Babies Surname

[Sarah&Braydon]

the other thing to think about is that even if you get married everyone is presumeing(?sp) that u will take oh's sir name even if i get married which we will probably do one day i would still keep my own sir name.

if i ever find a bloke and get married ill be keeping my surname to may double barrel it but keeping it

 

[Emmylou]

Baby will have OH's surname, we'll get round to getting married eventually, so its not even in question for me. I have dbl barrelled surname, and I can't wait to get rid. In an ideal world we'd be married by now....but business comes first it has too, so we haven't gotten round to it.

I'm same as Helen, use OH's surname when ordering food or booking tables as it takes too long to explain and spell mine!

 

[lotus]

Our baby will have my partners surname - it just seems right, even though I have the better surname of the 2! They dont sound right together though, especially if child has a lisp!
I would ask your partner how bothered he is about it and how the bullies were at school - if he hates it that much surely he wont mind?
I think its your decisiona dn your baby, you will do what you think best.
Jo.

 

[violet-glow]

My son has my name and this baby will have my name aswell. Going to try and change it when we get married

 

[Gemma & Jake]

I would have liked to use bith names as a double barrelled but it sounds stupid so we are just using my partners.

 

[cloud9]

well am married so its not an issue for me

my ex fiance was called house and there was no way i was ever gonna be called Mrs House....but when we planned our wedding he offered to take my surname as his didn't mean anything to him,this is just another otion you can think about

 

[Riley's Mommy]

i like the idea of double barreling the surnames. but not sure it would work with our names. might do though.

but after carrying ill want bubs to have my surname. think my dad wud be happy too.

 

[bagpuss]

I double barrelled ours, so both of our names carry on to the next generation

 

[Blackfairykitten]

Hey this was like my situation. If my OH had liked his surname I would have used it but he used to get bullied at school and still hates it now.

So baby will have my surname and when we get married OH will take my surname. I don't think i would feel any less married than if i took his surname.

Hope you work it out

 

[phillylou]

im giving my baby my last name

 

[Jaidy]

My baby is going to have my other halfs surname, simply because its tradition and we are going to get married one day and it would be a bit of a fuss having to get it changed from mine.

I once suggested that the baby will have my surname, as a joke, and OH got really offended

 

[Rubys mummy]

LO is having OH surname-we arent married but we will eventually and it means alot to me that baby has his name, I feel it shows my commitment to him I am divorced and swore I would never get married again, but I am softening in my old age!!)

I was really fretting at the hozzie that when baby is born the name tag will be my name, but my lovely midwife at Parentcraft told me they can write out another tag with OH name on it, for a keep sake, and I have written it in my birth plan. Its very important to me, silly prob but thats how I feel

 

[Jaidy]

LO is having OH surname-we arent married but we will eventually and it means alot to me that baby has his name, I feel it shows my commitment to him I am divorced and swore I would never get married again, but I am softening in my old age!!)

I was really fretting at the hozzie that when baby is born the name tag will be my name, but my lovely midwife at Parentcraft told me they can write out another tag with OH name on it, for a keep sake, and I have written it in my birth plan. Its very important to me, silly prob but thats how I feel

I didnt know they could do that Zoe...thats a lovely idea, I felt the same!

I may have to add that to my birth plan, steal your idea

 

[MissGobby]

tbh i dont know whether i would let my child take my fiance's or my surname.

obviously i would like my child to have my fiance's name as we are planning on getting married in the near future.

BUT... i am the last person to take our surname as my dad only has me and my aunt never had children, so it would be like my family 'surname' coming to an end!!!!

would probably end up taking his surname, even though its a little unusual -

Windle

 

[Londoner Claire]

I know this is not really about what to name your baby, but whos surname are you using for your baby if you are not married? Yours or your partners?

My partner has a bit of a funny surname and i want to use it because i am a bit of a traditionalist like that and i think his parents would appreciate it, but at the same time i dont want to use it because i dont want him/her to have the mickey taken out of them for the rest of there lives.

What would you do?

Well I was with Ryan's dad for 7 years and always believed that they should have their fathers name. 14 weeks after Ryan was born, his dad left us and now I really regret giving him his dad's name. I am at the moment trying to get it changed to mine, that's how he knows himself anyway, as I don't want him feeling different to Jade which her dad and myself have already agreed will have my surname and not his.

 

[meb]

i just wanted to add that in Jersey if you are not married you do not have a choice the baby will take mothers name and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it, so even if you have been together for years but never got married your child will have to have mothers name, then if you do get married you have the hassle of changing the name.

the whole system is really quite arcahic and barbaric!!

 

[Manda&Thomas]

my baby will have my oh name the whole of his name if its a boy (not what i want but hes got a shock coming to him if its a girl )
manda x

 

[trixipaws]

i have the same conundrum! i want the same name as my baby, i considered double-barrelling it but after posting a thread about it http://www.pregnancyforum.co.uk/forum/v ... highlight= i decided it would be a bit unfair to burden my child with such a long name. my boyf has since said he doesnt mind if we use my name, but i think he may hav said it in passing and perhaps change his mind when it comes down to it.

were considering BOTH changing to a new surname by deed poll b4 the baby is born so we hav a family name that we chose ourselves. the only snag with that is that i'm very close to my family so my surname means more to me than his does to him (his mum is dead and his dad is estranged, i think he actually hates him!)- but i guess i'd lose mine anyway if i ever did get married... which i havent completely ruled out...