ok well...hey ho its about a mother in law....shes determined to buy the cot...thats all very nice of her, i am very grateful, but me and my partner kindly said there is no rush as we will use ( and want to use) a moses basket for the first few months...but mother in law has found the "perfect" cot from stokes or somthing its called which gets bigger as ur baby grows so suitable from newborn , has wheels on it (i dnt want wheels got dammit) and is oval (hello i want nice bed linen that fits) and it costs like £499 although she said shed find it cheaper.. but still im not keen on how it looks..i want my baby in a moses basket....and plus she laughed her head off when we said that it reduces cot death..which research has said it does compared to letting ur baby wriggle around in a big big cot...grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr any1 share there point of view????? plus when she laughed i was insulted!!!!!! grrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i mean £499 on a coat culd buy other things with that money!!!! i seen a cot for £200 which i really like. hmph.
this is going to end nasty???
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Trust me on this pne MIL's will do what ever they like and get their own way else they bitch to your partner.. 
Its depressing...
My MIL has really spoilt me and my baby bump so far, Got cot matteress clothes toys bibs etc you name it she has brought it for us.. I was like noooo tell your mum stop buying me things I'm running out of anything I can buy myself.
Although I appreicate it, it is a tad annoying but she is too kind natured for her own good. So I have just grown to get used to it.
Only other thing you could do is get your partner to have a word with her telling her to save her money and you will all go shopping together to buy your baby a cot....
Or suggest to her the one you like x
Its depressing...My MIL has really spoilt me and my baby bump so far, Got cot matteress clothes toys bibs etc you name it she has brought it for us.. I was like noooo tell your mum stop buying me things I'm running out of anything I can buy myself.
Although I appreicate it, it is a tad annoying but she is too kind natured for her own good. So I have just grown to get used to it.
Only other thing you could do is get your partner to have a word with her telling her to save her money and you will all go shopping together to buy your baby a cot....
Or suggest to her the one you like x
mmm ur right... problem is i have suggested...in that saying the moses basket...but she jus said " well you wont need one"..but i want one? its easy to take baby from room to room! ...................plus her house is kinda a pig style.............they are messy eaters eat junk...i dont want my baby growing up on shit....i dont want to end up having argument tho?
ahhhhh it is nice they buy things for u but its exciting to do it urself too? xx
ahhhhh it is nice they buy things for u but its exciting to do it urself too? xx
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Yeah I get you on the shite side of things my sister is a messy person I can't stand it I baby sat for her one night and was itchying before the nights end I was ready to leave and take a nice long bath. She just didn't clean enough for me and had too many pets that were messy too :S with two kids I was like I couldn't live like this wading throught shite to put my son to bed because he wouldn't tidy up either...
I get what you mean on the moses basket my mum brought us one, a nice yellow one hehe x I got eh stand for nothing off a freecycler and I was done and happy. The cot we have is a small cot not a cot bed and that is my partners from when he was a baby x I just need to repaint it x I'm not fussed on fancy crap, never had it so don't crave it. As long as he has a place to sleep then I'm happy with that x
I get what you mean on the moses basket my mum brought us one, a nice yellow one hehe x I got eh stand for nothing off a freecycler and I was done and happy. The cot we have is a small cot not a cot bed and that is my partners from when he was a baby x I just need to repaint it x I'm not fussed on fancy crap, never had it so don't crave it. As long as he has a place to sleep then I'm happy with that x
yeh exactly! my partner has been used to living in a dive!!!!!!!!!!! so yeh that aint gonna happen when we properly move into our own house!!! and his rents have a nasty cat!!! grrrrrrrrrrrrrr............
im not fussed on glamourising my pregnancy either and bnirth but i want nice cutesy stuff............whether il get a choice in it is another thing ha...mother in law thinks shes knows best.....sounds like its gona be ..
im not fussed on glamourising my pregnancy either and bnirth but i want nice cutesy stuff............whether il get a choice in it is another thing ha...mother in law thinks shes knows best.....sounds like its gona be ..
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I've been given most of my stuff for free and I'm happy with it just explain to her your not into all the expensive crap and if she wants to get you something useful then listen to your opinions x I hope you get somewhere with her x
My MIL has a cat to which I am illergic too, even though I love cats lol madness x I have choosen to stay away from getting a pet till my son is at least 2 as I want a husky dog x
My MIL has a cat to which I am illergic too, even though I love cats lol madness x I have choosen to stay away from getting a pet till my son is at least 2 as I want a husky dog x
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I feel strongly about MIL butting in as my mum was bullied for years by my nan! my MIL is paying for our baby furniture which is nice but I am picking it and if she doesnt like it then tough shit and she wont be allowed to buy anything! its our baby not hers and I wont be bullied by anyone and I dont see why you hsould either just tell her you have found the cot you want and if she wants to pay for it then fine otherwise you will buy it yourself but IT is the one you want! she will soon shut her mouth when you put her in her place!
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I love my MIL, but her and my FIL tried to spend too much on things I didn't want for LO's christening.. It drove me mad.. It's hard because you can't say much, can be quite overwhelming too.. I didn't grow up having money handed to me, we wanted for nothing but we weren't a rich family.. OH is the opposite, he's used to having hundreds threw at his feet.. Makes me feel so uncomfortable.. I hope you can get the cot you want and she backs off a bit x
I think that that MIL's aren't worth falling out with.
They control the FIL and the SILs and BILs and even your partner to an extent.
If anyone can cause trouble in your relationship, it's going to be her, or maybe SIL - the women that were in your partners life before you.
I personally would tell her to buy the baby whatever she wants, it's her money afterall, but don't be upet if you don't use it.
If she comes round with a cot in hand, say thank you very much and leave it in the box in the cupboard. If she wants to see it assembled, just say that if you get it out of the box, you won't be able to get your money back when you go for a refund or exchange
They control the FIL and the SILs and BILs and even your partner to an extent.
If anyone can cause trouble in your relationship, it's going to be her, or maybe SIL - the women that were in your partners life before you.
I personally would tell her to buy the baby whatever she wants, it's her money afterall, but don't be upet if you don't use it.
If she comes round with a cot in hand, say thank you very much and leave it in the box in the cupboard. If she wants to see it assembled, just say that if you get it out of the box, you won't be able to get your money back when you go for a refund or exchange
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