Third hand smoke

[Helena84]

Hi guys,
I'm new to this, but I'm 21 weeks pregnant and need some advise if anyone has had this issue before.
I live with my partner who has a daughter aged 11. His daughter spends the majority of the time with us and spends a couple of nights a week at her mums. The issue I have I have is that neither myself or my partner smoke. His daughters mum does smoke and his daughter is consistently coming back ours smelling of stale smoke.
I am not having a go at any smokers, but my problem is firstly his daughter smelling of smoke which shouldn't be happening and my other concern is when the baby arrives. His daughter will be wanting to hold and cuddle her new sibling but I don't want my child breathing in smoke which on her clothes and in her hair.
My partner agrees with me but recently hasn't smelled it as much. Perhaps my sense of smell has been heightened in pregnancy, but im not smelling something that isn't there! He has had the conversation with his ex several times in the past, and while it calms down for a bit after, it will always start up again. He doesn't want to start an arguement for the sake of his daughter, but has anyone dealt with this sort of thing before? Am I overreacting about not wanting my baby to be around clothes that smell of smoke even though there is no smoke our house?

 

[Princess81]

It’s not an over reaction. The advice for smokers is to wear a “smoking jacket” which they remove before coming into contact with a baby, so I would suggest changing her clothes etc when she comes home. Not that she should be exposed to It herself bless her x

 

[millielaura]

Agree with princess. Defo not an over reaction xx

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[Helena84]

Thanks guys, appreciate the responses.
I totally agree, no child should be exposed to smoke and really feel for her as her mother appears to be taking no notice when my partner mentions it to her. I just think my partner is worried about giving his daughter a complex in telling her to change her clothes as soon as she walks through the door. It shouldn't be the solution as she shouldn't be exposed to it in the first place but I think it's the only around it at the moment x

 

[Princess81]

Yeah.... maybe your midwife can offer you some tips. Depending on the smoking cessation service in your area. I certainly know in our area that the smoking cessation support workers have all sorts of tips for a smoke free home. It might be just as important to be honest with her about why it’s needed. I imagine she’s old enough to understand. Plus you can make it clear that it’s not her fault x

 

[Shanivy]

Not at all. My grandparents smoke heavily and I always came back smelling of smoke in my hair,my clothes my skin. We used to come home change and get a bath. I even find if they give me food it tastes fine but if I brought it home I could taste smoke in it! I feel for his daughter breathing it in. I ended up with asthma so couldnt stay with them anymore from the second hand smoke. Or even stand to be in the house. It's a terrible thing for his daughter but I'd agree that it's the only solution at the minute. I wouldn't let a smoker smelling strongly of cigarettes hold my newborn so what else can you do? I feel for his daughter bless her, it's certainly worth your OH mentioning to someone for her health too though as she has no choice in the matter x