand how much it means to you. I wouldn't focus too much on the girl thing though....you either want another baby or you don't.

 

[KJLorraine]

Thanks for the advice but I'm afraid it doesn't change the way I feel! Of course if I had another boy I would love him just as much as I love my 2 sons, Jack and Harry. I also except that whatever the sex it would be the last and I would be sterilised. I can't help the way I feel and I just wish my hubby could understand. If I could take a pill to stop these feelings then I would, believe me!!!!!!!!

 

[Lindsay]

KJ a friend of mine was desperate for a daughter when she got pregnant, so much so that she bought pink clothes and always referred to her bump as she, anyway it turned out that she had a little boy and although she loves him very much she still wishes that he had been a girl. I went to se eher last night and asked her if she was going to have another and she said "no, because I can't guarentee it is going to be a girl" It must be awful to be so desperate for a particular sex baby. There are gender charts that you can refer to to help predict the months that you have to conceive in order to have a particular sex baby - I think Layla posted a link to one somewhere on the site as she was wanting a girl next time, might be worth a look?!!

Whatever happens good luck ...

Xxx

 

[KJLorraine]

Thanks. I have looked at the chinese chart which seems to be pretty accurate so deff use that if husband agrees. Thats the hard part!

 

[minikins]

Good luck with it Lorraine, just another warning though my sister has too boys and was desparate for a girl and when she had another boy she got PND really badly.

A girl would totally be the icing on the cake but you have to be in it to win it and have your DH fully along for the ride - excuse the pun

 

[nikki1306]

Hi KJ

I have two little girls who are 5 and 3. I would really love a little boy and so would OH. I am 11 weeks pregnant with number 3 and keeping my fingers crossed but like you say i will love this baby no matter what sex it is,my partner didn't want anymore at one point but then changed his mind so you never know,maybe your husband is worried that you are focusing too much on wanting a girl and is worried how you would feel if it turned out to be a boy. xx

 

[KJLorraine]

PND has come up in the conversation but I do hope to possibly avoid it. At 16 weeks pregnant I would find out the sex of the baby so that if it is a boy I will have 24 weeks to get my head round it.Don't know if that would work but I think it would be less of shock so to speak.