lisey
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Right a bit of a long story but I can't stop crying today. I have a son with severe autism, this week he hasnt been sleeping well so it could be contributing to my emotions.
Today at work I had a run in with my work colleague. We work in childcare. I am not usually confrontational but I couldnt let it go.
We have a child in my setting with autism and my colleague said "can't we just tie him to a chair"...she said it jokingly but I dont care, its wrong. I stayed calm but then she was going on about his Mum having it easy as she has help etc. I explained its not easy to have a child with a disability and she said that having a child with autism is just the same as having to look after whatever children you have (she means children that dont have additional needs). She went on how its not difficult, its the same and really basically demeaned every hard day and night I have with my son. She said everyone will see it differently and I said no, it is what it is, its hard-no question about it. I tried to explain things and I got upset cos its such an emotional thing for me. I went out of the room and my boss said that the other one had apologised and "at least shes apologised and come forward with that". My boss also went on to tell me "people have it alot worse than you"...Now, this is true, I aknowledge that but my son is severe and has various other issues too and its alot for me sometimes. I feel like I am being made out to be overreacting. I really don't feel like I can work with these people anymore.
I don't have anyone I can put in a complaint about it as my manager is the top person and she doesnt care, she makes comments like this too.
I just needed to get it out and was hoping someone knew who I go to above my manager about these kinds of things. You cant as a childcare provider say you want to tie a child to a chair cos they have autism and wont sit still, joking or not, its unacceptable. And am I overreacting about her comments to me about disabilities? x
Today at work I had a run in with my work colleague. We work in childcare. I am not usually confrontational but I couldnt let it go.
We have a child in my setting with autism and my colleague said "can't we just tie him to a chair"...she said it jokingly but I dont care, its wrong. I stayed calm but then she was going on about his Mum having it easy as she has help etc. I explained its not easy to have a child with a disability and she said that having a child with autism is just the same as having to look after whatever children you have (she means children that dont have additional needs). She went on how its not difficult, its the same and really basically demeaned every hard day and night I have with my son. She said everyone will see it differently and I said no, it is what it is, its hard-no question about it. I tried to explain things and I got upset cos its such an emotional thing for me. I went out of the room and my boss said that the other one had apologised and "at least shes apologised and come forward with that". My boss also went on to tell me "people have it alot worse than you"...Now, this is true, I aknowledge that but my son is severe and has various other issues too and its alot for me sometimes. I feel like I am being made out to be overreacting. I really don't feel like I can work with these people anymore.
I don't have anyone I can put in a complaint about it as my manager is the top person and she doesnt care, she makes comments like this too.
I just needed to get it out and was hoping someone knew who I go to above my manager about these kinds of things. You cant as a childcare provider say you want to tie a child to a chair cos they have autism and wont sit still, joking or not, its unacceptable. And am I overreacting about her comments to me about disabilities? x
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