Realistically what are my chances for this preg?

[buddabun]

I'm staying out of this one!!

But thanks for the info both of you. And thanks for the percentages - don't worry I don't take these things as hard fact, just wanted some vague idea of what to expect.

As far as the hospital goes, there is a private hospital down the road but their prices are outrageous. We will probably go to the crap one for scans etc and have the baby at the private one. There is some whole debate going on at the moment that the MOD should pay for us to go to the posh one as we are entitled to NHS-standard care (forgive me if I've mentioned this before) and since the crap one obviously isn't up to standard they should allow us to go to JPMC.

Now I have a friend who was due 3 days ago with her 4th. They checked with the chief medical officer (who has since been posted back to the UK and not yet replaced) BEFORE they got here and he said that she was entitled to go to the posh hospital. Then the day she was due some bloke here told them they'd have to pay for it themselves! It's over a grand (GBP) for a straightforward birth which she is not expecting as she has a touch of diabetes and has had to get blood shipped in especially from the UK (apparently Bruneians don't have AB blood here!!!). So they were fuming. It has since been sorted out but what an awful thing to happen!

So we are very hesitant about spending any money at JPMC as we may well have to shell out a lot of money in 9 months time.

Anyway this whole discussion is probably pointless as I took another HPT this morning and couldn't see a thing I am saving up my wee for a digi but I'm just really pissed off with my body for doing this again. I really hope the buddabump is hanging in there but the line has got fainter if not disappeared since weds

Thanks again for all your info ladies. And I am hoping that the chem. preg. means that this one has a decent chance of hanging in there. If it's even still developing

 

[beanie]

can we remember that this is a forum for support please

 

[buddabun]

thanks beanie (gorgeous avatar )

Well I took a digi test and it took a while but came back 'pregnant'. I am still aching etc and feeling slightly queasy so hopefully buddabean is sticking around.

I hate all this rollercoaster stuff. I haven't even had any bleeding and I'm a wreck!!!

Thanks guys for all your advice, info and support. It's good to know others are in the same situation

 

[buddabun]

God I had some serious heartache last night.

Got a big blob of blood. Bright red. Panic stations engaged. Luckily it was jsut that once (was only when I wiped but bright red and the size of a 50p!!) and have had nothing all night or this morning. But God that was it. I was convinced I'd lost bub number 2.

But hopefully buddabump is hanging in there. Don't feel sick at all today but still have a sore back + belly...

Can we please have some sticky vibes ladies? I am stressed to the max and going back to bed this morning as have been awake since 5!

 

[buddabun]

And the bleeding's started again. Red with small clots. I think it's happening again.


Oh well

 

[Waiting4amiracle]

So sorry hun have you done a hpt hun ?? xxxx

 

[buddabun]

no i havent. i figured if it shows up positive it won't prove anything. it would just be leftover hCG and I dont want to play with my emotions like that.

depending on how i feel i may take another in a couple of week's time if i feel any symptoms but i dont want to POAS any time ever again at the moment.

it has been 2 days and i have been in some serious period pain (nothing ectopic dont worry).

i dont know how people keep going through this. i have only had 2 (well, 1 and a half technically as this one is still going) and i feel utterly defeated and have no inclination to risk another miscarriage by getting pregnant. last time we were all for getting back to it straight away (it worked lol) but this time i just can't see the light. if we do get pregnant i will just be counting the days i have with my bean until it lets go and leaves again

 

[noodle1]

no i havent. i figured if it shows up positive it won't prove anything. it would just be leftover hCG and I dont want to play with my emotions like that.

depending on how i feel i may take another in a couple of week's time if i feel any symptoms but i dont want to POAS any time ever again at the moment.

it has been 2 days and i have been in some serious period pain (nothing ectopic dont worry).

i dont know how people keep going through this. i have only had 2 (well, 1 and a half technically as this one is still going) and i feel utterly defeated and have no inclination to risk another miscarriage by getting pregnant. last time we were all for getting back to it straight away (it worked lol) but this time i just can't see the light. if we do get pregnant i will just be counting the days i have with my bean until it lets go and leaves again

I know how hard this must be for you at the moment. It does get easier. I know you're not interested in trying again at the moment and personally I think that's a good idea right now, give your body time to recover from this. Never say never though, if you want something badly enough it will come eventually. I got my little boy after 3 miscarriages and an incredibly complicated pregnancy, I was a nervous wreck the whole way though and this time I am the same. You just have to take every day as it comes and hope for the best. PM me if you want to chat hun

 

[buddabun]

thanks noodle. i don't know how you had the strength to keep trying.

i am, at least, out of bed today, but i just don't ever feel like making that effort again only to keep going through this.

at least the bleeding is subsiding.