Right I have a few months to fully potty train an unwilling child - help!

[Rooster30]

Carnat, we're having similiar issues, it's ruddy frustrating. I've promised him new shoes once he's filled his reward chart and we're not getting anywhere fast. I wish I never made that bargain as he does need new shoes regardless of whether he uses the potty or not! Always bribe with chocolate or toys NOT necessities

 

[Emily0505]

100% success today! Not a single accident and a little boy who was willing to sit on his potty and do his wees and poos!!

Yaaay!!



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[Goat]

That's so great Emily! Well done Cam, he's getting the hang of it really quickly!!
We had our best day yet yesterday too, only 3 accidents but lots of successes including a successful code brown. We're going out shopping this morning so it'll be a real test!

 

[Violet]

Ah well done Cam

 

[Emily0505]

No accidents yesterday either

He's still not asking for his potty, I'm prompting him each time but I'm sure he'll start asking soon enough. He will still point blank refuse to sit on it sometimes and will throw it across the room but will sit on it when he needs to go it seems.

So far so good.

Hopefully today is the same!

Goat, leaving the house with an un-nappied toddler is so scary!! I try and get him to go to the toilet just before we go out and then try and get home asap! I do take the potty with me and have a puppy training pad on his car seat just in case!!

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[CARNAT22]

Well done Cam!!!

James did a poo in his sleep and it didn't even wake him (it wasn't small either!!) so it's still looking like we're miles away from successful toilet training.

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[Emily0505]

Occasionally Cam would kick up a fuss if he had a dirty nappy but generally he was pretty happy to mooch about in his own excrement!!

I have no idea how you would go about getting them night time dry?? Not a clue!

What method are you trying with James?

Touch wood, Cam seems to have picked it up really quickly (just asked for his potty for the first time!) I'm not sure if it's just because he was ready for it out of its my exceptional potty training skills (read as, trying what I think will work and hoping for the best!)This is what I've done:

Went on a special trip to buy a potty and bought stickers to decorate it (dinosaurs of course!) I've had the potty around for months now and he's used it sporadically. We went on a shopping trip to buy big boy pants pants (dinosaurs of course!) and together we made a sticker chart for him. When I say together he scribbled a bit of yellow in a box and me and hubby did the rest! We also let him pick some special hand wash too. We went cold turkey and put pants on in the day and pull ups at night only. Day one was horrendous! But, he's made progress each day since then and is on day three accident free now. I ask him regularly if he needs to go and I can now tell sometimes as he holds his willy and crosses his legs. High fives, stickers and choccy buttons for getting it right, plus the excitement of getting to fish it down the toilet and use his new handc wash when he gets it right and explaining that he needs to do it in the potty when he had an accident.

James loves planets and space doesn't he, so I would try finding space themed pants, stickers etc as he might be a bit more into it if it involves something that he's interested in?

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[Goat]

Cam is doing so well Emily! Well done both of you!!

We had a successful trip out yesterday. I brought the potty with me and asked her every 30 mins if she needed to go. I stopped in mothercare and took her to the baby room, got her potty out and sat her on it whilst I fed her sister. Nothing. Did more shopping then went to Costa and took her in the toilet there, sat in the stifling room with a whingy baby and worrying our buggy and shopping was going to get stolen...nothing. Carried on shopping then on the way back we went to mothercare again. Success!! She weed in it! Lots of high fives, choc raisin and the bought her a bouncy ball. Then went for lunch and she went again in the potty in the toilet!

Today so far she's done fab, so far no accidents! She's told me a couple of times she needs to go and on the last occasion I was outside battling our huge oversized umbrella and in the meantime she ran inside, grabbed the potty, brought it out and weed in it. It was amazing!

We've pretty much what you've done Emily. Though I did try it a couple of months ago and she point blank refused to go!! Just screamed blue murder for her nappy. This time she seemed interested so I went for it like you did and each day has shown progress. However it's my sisters wedding tomorrow and she's a bridesmaid.....what do I do??? xxx

 

[littlemonkey]

Goat I would stick here's in a nappy just until the wedding is over and the photos taken. Then at least you can change her clothes if she has an accident. I'm going to start making a proper go of this potty training lark this week. I'm inspired by the positive stories on here! My OH keeps telling me I need to embrace mess cos I keep complaining about not doing things with our boys cos it's too messy. I guess I'm just going to have to embrace the mess of potty training too. Not sure how I'm meant to clean it all up though!!!

