Remembering your baby
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I have 4 shooting stars (before I had my last 2 mc's this year) so I may get another one on the other wrist to remember them all. It has a meaning for me and I look at it when I feel sad and it really does help me xx
lizsamuel80
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I have angels on my Pandora bracelet.
I also wrote a letter after my second loss.
To my Dearest Baby,
I love you with all my heart, with every ounce of my being.
I’m so sorry I could not protect you. I did everything I could to make sure you would feel the wind on your face, see the world with your eyes and live a life that is full.
I’m going to miss you so much. I’m going to miss hearing your heartbeat as I never got the chance, feeling you move and squirm inside me and rubbing my ribs when you kick too hard. I wish that I would feel the pain of labour, I would have done it for you because I love you unconditionally. Just to hear you cry for the first time would have made my soul fly, to look in those eyes and know that I am yours and you are mine. I would have protected you with all my might. I would have died for you if it meant you could live.
I’m never going to see James and Lilly’s faces light up when they get to feel you through my belly. They will never get to show and teach you all they have learnt. You would have been protected by them. They would have loved you just as much as I do.
You’ll never get to meet your father the sweetest man I have ever met. He would have lifted you high on his shoulders whenever you got tired. He would have taught you so many wonderful things. You would have joined your siblings in the centre of his universe. And you would have repaid him in full and more simply with a smile every time he walked through the door.
Please know that even though we knew about you for a few short weeks you were always loved. Please understand that I must stay here and look after your family, the people who would have been your home. Remember I will think of you everyday for the rest of my existence. And know we will meet some time, somewhere in the distant future.
I LOVE you my little one always and forever,
Mummy.
I also wrote a letter after my second loss.
To my Dearest Baby,
I love you with all my heart, with every ounce of my being.
I’m so sorry I could not protect you. I did everything I could to make sure you would feel the wind on your face, see the world with your eyes and live a life that is full.
I’m going to miss you so much. I’m going to miss hearing your heartbeat as I never got the chance, feeling you move and squirm inside me and rubbing my ribs when you kick too hard. I wish that I would feel the pain of labour, I would have done it for you because I love you unconditionally. Just to hear you cry for the first time would have made my soul fly, to look in those eyes and know that I am yours and you are mine. I would have protected you with all my might. I would have died for you if it meant you could live.
I’m never going to see James and Lilly’s faces light up when they get to feel you through my belly. They will never get to show and teach you all they have learnt. You would have been protected by them. They would have loved you just as much as I do.
You’ll never get to meet your father the sweetest man I have ever met. He would have lifted you high on his shoulders whenever you got tired. He would have taught you so many wonderful things. You would have joined your siblings in the centre of his universe. And you would have repaid him in full and more simply with a smile every time he walked through the door.
Please know that even though we knew about you for a few short weeks you were always loved. Please understand that I must stay here and look after your family, the people who would have been your home. Remember I will think of you everyday for the rest of my existence. And know we will meet some time, somewhere in the distant future.
I LOVE you my little one always and forever,
Mummy.
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I cried too.
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Well we had one really poor scan image
I was desperately hoping everything would be okay and I could make my husband his first fathers day card
I still made one, its just not as happy an occasion as it should be.
The card will last as a loving memory though x
I was desperately hoping everything would be okay and I could make my husband his first fathers day card
I still made one, its just not as happy an occasion as it should be.
The card will last as a loving memory though x
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Daley you can have pot roses ? Then your mum can take it with her?
Mind you if we ever moved , my rose would be listed as notstaying on particulars.
I went to a garden centre specialising in roses on my due date that first year sept 28th 2010. The only rose in flower caught my eye, lovely bright yellow, as at 12 weeks we did not know the gender. It is called "sweet rememberance" so after that i knew i had to buy it! I dont worry about natural things happening to it, as with a name i can get another one the same name if worst should happen, it happened to my baby afterall.
It actually always flowers over march 12th when i lost angel as well which is lovely.
I want3 - its thorney so kids dont touch it!! I planted blue forget me nots underneath it in a circle and theyve always come back every year.
When i had my forever baby afterwards devon, we went back on mothersday ( it had been 2 days after my loss the prev year) and released balloons together in my local park. one blue one pink, devon let them go up to his lost sibling that meant he had lived, and i have piccys , it was perfect.
I have got an angel birthstone bookmark for sept i was given and it came in my baby bag when i had devon , always there xx
However you remember your baby will be special
Mind you if we ever moved , my rose would be listed as notstaying on particulars.
I went to a garden centre specialising in roses on my due date that first year sept 28th 2010. The only rose in flower caught my eye, lovely bright yellow, as at 12 weeks we did not know the gender. It is called "sweet rememberance" so after that i knew i had to buy it! I dont worry about natural things happening to it, as with a name i can get another one the same name if worst should happen, it happened to my baby afterall.
It actually always flowers over march 12th when i lost angel as well which is lovely.
I want3 - its thorney so kids dont touch it!! I planted blue forget me nots underneath it in a circle and theyve always come back every year.
When i had my forever baby afterwards devon, we went back on mothersday ( it had been 2 days after my loss the prev year) and released balloons together in my local park. one blue one pink, devon let them go up to his lost sibling that meant he had lived, and i have piccys , it was perfect.
I have got an angel birthstone bookmark for sept i was given and it came in my baby bag when i had devon , always there xx
However you remember your baby will be special
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I have a photo the nurse gave me at 6 and half weeks in a nice frame. I was going to get a tattoo, but I've decided to wait till after I've had a baby, as it will say "After every storm, there is a rainbow of hope" I've designed it, just waiting for a sticky bean.
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I had a lovely handmade congratulations on your pregnancy from my family so I kept it and its inside a photo frame behind a picture of my nan who is no longer with us, although its not on display to see the card it will always be there xx
I planted two plants in my garden. Also I wrote the second half of this poem on some flowers for Emily's cremation and always think of the words particularly the part about the wind and the birds as we called her "our beautiful little bird".
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the mornings hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
I am going to buy a pink windmill to put in the remembrance garden at the crematorium as I like to think each time the wind blows she is there on the breeze and is all around us. "I am a thousand winds that blow".
Such a beautiful poem.
xxxx
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the mornings hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
I am going to buy a pink windmill to put in the remembrance garden at the crematorium as I like to think each time the wind blows she is there on the breeze and is all around us. "I am a thousand winds that blow".
Such a beautiful poem.
xxxx
