So Confused

[Phoenix0306]

The docs have done loads of blood tests as unfortunately my medical history is not too brilliant, but have just been told to take things easy and listen to my body.

At the moment it just saying "ouch" a lot lol

Thanks again for all the advice though hunni

 

[Jayceesmumma]

I'm sorry but that's awful!! How would him having a girlfriend tip her over the edge?! Seriously, fuck him!!! That's awful!!! Is he happy to just let you go??!! YOU are the one that doesn't need crap right now I can't believe he's said that!! I'm so sorry hun u must be so upset at least u know him for what he is now rather than later on!! How long have u been with him??

 

[Phoenix0306]

He not happy about it at all!!!!!

Known him for about 24 years in total,but only been together on and off for9 months.

He keeps saying he will tell her when the time is right but I not prepared to wait any longer, maybe am being unreasonable but that is how I feel.

Who knows what will happen, but at least this way I can be honest with myself.

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Yeah defo be true to yourself.. So you've known him probably longer than this friend of his.. Regardless if he loves you he will tell her. I don't see how it will tip her over the edge.. Knowing her friend is happy?! Unless she has feelings for him.. You don't need this right now and you should be his priority!
I don't know what to suggest babe I know I'd be going mental..!!

 

[Phoenix0306]

We trying to be civil...........not easy when he telling me he loves me every 5 minutes lol

Told him he knows what he has to do if he wants me back and I am not backing down from this!!!!!

So I guess it just up to him who turns out to be the most important person in his life

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Defo don't back down you need to know where you stand.. I'm still shocked he hasn't told her.. Have you asked him why it will tip her over the edge?? That would be my main thought!

 

[Froslass]

Hey Hun, this might sound a bit harsh, but are you sure she's definitely and Ex? X

I don't see why he wouldn't tell her if she's his friend, does she even know youre together? X sounds a bit odd to me, but maybe I've mis understood x

 

[Phoenix0306]

Yeah she is definitely an ex....I do know she has some issues with depression etc which he has always been there to help with.

Her children, grown up now, are doing everything they can to make sure she has a stressful life.....I can see why he is concerned as I have suffered from depression in the past......he is afraid that she will think she wont have anyone when he tells her about me and that might make her situation worse.

I know he loves me and is happy about the baby, but this is just making what should be a happy time, not so happy! I also know he is very concerned about my health as well, so all in all he got a lot on his mind as well.

Difficult situation but am sure will work itself out. Just venting about it on here makes it so much easier

Thanks to everyone on here

 

[Jayceesmumma]

You need to be number 1 right now.. You are carrying his unborn child.. Her kids have grown up.. I've suffered with depression for years.. So I understand.. But the only way it would affect her is if there are feelings there.. If there are then they shouldn't be so close.. As harsh as that sounds!! He's going to be a father soon he can't drop everything for her anymore so she needs to know to get used to it! It's just all too weird.. He needs to tell her, she needs to find someone else to support her coz he can't anymore! Id hate my oh talking to his ex partner and refusing to tell her about me and his child!

 

[Phoenix0306]

I know what you mean hun

I just had enough of arguing about it so am taking a back seat at the moment, he is there when I need to go to docs and hospital and always asking how I am feeling.

Will keep you posted though

 

[Jayceesmumma]

As long as ur ok babe