TFL Baby on Board Badge

[Happyred]

I have to admit I wouldnt wear one and if im absolutely honest I dont think i would take notice of someone wearing one either. Theres a lot to be said for talking to people and asking politely!

See I would never wait for an elderly or pregnant person to ask me if the could have my seat. I would always stand up for them straight away I would not need to be asked. But that's just me x

I'm not saying I would need to wait to be asked, I frequently offer my seat to others that I think might need it, but if no one did offer their seat then like I said, I think its better to ask than wear a badge. Just personal choice I guess.

 

[Jayjay027]

I have to admit I wouldnt wear one and if im absolutely honest I dont think i would take notice of someone wearing one either. Theres a lot to be said for talking to people and asking politely!

See I would never wait for an elderly or pregnant person to ask me if the could have my seat. I would always stand up for them straight away I would not need to be asked. But that's just me x

I'm exactly the same! As a rule, if an elderly or pregnant person got on and there were no free seats, I'd get up straight away.

That being said, I'm not sure I'd pay much attention to someone wearing a 'look at me I'm pregnant so I deserve ur seat' badge. If I see a bump, I'll offer my seat. If I see a badge, I'd think that maybe that person is using their pregnancy as an illness in a way. Plus, I wouldn't put it past people who aren't pregnant to wear it, just so they can get a seat! X

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[Celene]

I agree if you feel fine then you can probably stand for a while but my consultant has warned me about the risks of standing for long periods of time when pregnant.... Dizzyness, swelling and worst case blood clots....

Without fail I stand up if I see someone elderly or pregnant as this is how I have been brought up.[/QUOTE]


Thanks I actually didn't know this. Good to know!

My mum also said to to hold the bars up top for long either on tube apparently it's bad for blood flow when pregnant?
x

 

[Celene]

I have to admit I wouldnt wear one and if im absolutely honest I dont think i would take notice of someone wearing one either. Theres a lot to be said for talking to people and asking politely!

See I would never wait for an elderly or pregnant person to ask me if the could have my seat. I would always stand up for them straight away I would not need to be asked. But that's just me x

I'm exactly the same! As a rule, if an elderly or pregnant person got on and there were no free seats, I'd get up straight away.

That being said, I'm not sure I'd pay much attention to someone wearing a 'look at me I'm pregnant so I deserve ur seat' badge. If I see a bump, I'll offer my seat. If I see a badge, I'd think that maybe that person is using their pregnancy as an illness in a way. Plus, I wouldn't put it past people who aren't pregnant to wear it, just so they can get a seat! X

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I wouldn't put it past people either hun, I think that would definately happen too! xo

 

[Happyred]

I have to admit I wouldnt wear one and if im absolutely honest I dont think i would take notice of someone wearing one either. Theres a lot to be said for talking to people and asking politely!

See I would never wait for an elderly or pregnant person to ask me if the could have my seat. I would always stand up for them straight away I would not need to be asked. But that's just me x

I'm exactly the same! As a rule, if an elderly or pregnant person got on and there were no free seats, I'd get up straight away.

That being said, I'm not sure I'd pay much attention to someone wearing a 'look at me I'm pregnant so I deserve ur seat' badge. If I see a bump, I'll offer my seat. If I see a badge, I'd think that maybe that person is using their pregnancy as an illness in a way. Plus, I wouldn't put it past people who aren't pregnant to wear it, just so they can get a seat! X

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Yeah thats basically what im saying JayJay. Really annoys me when people act as though they are ill and incapable when they are not.

 

[leesey]

Totally different from original topic, but on the 'can't believe some people are so rude' topic - I couldn't believe the way I got treated by a woman in the cinema the other day. We've been waiting weeks to see the Avengers movie but obviously can only do evenings and weekends due to work, and every time we've gone it's been so busy we've had to leave it cos I can't get a proper seat.

But we finally went 2 nights ago, and it was fairly quiet when we went in, so we got two seats in a row of four (Bit of background for those who don't know me, even though I'm only 27/28 weeks, I'm on crutches cos my SPD pain gets really bad in the evenings and I really struggle with my mobility). So I didn't want to get in anyone's way, or have to climb over people to get to the toilets or anything.

So I was sitting in my seat, DH had nipped to the toilet, and a few couples came by and asked if the seats were free, I said yes no problem they are free but FYI I can't get up to let you in and out as I'm pregnant blah blah and they said oh no problem you stay there we'll go elsewhere. As you'd expect any kind person to do, I would do the same if it was me.

But then this mother and teenage son came along, didn't bother asking if the seats were free or anything, just said 'we'll sit in there'! So I leaned as far as I could so the boy could hear me and said 'Just so you know I can't actually let you passed very easily, I'm pregnant and can't get up and down easily' and he seemed to accept this and turned to walk away. The mum then said, very loudly, why are you not letting him passed, we want those seats. So I repeated that, yes that's fine, but I can't help out by getting up to let them by. And she said 'What's your problem just let us passed' and I said 'Please don't be so rude I can't actually help it!!' and she tutted and said 'come on' to her son who was looking very embarrassed by all this. They then proceeded to literally trample me, standing on my feet, my bag and kicking my shin in the process.

DH was coming in and saw this as he was walking up the stairs, saw me starting to well up and said to them 'What do you think you're playing at my wife's pregnant and you've just trampled all over her' and the woman said 'I didn't know, she wasn't letting us passed and we wanted to sit down, what did you expect us to do?' and his response was to basically have some human decency.

I sat and bubbled for the first half hour of the film as I felt totally violated, and these people proceeded to sit and talk about me, and invade my personal space. It was horrible.

