Telling acquaintances...

[jen9984]

I'm now in that stage where I look a bit fat, but not really pregnant. How have you guys dealt with the fact that you "sort of" look pregnant, but not quite, when it comes to meeting people who don't know the news?

For example, I work closely with lots of different people for short periods of time. They wouldn't know I was pregnant, but I sort of feel like it's a bit of an elephant in the room unless I make it clear I am - I worry they'll be sitting there wondering if I am but not wanting to cause offence by asking! But equally, I'm not the sort of person who goes around talking very openly about it, especially in work situations.

Sorry - I'm not sure how clear this is, but do you tell people you meet/have a passing acquaintance with? Or do you let them come to their own conclusions?

Hope that makes sense...

 

[Mrsstuart01]

I let them come to their own conclusions, especially at work I didn't feel it was right to be telling anyone and everyone, people started asking when I was about 6 months. Otherwise I felt like it was always all about me and it wasn't! Xx

 

[mouse9210]

I would do whatever makes you most comfortable - s it stressing you out worrying about what they think? Or are you happier with keeping it a secret?

I told my work at 8 weeks because the morning sickness made me a moody miserable cow, and I didn't want people to think I was actually like that! lol

But I work in a school - so a few times a day the kids say to me 'miss are you pregnant or just fat?' - lol - sometimes it would be nice if adults were as honest as that - makes it a lot easier to just say, 'yeah I'm pregnant' and then move on.

x

 

[jen9984]

Oh, if only people were as honest as kids!!

I'll probably just keep quiet then. Those who need to know, know, and I suppose it really doesn't matter about the others!!

 

[babyem]

I have to let know for health and safety reasons, so everyone I work with knows. Otherwise I dont say anything unless asked x

 

[Emily0505]

I am at the stage where it is very obvious I am preggers but tbh if it was people I was only meeting in passing I wouldn't say anything unless it cropped up in conversation. I would only tell people I was working with for brief periods if necessary rather than tell everyone regardless 'hello I'm emily and I'm pregnant!"lol

On the other hand if you are excited about it and want to tell the world then shout it from the rooftops hun!!!

XX

 

[julianne]

As some of the others have said, do what is right for you. I told my immediate colleagues and seniors but other than that have let the grape vine do the work for me.

xx

 

[CARNAT22]

As some of the others have said, do what is right for you. I told my immediate colleagues and seniors but other than that have let the grape vine do the work for me.

xx

This is exactly what I have done!

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[jen9984]

I think I'm just vain really - I'm worried that people will think I've let myself go since Christmas!! (which I sort of have too...) But, that's their problem - I know there's a baby in there

 

[mouse9210]

Some days I am really bump-proud and want everyone to notice, but then I have other days when being pregnant feels really private and I wish it could be a secret! It's silly really, but I don't mind talking about it if I want to - but I hate it if someone brings it up!

Oh and if one more person comments on how 'big' I am getting I will go mental - when did it become ok for people to comment on my size?! I know Im pregnant and all but it is a very personal comment to make!

Or maybe I am just being overly hormonal?

 

[katey123]

I went to an old friends wedding reception on Saturday and although only my oh and I know about my pregnancy - It's because basically we didn't want to announce it to our families until after our 12 week scan which unfortunetly I still haven't had at now 16 weeks. - but at the reception all our old friends seemed to be looking at my rather blob like belly and wouldn't except that I wasn't drinking I felt so uncomfortable that my oh finally told them now our friends and their friends know before our families or even my other children do !!!!! It's a rather complicated mess now really and still no scan date . xx


Update: just got a scan date, this Thursday , so hopefully can tell all the family by the weekend at last . hooray !