To tell or not to tell???

[Rooander]

Would like to know what you thought out there. Our son is 8yrs old and is wanting a brother or sister so much. Hes always on at us to hurry up and have one. Well we are now pregnant, about 6 wks, but we're not sure when to tell. Im worried that if we tell him theres one on the way and something happens how do we tell him? And isn't it a long time for him wait?
In a real dilemma here.
We have thought about telling him at the first scan ie: take him with us so he can see.
What do you think?

 

[Urchin]

My husband was so excited we told out 3 year old at 6 weeks.

He's very excited and talks about it all the time, kissing my tummy etc.

I know exactly how you feel about worrying if something goes wrong though. I just keep my fingers crossed. Because he's 3 he won't really anyway.

If you can wait for the scan I would, but will he pick it up from your behaviour or overheard conversations?

 

[Kerry]

My two are 4 and 5 and we told them yesterday - they are both pretty sensible understanding kids and we have explained about Mummy having to be careful to make sure the baby doesn't stop growing etc. They are such a HUGE part of anything we do that we wnated them to be involved from as early as possible.

I also wanted them to understand why Mummy doesn't always feel that great at the moment and that there is nothing wrong with me etc.

Anyway, I am sure whatever people do is right for them, their kids and their family at the time.

Love to you all

 

[Lyn_no3]

I have 2 sons already they are 5 and 4 and my husband was also very excited about telling everyone to be honest, so they knew from about 8 wks.
It has seemed like a very long time for them and although im really glad they are seeing me grow and knowing why i wish i could of waited a bit longer because all i get now is " Mum is the baby coming today... " or when i say i'm going to see the midwife they think its so she can get the baby out lol
At least they are excited about the whole thing tho

good luck to everyone else