So unfair

[leean10]

Hi ladies,

I am new to this forum and I have recently had a mmc. I was 11 weeks but the heartbeat stopped at 7w 3d (one week after my first scan when I saw the heartbeat).

I am feeling very emotional today as I think I am due to get my period when I have been trying so hard to get pg again.

Am I being a stupid, emotional female?

Lee-Ann x

 

[Katkin72]

Hi Lee-Ann, I am so so sorry to hear about your MC - I haven't been through what you have experienced but didn't want to just read and run. Sending lots of love and big hugs to you at this heartbreaking time xxxxx

 

[leean10]

Thank you KatKin.

I do feel a bit silly about crying over an impending af but this was my 3rd mc in a row and I am starting to think that I will never be a mum when I want to be so badly.

Stupid, feminine hormones make us all gibbering heaps sometimes.

Lee-Ann xx

 

[NatEvz]

Hi hun, you are not being stupid at all and you have every right to be emotional. I had a mmc in december, i found out when i should have been almost 13 weeks pregnant, all my scan showed was a collapsing sac of 6 weeks gestation. I then suffered a chemical pregnancy in february, so i do know on some level how you feel. The hurt never goes away but day by day the pain does get easier. Be kind to yourself huni xxx

My piece of shit galaxy ace

 

[Katkin72]

Hi Lee-Ann, I second what NatEvz said - you are definately not being stupid, you are grieving and are bound to be emotional. Look after yourself. Love and hugs Kath xxx

 

[leean10]

It has been 7 weeks now and I feel like I should have got over it by now and I have been but the past couple of days I have been really tearful and grumpy.

I just wish my af would arrive and I could start again next month.

Thanks for the reassurance that I am not being completely irrational and pathetic and I am sorry for your loss too nat, it really is so unfair x

 

[kra0]

I'm so sorry for your loss personally I found it got slightly easier when af came but the pain was still there. There's a few lovely ladies on here who have suffered 3+ losses and are now either a mummy or are pregnant so don't give up hope yet xxxx

 

[leean10]

I thought I was pregnant but had a HCG blood test yesterday and it was 0.7 but my af is showing no signs of coming and so I am not sure if I am or if my body is playing tricks on me x

 

[laurat]

Im so sorry honey, this will be a really emotional time! You will need to take time to grueve and take care of yourself! Big HUg!!

 

[JJ Mum]

So sorry hun, I had a mmc at 11 weeks too and baby had died at 9 weeks by scan. Your so normal to be emotional and all over the shop, it's only been 7 weeks. You will get good days and bad days , but it gets easier and over time you get less and less bad days. Some days you will get emotional over something completly small , but you connect it with your pregnancy, and yourll get set off again, your'll just find you own way of coping with these blips that's all, and then you can manage.

I like you felt a desperate need to remain pregnant, so when that first period after my D&C arrived , I was gutted and it hit me all over again. But once it arrived, I actually found it useful as I knew TTC was back on and I had something tangible to throw myself into again and felt loads better, hope you do too.

I fell preg that next month (don't think I ovulated that first month anyway in hindsight), so wishing you a swift bfp too. (watch out to ttc over a longer fertile period/window, my ovulation day was later by 3 days, mmc can change you cycle).

Good luck X

 

[tinselcat]

Hi leean

You're totally not being stupid, it's so horrible this

I never used to be bothered about my periods but after I lost my first baby I'd find myself crying for no reason 2 days before my period was due every month for over a year - I think the hormones just do things to us we can't understand but it's not you, it's natural

 

[mishi]

You're not being stupid honey, I'm a mess every month whe period comes as in my head I shouldn't be having one.xx

 

[lizsamuel80]

I got my first period after my second MC at a wedding. A few days before I had two positives on HPT. We weren't trying (burst condom) and my bloods had been neg two weeks before the pos HPT so I don't know what that was all about. I've tried not to think about it. I was a wreck at the reception.

 

[MrsCow]

Oh lovely, dont be so hard on urself, its still really early days. I mc in jan and still can get me choked up, it may take a little while for ur body to get back to normal, i think its a masive thing for anybody to become pg and it takes time for ur body to reset itself. When af does arrive it will give u something positive to focus on as u can ttc if u want to. good luck and so sorry xx

 

[leean10]

Hi ladies,

Thank you all for your lovely words.

I had a period 3 weeks after my d&c, cramping etc the lot and I knew my body was back on track.

I was due on over the weekend and as of today there has been nothing except some thick, creamy discharge (sorry tmi).

What do you ladies think? Could I be pregnant again?

xx

 

[dyscochick]

its always possible hun! I hope for your sake you are! are you going to test? let us know how you get on! xxxx