Stopping TTC to avoid giving birth at certain time

[Birdie]

This feels like an odd thing to post on a forum where people might be struggling TTC but I wondered if anyone ever stopped TTC on a certain month to avoid the possibility of giving birth at a time they didn't want? I never considered it with my first and ended up having an August baby, which given any choice I would have avoided... I know a couple of people in real life have done it but just wondered if anyone else here ever thought about avoiding summer or Christmas babies or having siblings with same/similar birthdays etc?

 

[Emily0505]

I did previously- didn't want another August baby and didn't want a Christmas baby either.

However since I had my miscarriage, I don't care anymore.

I just want a baby.

XX

 

[MrsS15]

Myself, hubby, son and mother in law are all September so we always said we'd prefer not to have another September baby. But now like Emily, following a m/c and being 7 months down the line I don't care. I just want a baby! Xx

 

[fairyprincess]

Before TTC we always 'planned' that we would like a September baby- DH is a teacher and it was more him than me. Then we started TTC earlier than we though because we didn't want to wait any longer. Now we're facing problems we've realised we can't plan it and now I couldn't care less as long as I get pregnant and the baby is healthy x

 

[Birdie]

Thank you for your thoughts ladies.... yes, I think it's totally & completely understandable to not put up any barriers if you have suffered a m/c or serious fertility issues, wishing you all lots of .... but it is very interesting & reassuring to me that the thought had at least crossed your minds at some point.

I feel really torn about TTC in Dec as the EDD would be v early in Sept - which obviously means another late August birth is very possible... but as we have tried for a quite a few months now with no success, the chances of even falling pg feel very small anyway & it also seems silly to miss a month of trying.... But I *REALLY* want to avoid August.... My DH thinks I'm bonkers! But waiting just 4 weeks could solve this problem entirely, which seems such a small compromise. On the other hand if we weren't pregnant by next Autumn I know I wouldn't give 2 hoots....

 

[Emily0505]

Maybe just ntnp in Dec?

So don't opk, temp or time sex around ov, just do it when you fancy but don't use contraception.

XX

 

[Mrs M]

I always said I didn't want a Xmas baby but after trying for a while we decided not to miss a month! My daughter will be 6 on Xmas Eve! Ha ha! Ds was born on May 29th, DH is June 2nd, and this baby is due June 14! They're all close but it's not as close as dd so I'm not bothered!

 

[phonixgirl]

Before trying, I would have ideally avoided August. (I trained to be a teacher and come from a family of headteachers).

After seven years though, we don't care and would love a baby born any month. X

 

[MrsS15]

My friend is convinced I'll have a September baby. Months ago I used to say you bloody better not be right but now I really hope she is!! Only other downfall is being heavily pregnant the whole of the summer, man thats tough!!

Birdie, you know you'll end up falling pregnant in the next 4 weeks xx

 

[Birdie]

Hehe! Would be nice in theory Emily but I know exactly when I ovulate without opks & my sex drive is so low that either we wouldn't have sex at all or the only time I naturally want it is during ovulation... so I dont think there would be much ntnp to it :/

 

[Emily0505]

In the same hun! I get really bad ovulation pains so I know exactly when I ov! I could never relax about it or ntnp.

I'm like ouch that bloody hurts- bring me chocolate and sperm immediately!!

Haha!!

XX

 

[Birdie]

Birdie, you know you'll end up falling pregnant in the next 4 weeks xx

I think it's the 'sods law'-ness of it that freaks me out a bit actually.... I can actually imagining this happening as I have reservations about it! Haha!

I was heavily pregnant during the heatwave summer of 2013 too and agree that I don't relish the idea... but I'd be more fixated on the baby arriving after 31st August!

 

[Birdie]

..... I'm like ouch that bloody hurts- bring me chocolate and sperm immediately!!

Hahaha!!! That made me LOL!!!

 

[Birdie]

After seven years though, we don't care and would love a baby born any month. X

I can completely understand this phonixgirl - wishing you a shed load of

 

[fairyprincess]

..... I'm like ouch that bloody hurts- bring me chocolate and sperm immediately!!

Hahaha!!! That made me LOL!!!

Me too lmao! x

 

[snowbee]

I would ideally like to avoid a Christmas baby, every one I know who has their birthdays near Christmas hates it.

However we have been ttc for so long and there is no guarantee the baby wouldn't be very early and arrive at Christmas anyway, so you would have avoid a whole lot of months so in a word, no, we won't be stopping ttc.

And please please please can I have a bfp for Christmas!

 

[phonixgirl]

Ah yeah, Christmas... My DH is a December baby and all of his six(!) brothers were winter babies.

 

[sammielou]

We took a 2 month break from ttc due to me needing to take some medication. The meds destroyed my sex drive so there was no sex of any sort for those two months. The third month we weren't really trying but didn't use any contraceptive either.

My first ever BFP came from that third cycle. Maybe taking a month off will prove to be a help to your journey overall. Give the OH a break too (I know mine appreciated the pressure being off him for a few weeks, and not have me sobbing my eyes out as soon as AF arrived and ruined my hopes for another month).

 

[PrincessPeanut]

I've thought about it too and have similar ideas to August babies etc. My DD was due 6th October but came along early on 8th September. She is the most educated 4 year old I know and I've been told by her nursery teachers she's the brightest of her age group. However her age group are now in school full time and she's still in nursery because she was 8 days past the cut off. I do feel like she's been held back and has always been due to her always being a bit older.

However, after 4 years of TTC number 2 and a MC I don't give a rats arse what season I'd have to endure through pregnancy, what time of year the baby is born, I just want a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby. Shortfalls in education/Christmas birthdays etc. I am more than happy to spend a life time making up for.

PP xXx

 

[LyndseyB]

i always wanted a summer baby, mostly because I hate that my birthday is relatively close to Xmas (mid Nov) and I think they'd appreciate a summer birthday and also because most of my families birthdays are aroundXmas so it'd be good for a bit of a gap from everyone else, however I have just miscarried a would-have-been June baby and getting pregnant in the next few months would mean an Xmas baby but I am no longer bothered in the slightest as I just want to be a mum.. So same as most ladies who have posted, this was interesting to read so thank youxx