ummmmmmmm secondary infertility?

I have always been welome in LTTC and see myself as a LTTCer from day 1 ..... Until now. It seems that now there is an issue with newer ladies about who belongs where.

I will still post here and not in secondary .... This place has been my sanctuary on my journey the whole time!

If i offend anyone because i have a 5 year old daughter dont read my threads.

Its my OH first time ttc

i belong here

Nowhere in the title of this group did it EVER say 1st time lttc and first time fertility issues x
 
I don't post on here very often but i popped on today and saw this new section, and also saw the thread last week that caused some upset.

I'm am not sure that this new section solves the problem really... all it does is suggest that anyone who has children already should post in there rather than ttc or lttc??

And what does "secondary infertility" actually mean? 2nd time TTC? 2nd time LTTC? Is it for people who had fertility issues first time around and now again the second? Or are only having fertility issues 2nd time around??? Where do you post if you are struggling to conceive your 3rd or 4th child?


If it has been recognized that some girls struggle with those who have had children on the forum when they are ttc no1 then surely a new section/area should have been dedicated to them?

That way everyone who is TTC or LTTC could stay where they are but more importantly those who DO find it difficult to see/speak/receive advice from others who already have children would have their own place to talk about how they are feeling without the risk of upsetting anyone?


I do think there is a huge difference between knowing whether you will ever have a child… or not, and I am sure that at times if you are in this situation then it must be very frustrating and upsetting to see/speak/receive advice from others who already have children.

Everyone who is ttc, lttc, conceiving their 2nd, 3rd etc are all in the same situation. Nobody is right or wrong, and those who have not had children have every right to feel upset, angry or offended at things which are said/posted by those who have had children and vice versa.

 
I think TTC is a nightmare for everyone regardless of how they got there or whether or not they have kids. Post where you feel comfortable.

There may be some people who feel they get more understanding? from others in the same situation as them, so I guess mums who are struggling TTC another baby may want somewhere dedicated to them, I don't know as I'm not in that situation.

But I don't think anyone should feel they have to move over there. LTTC has been a major comfort to me, even if I just read and not post a lot, and I dunno how would have go through last couple of years without all you guys :eek:)
 
Kirsty, don't you go anywhere! You are one of us! But hopefully not for much longer as FX your bfp is round the corner! x

I'm not joining in on the whole debate as it was bad enough the last time. LET'S ALL BE PALS!
 
I personally don't think a new section was required just because of one disagreement, we all got on just fine before and if the matter had been laid to rest sooner then I think it would have been forgotten about by now.

I have never begrudged anyone of my support regardless if they are trying for their first or have 10 :shock:

My worry is that this new section will cause a divide and it shouldn't be that way. We should all be there for each other and until now it has always been that way since I first came over to ltttc.

I appreciate what the new section represents but I don't think it was necessary.

Big love for all ltttc & fertility ladies xx
 
It will be nice for new comers tho?

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I didn't see the thread that caused this upset tbh, and Im glad I never :(

People come here for support, advice a bit of friendly chat about the one thing we all have in common. We want a baby, plain and simple. Many people who already have children can offer lots of advice from their own personal history and whether your TTC baby number 1,2 or 6 advice and support is what we want to give and receive during this difficult time. Alot of us don't even tell our RL friends and family that we are TTC and these forums are where we can pour out our feelings. I mean I seriously wouldn't be discussing my egg white cm and how many times me and my OH BD'd over Sunday lunch with the family lol.


I personally don't think many people will post in the new section out of habit and wanting to stay among friends and familiar faces.

At the same time I can understand why some people would get frustrated and angry and post things that are hurtful to others, its damn frustrating ttc and taking it out on our keyboard on a forum sometimes helps!

I post this because I am ttc and I do already have children, I would hate to feel unwelcome in any section of this forum as I feel I can relate in some way to everyone who posts on here, whether its to congratulate, offer advice, sympathise or simply to have a chuckle xx
 
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what have i missed girls???? I dont want to move!!!
 
Noone has to move :hugs:

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I dont want to start the debate again but i just wanted to make sure i could stay here and not have to move x x x
 
Course u can lovely im sure it wasnt intended to make people not post in here

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No need for a new section, everyone should be welcome in LTTTC, if you have no children or 100 children.
Myself and Amyrose came into here for support and I would hate to think that we weren't welcome x
 
No need for a new section, everyone should be welcome in LTTTC, if you have no children or 100 children.
Myself and Amyrose came into here for support and I would hate to think that we weren't welcome x

We were glad to get rid of yah!! :rofl:
 
It doea feel that secondary infertility is being.isolated when it is just infertility. Btw secondary infertility is when you either have a child(ren) or have been pregnant. I dont see a point in dividing it.
And i dont think a heartache of not being able to conceive or having a MC depends on whether you have a child or not.
I would hate to only be able to post in that section and i am more than.likely to end up with problems conceiving again

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I don't personally post in here very often but often see how supportive you are for each other. If/when i ttc again and if I were to come into any problems I think i would freely use both sections. I don't think its dividing people, more just offering yet another level of support. New users of the forum will probably like having the option of both.
 
I was in LTTTC too, I did have secondary fertility issues and the support I received was amazing.

I would have been sad to not have been welcome.

I guess, newcomers will use the section more than those that have been here a while. x
 
Just want to say - i love being in here!! I'm completely not the argumentative type and could have cried when i read through the other thread!! I think regardless of our situations we all need to come together and support each other!! That is what the forum is for! I do not honestly know how i would of coped over the last year and a half without you all. So i just want to say a massive thank you for making me feel so welcome!!! xxx
 
Well you know I try!! I hate confrontation - such a wimp! I'm the type of person that sees the best in everybody!! X
 

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