Anyway, that's my majorly long, totally off topic story, but basically yes people can be total arseholes and if there are any schemes out there that discourage this practice then I'm all for them!! xx

 

[babyem]

I have to admit I wouldnt wear one and if im absolutely honest I dont think i would take notice of someone wearing one either. Theres a lot to be said for talking to people and asking politely!

So, its rude to ignore a woman with an obvious bump and not offer her your seat, but if shes wearing a badge then that makes it acceptable to ignore her?

I think the badges are a good idea, I dont know if I would personallly wear one, I dont suppose I'll ever need too. Even in early pregnancy I would wear it if I needed to, because with ms and hip pain I would have needed a seat. I dont think it makes a difference if you have a huge bump or your a few weeks. A woman could be 20 odd weeks and have no bump.

I dont think people should automatically get a seat but I also dont think they should have to ask each time.

I was on the bus a while ago, and a couple with a pram and small boy wanted to get on, but only 2 prams are allowed on at once. There was space for all of them, but this older man was sat in the disable seat and completely ignored them. He got on and off the buss fine, and there was a seat free right near to that one anyway. This poor family had to lug all there stuff back off and wait for the next one.

 

[Jayjay027]

Leesey omg that's awful!!!
See, I wouldn't have been as quiet, I'd have called that woman some choice names.

Babyem - that's terrible too, but why the couple didn't tell the man to move is beyond me.

In my opinion, people are rude because people allow them to be. That's why if someone is rude to me, or in my way or watever, I bloody tell them lol. X

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[Loula]

Unfortunately that's people of today, I've been asked to give up my seat on the train to accomodate someone and I turned around and said NO,I was knackered from work and my bump is very visible.People are just plain rude,I've also had elderly people ask me to move off the bus seat when there have been others

What are you serious? I can't believe people would ask you to move when you are clearly pregnant and already sitting down. There are plenty of other people that should be kind enough to move.

deadly serious i was mortified x

 

[leesey]

Leesey omg that's awful!!!
See, I wouldn't have been as quiet, I'd have called that woman some choice names.

Babyem - that's terrible too, but why the couple didn't tell the man to move is beyond me.

In my opinion, people are rude because people allow them to be. That's why if someone is rude to me, or in my way or watever, I bloody tell them lol. X

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See I wouldn't normally have been so quiet about it, I speak my mind and wouldn't normally let anyone away with that. But my hormones got the better of me and I just wanted to cry On a normal day I would have completely let rip at her and then gone to the cinema manager to get her removed xx

 

[babyem]

Some people are so far up their own arses they practically lick their tonsils. I really think people now a days are so rude at times!

Its like certain people are seen as an inconvenience! x

 

[Happyred]

I have to admit I wouldnt wear one and if im absolutely honest I dont think i would take notice of someone wearing one either. Theres a lot to be said for talking to people and asking politely!

So, its rude to ignore a woman with an obvious bump and not offer her your seat, but if shes wearing a badge then that makes it acceptable to ignore her?

I think the badges are a good idea, I dont know if I would personallly wear one, I dont suppose I'll ever need too. Even in early pregnancy I would wear it if I needed to, because with ms and hip pain I would have needed a seat. I dont think it makes a difference if you have a huge bump or your a few weeks. A woman could be 20 odd weeks and have no bump.

I dont think people should automatically get a seat but I also dont think they should have to ask each time.

I was on the bus a while ago, and a couple with a pram and small boy wanted to get on, but only 2 prams are allowed on at once. There was space for all of them, but this older man was sat in the disable seat and completely ignored them. He got on and off the buss fine, and there was a seat free right near to that one anyway. This poor family had to lug all there stuff back off and wait for the next one.

Thats not what im saying. Im just saying if you need a seat ask for it. I have an obvious bump and dont expect people to automatically just give me their seat, just cause im pregnant. But if i was struggling, then I would ask someone if they minded moving for me. I just think its more polite than wearing a badge advertising my pregnancy.

 

[kimbrulailt]

I've found that standing on the train/tube/overground makes me dizzy, queasy, faint and tires me quickly. Booo! My very protective and dotting husband suggested I get the button and stop trying to be a hero since I miscarried not that long ago. I have found that generally it depends on how crowded the train is but it seems the Overground trains are less friendly. So far i have always found a seat on the train, I try to travel when its at the end of the busy time. On the Northern line people usually seem to ask me if I want to sit down. Yesterday a couple sat in front of me arguing about whether they should offer me a sit as they were in priority seating. That was kind of embarrassing. The gentlemen's argument was that either I should ask or quite simply wait until he gets off. On the H&C line yesterday (perhaps it was the full moon!) nobody was offering and others were pushing by me to get to seats as people got up to leave! I was kind of amused, especially when I saw Muslim gentleman in his religious garb who looked absolutely mortified. He was standing and kept glancing at my button and looking straight into the eyes of people, and looking back at my button. When he made eye contact with me he looked embarassed...I smiled and said not to worry I had only a couple of stops to go. Then you could see people's heads sink further. Mad! lol. There are moments and I sometimes think, someone might be coming down with a flu, or they were up with their baby all night, or they have an un-obvious illness - there is no reason for anyone to get hostile over others not giving up their seat. You don't know what their reasoning is. And although it might be awkward if you really feel unable to stand, or are getting pushed around - then speak up for you and your bump and ask aloud if someone might be able to give you a seat as you're pregnant and feeling that you really need to sit down. Problem solved.

K

 

[Snaveanator]

A few weeks before I found out I was pregnant, I was on crutches and not once was I offered a seat! Every time I had to ask for one, and even then most people would awkwardly ignore you!