Reserved?!!

[inky]

Ok, so my SIL is being a complete nightmare at the moment about all sorts of stuff, but OH and I are trying to rise above it. I think she's jealous about the baby which doesn't help. anyway, we were talking names with MIL and we told her the girls name we had chosen. SIL then pipes up that we can't use that name because if she has a girl in the future then she has already 'reserved' it. WTF?! She didn't speak to us for the rest of the afternoon and made it clear meant it. Oh reckons we should do as she says and think of another name but I'm furious! Do you think I should insist? She might never even havea
a baby girl!

 

[AugustMum]

I really dont think you can 'reserve' names. What if you were keeping the name a secret and picked the name she wanted but by that point you had already used it. She'd just have to lump it. I think if you like it, and want to use it, then feel free! Like you say, she might never have a girl

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

Keep the name!! It's not as if you've chosen it to dispite her, you didn't know she liked the name!!

 

[becks20]

Id use it still, but then i know what its like having to change my name because of family members having same/similar names. But seems shes not even pregnant then i wouldnt worry too much about it unless it would cause a big family feud x

 

[Emmamb]

Keep it! I always make the mistake of letting other ppl influence wot names I've choose,esp the girls names so I'm not gonna tell any1 this time. Xxx

 

[MrsR]

Keep it! I think it'd be a different thing if she was expecting as well and had told you that she had chosen that name and you then went out of your way to use it but she's not pg and you've not discussed names with her previously! She kneeds to grow up!

 

[inky]

no, she's not pregnant, she's got a little boy and I know she would like another baby but that's it. She's just being difficult in any way she can at the moment it seems, but I'm glad you think I'm right to use the name if I want to. We might change our mind, or it might be a boy! I was just so shocked she made such an issue of it! I mean, ignoring us for a whole afternoon! Funny really, she needs to grow up!

 

[Annie050408]

Ignore her and call your baby what you want to call her. People can be so daft and as my pregnancy progresses I have to say I am losing patience with people like that and their nonsense!!

 

[Mrs_B]

Oh dear that's very sex and the city! Lol. I think you should keep it. Cheek of her!

I love the name Amber, but one of hubby's friends' daughter is called that so because it has been used I wont.

 

[kiki]

Keep the name!!

 

[katietateypot]

I AGREE!!
You didn't even know she liked the name when you picked it so don't feel bad or like you should be the ones to change when she isnt even pregnant herself.

Like you say you may still have a boy but thats not the point, don't feel bad for using a name you and your OH have picked for your LO!!!

Katie xxxx

 

[Sam's Mum]

I can't believe she would do that! I'd be so upset if I loved a name and someone said that to me - especially as I'd still want to use it but I think I'd still feel guilty telling people, even with no reason to at all. You can't reserve a name!!!

 

[sexyamy2005]

ive gota agree, go for the name,

my SIL wanted us to go for a "flower" name if we have a girl, her lil girl is "jasmine" there dog is rosie & our dog is daisy, purly cos i liked the name, lol

i dont fancy a flower name,

we like Paige & Lucy if its a girl and prob will go for one of these, not to spite her, but cos we have our own minds and wana pick what we want

x

 

[JJ Mum]

Use the name, if she was preg and ahead of you then maybee things would be different, but to theorise about a future fictional baby, she may change her mind anyway even if she did have a girl. My younger brother (as a kid - so dead strange!) always went on about how he would love a baby girl, just one called Zoe. When my sister and I had kids we kept well away from it, ( don't think either of us were really taken with it anyway) and then he grew up and had a baby girl, (only one child so far!) and his wife didn't like the name! so they went with chloe instead, so after all that. Your pregnant - you choose and no feeling bad X

 

[LouiseB]

Well between me and my friends/family you can't reserve names.

First come first served.

If you don't want someone to have "your name" you don't tell people about it.

I mean, don't use it just to get on her bad side, but if it is the name you love you should go for it

What is the name btw?

 

[inky]

We've decided we're going to use it if we have a girl, it's not to get on her bad side, she's known for ages that we would choose it (when she was pregnant with her son I remember saying that we would choose Violet for a girl).

There's good reason behind it too, my nans parents died when she was just a baby, and her eldest sister, Violet, raised her as her own. Violet was only 12 at the time when their parents died. She raised my nan, and her two other sisters, but died of breast cancer at the age of 32 and never got to have any children of her own - apparently she felt like she had already done the 'mum' thing and was finally starting to enjoy life. I never even knew anything about her until my nan died a few years ago, and I thought that was so sad that I wanted to do something in the future to at least carry her name on.

SIL knows all of this and still wanted to kick up a stink. Nice girl eh?

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

It stinks of jealousy to me and this is her way of trying to command some control - I say balls to her; call your baby what the heck you like! There's no law against it and she should be happy for you

 

[JJ Mum]

Fantastic name inky, you stick to your guns

 

[LouiseB]

Oh i love the name Violet and i love the story attached to it

I hope you have a girl now - the story makes it all the more special.

It wasn't very nice of your SIL to make a stink.