Today is the day my world has ended :(

[newbie1984]

My boyfriend has left me. 31 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend tonight has gone. He told me he just doesn't feel the way he should and feels trapped. I don't know what to do. My whole world has been torn apart. I feel like I just want to die

 

[nhh04]

Oh sweetheart! What a horrible thing to happen. Is there anyone you can ring to come and stay with you. I'm sure they won't mind a phonecall at this time given the circumstances. XXX

 

[newbie1984]

No nobody. I just honestly don't know what to do. He told me he just doesn't feel the same any more etc. We sat and talked for a couple of hours but he just left I feel like a part of me has just died.

 

[newbie1984]

It's such a shock to me. He was supposed to be moving in tomorrow. I just don't understand how he could do this.

 

[nhh04]

Did anything happen that prompted this?

 

[nhh04]

Maybe he's getting overwhelmed by everything? I'm not defending him but its all new for both of you.

I really don't know what to say... Maybe it good he's not moving in if he's having so many doubts. I think you need to talk again tomorrow - if he will - he can't just expect you to do everything on your own. X

 

[newbie1984]

Ok so I got a knock on the door about 5 mins after he left saying he was sorry and that he couldn't leave me. He came in and we talked some more and your right he is overwhelmed with everything and figured the easiest thing to do would be to walk out. He said he realised straight away that was the wrong thing to do. I said I want to try and make it work, and we spoke about what was bothering us both. Omg I'm so confused.

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Moving in I'd a huge step in a relationship not to mention he is becoming a father in a matter of weeks.. It's easier for us to get our heads round it but men find it very hard.. Take your time with him he will be fine eventually xx

 

[Froslass]

I'm so sorry this has happened to you, I really am

What a cock to leave you whilst pregnant.

BUT

Maybe he has felt overwhelemed. Being pregnant and moving in together are big steps in anyones life, and whilst you feel a bond with baby and you feel it is the best thing, your OH probably wont feel like this yet.

He might be scared about being a dad, scared about your relationship etc..

I'm not defending him, because leasving you is a cowardly thing to do.

He might just need some time to clear his head x

 

[Pippa1703]

Do you have any parents near by? Maybe you both discuss having a night off once a week or fortnigt? That way you get a bit of space from each other? Or have a room where you can both go to for an hour or two every so often to watch tv or read in peace? It might make moving in less daunting for him?
I'm not excusing his behaviour but the very best thing you can do is talk as openly as possible. If you can't put a finger on what's wrong, how can you work on it?

 

[Merfairy]

Hi hun I am so sorry you have had to go through this; it sounds like he has got really scared, which is fine for him but it doesn't help you does it. He has obviously come back to talk, at the end of the day becoming a parent is a massive responsibility and maybe he is just trying to adjust to the whole situation. I am sure it will work out chicken just try and be patient. Take care xxxx