TMI - everything spilling out

[Maximus17]

hiya so a bit of warning about this thread, so when we BD, everything keeps coming out even with missionary position. I am getting so paranoid about this and started to wonder if that's why I am not getting pregnant. I looked it up online and they are saying not to worry and it's completely normal but I am not convinced. I mean sometimes most of it comes out before I even get up. Does this happen to you too? sorry for TMI on this. I hope someone can assure me.

 

[KatD]

I can assure you that it will have no effect on your chances of conceiving. You can try and place a pillow or two under your hips while bd so that when DH is done you are already elevated. Stay in that position for a little while (they say 10min). You can also get a cup that you can insert into your vagina to keep the ejaculation by the cervix for longer. Removing it a while later. Xxx not to worry hun, I also read up on it because I too was concerned

 

[Maximus17]

thanks Kat, I started to think my body just pushing everything out so I can't get pregnant. I remember how happy I was when my DH agreed to TTC and thinking it would happen straight away, started planning names, etc.. well it hasn't worked out that way but hopefully one day I will be posting my BFP here...

 

[candymycandy]

Remember the majority of what is coming out is other fluid in the ejaculate, the sperm goes up so quickly (it’s a race of course!) it’s unlikely to be swimmers. It’s probably actually a good sign as means there’s enough of a supply. So it is normal and happens to I’m guessing, all women.

Have you tried SMEP (sperm meets egg plan) or pre-seed lubricant? Both maximise your chances x

 

[Maximus17]

hiya yes tried preseed very small amounts and SMEP, i am not a fan of preseed though and neither my DH. I really hope some swimmers make it there, but I doubt it as if they made it to the right place I would get pregnant right? so I just think the swimmers are getting lost lol

 

[millielaura]

I googled the hell out of this a few years ago as it comes straight out of me lol and all is fine apparently xx

 

[candymycandy]

hiya yes tried preseed very small amounts and SMEP, i am not a fan of preseed though and neither my DH. I really hope some swimmers make it there, but I doubt it as if they made it to the right place I would get pregnant right? so I just think the swimmers are getting lost lol

I think the percentage of getting pregnant each cycle is something like 25% so it’s based on so many factors, unfortunately not as easy as just the sperm reaching your egg! You probs know but don’t use what they recommend if preseed - far too much! How many cycles have you been trying?

Sperm only makes up 5% of each ejaculate so what’s coming out is other fluids x

 

[JemRose]

I'm pretty sure the stuff that needs to be up there goes straight up there, the rest is just fluid that isn't needed. I always got up straight away after BD and cleaned up. I wouldn't worry about keeping it in there at all, like I said the actual sperm shoot straight up into the cervix x

 

[Maximus17]

Its going to be our 5th cycle but we are nearly 40 so they said if it doesn't happen after the 6th than we need to see a doctor which my DH not willing to so I need to get pregnant asap the pressure doesn't help really ...

 

[Flump1518]

250 million sperm come out in the average ejaculation so loads will have started to make their way up there in seconds, before anything comes out

 

[Flump1518]

P.S. this is an amazing read!

 

[Maximus17]

wow thank you for this detailed information. Now I know why I am not getting pregnant, and realize that women getting pregnant quick are very lucky, it's like the lottery lol (well not as bad)

 

[Sunflower1]

The more watery stuff comes out but I think the actual sperm go in the other direction. You can lie with your hips up. If you are concerned about the sperm quality then your OH can have a test. It's totally normal for some to come out.

I've been using Conceive Plus. But your EWCM should help keep it there too.

 

[Maximus17]

Thanks all as I mentioned my DH won’t have any tests so I am praying that I get pregnant soon

 

[Sunflower1]

OMG I'd be so annoyed if my DH wouldn't have tests. He's just had a sperm test and was so stressed. Men are so funny sometimes. It must be making it so stressful for you. Is he worried it might be him that's the problem?

I had same experience this afternoon and now also feel panicky that its all coming out! But it can't be, especially after 40 mins with hips on a cushion. It must just be the other stuff.

 

[Jemmlove]

Omg that diagram is amazing !!

Maximus, my February mc was conceived Valentine’s Day and I know this to be exact because hubby had been away ALL of February for work and came home for that one day. TMI I remember he done his business whilst I was on top and i swear NONE of it stayed where it should have, I was shocked when I found out I was pregnant. Now that I’m trying I’ve googled this and yep, all that liquid escaping really isn’t the sperm! But if you wanna be extra careful I’d say lay there with your bottom half raised for good measure!

 

[Elven]

That's brilliant Flump1518, quite a good read. Thanks for that!

 

[Melly41]

Ive had that too......it only takes one strong swimmer and when men ejactulate they shoot out millions of them! When i conceived in july...i was on top, showered straight away and did not prop my hips up....we werent ttc then so total suprise! I think it helps us feel we are doing what we can but unlikely to make a huge difference.....good luck everyone x

 

[Sunflower1]

Also, it spills out more when you aren't fertile I noticed. When fertile very little comes out for me.