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[clairescunny55]

not sure this is in the right place but here goes...

as you know im getting married on sat, well my hubby to be went to blackpool for his stag do, i completely and utterly trust him and his so called mate (who fancies me) has been textin me this morning asking if i knew what pete(hubby to be) had got up to at the weekend. I said no and he said 'it doesnt matter i'd better keep my mouth shut'

What a little sh*t stirrer! He's been texting me for a few months always pestering to come round when petes at work and i always tell him no, i keep thinking about telling his wife (who is also my best friend and bridesmaid) but would she believe me or him?

He's cheated on her several times and i feel guilty because she doesnt know he's been pestering me. Anyway i've sent him a text back basically saying if he doesnt leave me alone i will tell his wife. I've told my Oh who would say something to him but is also concerend it would ruin friendships.

Sorry had to get that off my chest its been building up for a while! Just want to know what you would all do, if anything.
thanks xx

 

[mum2be?]

I would tell him to stop or u will show her the messages

 

[skairdykat]

If she was my best friend I would have told her a long time ago. Save the messages and show her hun. If you were in her shoes wouldn't you want to know?

 

[leckershell]

I would let her know, or at least suggest something is up and get her to raise it with him. If he still denies it to her, I'd show her the messages. Imagine how hurt she would feel if she found out through someone else

tough position to be in though. hugs to you

 

[Urchin]

If I was her I would want to know.

he sounds like a right tosser, you don't need friends like that.

 

[jenna]

id tell your friend, the longer you leave it the worse it'll be.

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

This guy has not only cheated on his wife, but is trying it on with his friends wife - that just goes beyond the pale IMO and he doesnt deserve to have any of his friendships protected, he made his bed!

Hes also obviously trying to make you doubt your own relationship, for his own benefit, by hinting at what your hubby-to-be "supposedly" got up to. Im guessing you already know not to pay any attention and that this guy cant be trusted.

You need to tell your friend what her husband has been up to, its only fair babe. She may refuse to beleive you, it may well cause problems in your friendship, but not as much than if she found out on her own and that you had always known.

Perhaps wait till after your wedding though, forget about it for now and dont let any of it interfere with your special day, then afterwards - you'll know when its the right time to tell her

 

[jayla's mummy]

keep the textes hun and show her, shed have to believe you.
good luck
xnatx

 

[Robyn_]

let her know whats been going on, youve got the proof,

 

[liongirlsroar]

deffo, tell her but yea after yr big day or it will ruin it and its not yr fault. Your friend deserves better she will thank you for it in the long run ...just my thoughts, good luck x

 

[cherelle]

definately i say tell your friend, ive been in the position of having to tell a friend about the guy she loved cheating and at first she didnt believe me and did take it out on me but in the end the truth came out and she thanked me. Good friends always prevail over cheating men! x