Visitors once baby is here...

[cossie13]

There are some great tips on here! Thanks ladies I've been following this thread as I'm in a similar position to chazabell only it's my nan more so than siblings. I only have one sister and I'm more than happy to let her come visit as we are so close

Since posting last time, my nan seems insistent that i'll be in hospital for at least a week and she's even arranged her shifts for the beginning of April so that she can come see me every day!! The cheek of it!!

 

[Rubydoo]

It does always surprise me how many threads there are about this, it amazes me that people can be so tactless about giving women a bit of space with a newborn, most of them will have given birth and been in the same position so surely they know what it's like?

I don't have issues with telling people straight but do understand that a lot of people find it awkward, after all nobody likes to hurt other peoples feelings and it's coming from a good place, I'm sure we'd all be equally pissed off if our babies were totally ignored but there's a happy balance.

I like a previous posters idea about staying in your dressing gown, it'll make people realise that you are in recovery and keep the visit short.

I'm lucky in that everyone knows my wishes and is happy to give me a few days and not just turn up but my Mom is driving me up the wall at the moment saying that she's desperate for the baby now and when will I have her (I'm 39+ 3 so not due yet), she also delights into getting onto the subject of childbirth as often as possible and telling me I'm silly for being so nervous as it's "not that bad and all over quickly", bearing in mind she had a caesarean so felt nothing and I had a 30 hour back to back labour with dd1.

 

[Chazabell]

I live in my PJ's when I'm at home so that won't be an issue. And my son will not be passed around if he's asleep, he'll be in his crib xxx

 

[dawnmariexox]

I have decided not to tell anyone when I go into labour that way I can prolong the decent of visitors! My other concern is that I don't want people taking pictures and posting on social media sites like FB

 

[Emapot1]

It's straight forward for me. My mum is my birthing partner and dh will be there during pushing (they will swap and my mum will then have ds) and my in laws get a phone call when we are home and settled. If they don't luke the arrangement then tough bloody luck! My baby, my birth, my life, my choice! X

 

[littlemonkey]

I have decided not to tell anyone when I go into labour that way I can prolong the decent of visitors! My other concern is that I don't want people taking pictures and posting on social media sites like FB

We just told everyone no photos on Facebook!

Personally I think it's a bit weird people who put pictures of other peoples kids up, especially some one I know who doesn't even have their own kids.

 

[CreamyTofu]

The problem I have is Facebook... I don't want my in laws posting on facebook a picture of him before anyone else has seen him. Such as my mum and dad, it happened with the gender scan luckily I managed to get in touch with them before they saw it all over Facebook...but I was very mad/upset that I didn't get chance to share what we was having myself.

I've already told my other half that i want at least a few hours with just me, him and baby also I've said I don't want anything on Facebook until everyone important has seen him first.
And I'm sticking to it..

 

[Rachyw86]

Facebook is a funny thing. If someone told me that they had given birth, there is no way I would plaster "congratulations" in Facebook if they hadn't announced it yet themselves! People are odd.

X

 

[Elliott]

I'm also planning on not really telling people when i go into labour to buy us extra time, family aren't closeby anyway but i'd rather tell them, in laws especially, when it's over. We very much see the first few days as time for OH and me to get our heads around things and figure out what's going on! Oh and breastfeeding with guestsi'm pretty sure i'll go to another room to do it as i an't imagine i'll feel confident enough initially.

Facebook I won't put anything on myself at all and most good friends know that i wouldn't really want anything much on there. After a couple of weeks if people have visited and put the odd photo up i won't complain but again i think because friends know what i'm like with facebook i'm not sure if they would.