 

[CARNAT22]

I have several people close to me who have potty trained more than one [my sis and two of my SIL's have potty trained 2 kids a piece] and the overriding advice I have been given by them all is to not force it.

My sister feels she tried to train her eldest too early (2.5) - cue lots of accidents and stress, but with her second she left it until he was older (3) and he was dry daytime within a few days and nighttime within a week.

James has no comprehension before he goes for a wee, but can tell me after. With poo's its hard as he can tell me he needs one but it can be the next day - 24h + - when he actually goes.... he only poo's twice a week

I am not going to stress yet. Current plan is lots of nappy off time and watching me wee and poo... I poo when OH goes to work !!

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[Emily0505]

Ah yes pooing with an audience!

Then having to look at it.

Then having lo proclaim at the top of his voice 'Mummy you done a huge poo!'

Good times!!

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[Goat]

Thanks Littlemonkey. I went with nappies all day as it was one less stress. I was worried it might cause a regression but luckily yesterday she was fine. We were at my mums house for a post wedding lunch and whilst we were in the garden she went inside to where the potty was and did both wee and poo! Then came running over and told everyone, all proud of herself. Today we went to play group for the first time since before we started potty training and I asked her if she needed to go and she said yes, took her to the little kiddies loo and she sat on it and weed in there! I have to get one if those toilet clip ins for ours as she's quite scared to sit on it.xx

 

[Emily0505]

AWW clever girly!!

Can has had one accident in the last five days.

He isn't great at asking to go though and certainly wouldn't take himself off to use the potty, but he's getting there.

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[CARNAT22]

We've still made absolutely zero progress. He has a few hours nappy off time a day (an hour in morning and then again in afternoon - only time we're indoors and awake) and he just doesn't wee or else he ends up doing it on the floor. We've just paid over 2k for new carpets when we moved so its extra frustrating for him to just pee. He does it and then says "mummy clean it". I'm finding it so tough to be honest.

He wees on carpet every 3rd or 4th nappy off time and the rest he doesn't wee at all.

We've been doing it on and off for weeks and not one wee on potty.

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[Emily0505]

I'm amazed at how long they can hold for!!

Cam needs a wee. He's been holding his Willy on and off for the last hour and I'm not sure but I think he might have been dry overnight too. His pull ups was very light when I took it off!! I don't get how he's holding it, especially if he was dry overnight!!!

James will get there hun, maybe he just needs a bit more time. I can imagine how frustrating it is though, especially when you are on a deadline.

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[Rooster30]

My son holds it in too. Yesterday morning we had nappy off time and he turned into a monster and I lost all my patience and sent him to his room for a very early nap time. Whilst he napped I decided no more to potty training for the time being. I'm leaving it for a month as it obviously is not working just yet. Ours tempers shouldn't be getting so flared. The positives I can take from trying is that he DOES KNOW when he needs to wee and poo. My mum reckons he just needs more time, especially with the arrival of his little sister, he's completely out of whack and needs his nappy security blanket for now. I;m going with that anyway.

Still, if he isn't dry my November then i'm just going to have to work through the tantrums.

 

[Goat]

Rooster that sounds exactly like how my daughter was a month ago. It just wasn't worth persevering. I put the potty away and out of sight until one day I had to take it out if the cupboard I'd lobbed it in when I was at the end of my tether. She saw it and asked what it was so I pounced on the opportunity and it seems to have worked ok so far. So i definitely think when they're ready they'll be happy(ish) to go along with it.
She had an accident yesterday and today she's refusing to poo...lovely.x

 

[Emily0505]

I've hated potty training and I've had it pretty easy!

Cam asked me for it today with no promoting from me which is great progress.

They'll all do it when they are good and ready.

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[CARNAT22]

I think we're gonna give it a break. More for my own sanity than anything else.

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[Emily0505]

Sounds like a good idea hun.

No point in stressing over it.

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