Questions about spreading the news...

[Surveyor]

I am not pregnant but am very curious about how people tackle sharing the big news. So here are a few questions:

* Other then your SO who did you tell first after getting your BFP?
* How did you tell them?
* Did anyone other than your SO know you were TTC?
* How did people react?
* Is there anything you would have done differently?

Thanks!
-Sev

 

[Shepherdess]

one of my best friends knew we were ttc. I told her a week after my husband and I found out. at 8 weeks we told our parents and siblings, I told another friend at 9 weeks. now 11 weeks and my husband is telling his friends today and I will tell mine after our scan next week

I don't do facebook or social media announcements; I just think they're lame, I like to tell all the important people in person (and a few over the phone)

so far every one has been over the moon

 

[Loula]

The 1st person other then my OH was my mum. We then told his mum and dad a couple of days later.
My mum was told over the phone as I needed to tell someone and we live on different counties. His mum and dad we told them before we were going out for the night l. His mum thought she was going to wed a hat as she's thought he had proposed. Obviously over he he moon though.
No-one knew we were ttcwe didn't feel the need to tell anyone as we weren't strictly ttcjust seeing what happens etc
People were haopy for us. My OH is the last of his friends to properly settle down.
Nope nothing of have done differently at all i was just grateful to get out of tri 1

 

[Hollyhotlips]

I am not pregnant but am very curious about how people tackle sharing the big news. So here are a few questions:

* Other then your SO who did you tell first after getting your BFP?
* How did you tell them?
* Did anyone other than your SO know you were TTC?
* How did people react?
* Is there anything you would have done differently?

Thanks!
-Sev

I told my Mum at 9 weeks with my first baby and after I had an early scan to make sure all was well. This pregnancy I only told my OH and then waited until 12 weeks to tell my family and work (I ended up telling work before family because I wanted to tell family face to face).
I told my Mum and my Dad by buying them a book for a young child and then writing in the inside cover 'please read this book to me in June 2014, love baby S'. I filmed them opening the book and still cherish their reactions. This time round I made a little card with my daughter showing a photo of a mum with their toddler and then the same drawing inside the card with a little bump and scan photo on the same mum. For my Dad I got my toddler to wear a t=shirt saying i'm going to be a big sister.....
No-one else knew we were TTC on either occasion.
Everyone was over the moon both times
nothing differently....

 

[JoeyClare]

With my first, I told Hubby (via text as I only tested to prove him wrong and he was off to work and was expecting me to message with the results!) then I messaged my best friend. After that I told my boss for work reasons. I was visibly pregnant from 6 weeks and had work colleagues asking me if I was!! I live 2.5 hours away from family and friends and wanted to tell them in person, so I was 8/9 weeks before my parents knew. Ideally I didn’t want to tell anyone till 12 weeks plus, but I was very bloated and it was Christmas so the avoiding alcohol and soft cheese was a bit of a giveaway.

This time, I knew I was going to test, but woke up at 4am needing the loo. I wanted to use fmu so did it turn and got my BFP. Couldn’t get back to sleep. Hubby said something to me, so I told him I was pregnant and he said something and went back to sleep. I messaged my friend in the morning and a Work colleague who were the only people who knew I was TTC. My work colleague had a feeling I was pregnant after I’d eaten my lunch by 8:30 2 days in a row. Told my mum and dad at 8 weeks when they came to visit with my daughter wearing a big sister t-shirt.

 

[MissKW]

We stopped ttc to get married and were to start trying again after the honeymoon, a coupe of months before the wedding hubby thought it would be a great idea not to use contraceptives and just have fun. As we tried for roughly a year before with no luck we thought nothing of it, it was just that one time. We joked afterwards and I told him I better not end up pregnant as I needed to fit into my dress and didn't want to risk anything bad happening over the wedding.
2 weeks later I did 3 cheapy tests the day before I was due on, I don't know why as I had no symptoms at all, all positive, I couldn't believe it! When hubby got home from work I came down and told him I had a bone to pick with him, he looked rather worried and confused so I handed him the tests. He started chuckling with a silly big grin on his face lol. We then had to change the honeymoon last minute as our original destination had a zika risk so we lost out on a lot of money and our dream honeymoon, I felt horrific on the wedding day and was really ill with constant migraines/ sickness/ dizzy spells/ feeling faint etc on our honeymoon so we didn't get to enjoy it much as I was stuck in bed a lot of the time (funny how when you are sick in public, on excursions etc people assume your hung over or something lol!). A taxi driver there told us it must be a boy as I was so ill (I threw up about 6 times in the taxi on the way back to the hotel), he was right! It was totally worth it though as we now finally have a healthy little boy cooking away at 25weeks
I then told one of my best friends by sending her a pic of the tests after telling her we had to change our holiday, she instantly called to tell me she was pregnant too but didn't want to tell me until after the wedding as she knew we had no luck when ttc, she's a month ahead of me so it has been nice to share the experience with her.
After that I was out shopping with my mum as she needed an outfit for the wedding. Whilst in the changing rooms I told her my friend was pregnant, then mentioned that she wasn't the only one... She congratulated me and gave me a hug. She told the rest of the family soon after lol. My hubby told his family but we both went to tell my MIL, we again said we had to change our holiday, when she asked why we mentioned the zika virus and she just didn't click on lol, so we just told her eventually, she was happy for us but I think concerned because of us loosing our first.
Everybody has been extremely supportive and we cant wait for him to arrive now!!

 

[Blank_Page]

Initially I told hubby first, then I told my best friend at 4 weeks once we got a few positive tests in a row. No one knew we were trying beforehand.

I wanted to keep it secret until 14 weeks but I was so ill (hyperemesis) my best friend at work guessed around 8 weeks, I then told my other work bestie a few days later. I told my sister at 6.5 weeks because she was also pregnant and very ill with it and i wanted her advice on how to cope with the dehydration. My parents visited around 10 weeks and took one look at me and guessed (my mum had been the same). We told Hubby's parents later that week at his masters graduation but we just said we had some news and his mum guessed. They then shared it with his siblings. Finally at 12 week scan we told other closest friends. I told my boss at 14 weeks because I'd taken so much sick leave and wanted them to understand why I was so ill and that I wasn't just slacking!

We announced it on Facebook after our 20 week scan. I'm happy with how we did everything. I was worried about telling people too early but I have been so unbelievably ill the entire time that it made it easier for people to understand why I wasn't up to socialising normally or why I needed time off work etc.

Everyone has been very happy for us, I wouldn't say we had any negative reactions

 

[KHTW]

With our DD I told hubby first, then my best friend, then my mum (I was flying to visit 1 day after finding out). We told OH's parents face to face after the 12 weeks scan.

This time OH also knew first, then best friends, then my mum (sadly over the phone) and OH's family also over the phone. We had to tell his family early on because they were about to book a family holiday cottage for July, bang on my due date

Everyone was very excited for us, both last time and now x

 

[kitty2016]

We told our closest friends that we were going to start trying after a holiday we had booked. Low and behold, they got pregnant within those 6 weeks. I regret telling them really. They are both extremely competitive and we should have guessed it would happen. (Obviously their pregnancy news was amazing but was completely out of the blue. They told us at 2 weeks pregnant so it just made me worry about me not being able to get pregnant etc)

We didn't tell anyone else until after the first 12 week scan. It was TORTURE! Not even my mum and I tell her everything!
This time I ended up telling mum by accident at 10 weeks but no one else knows. I have my scan tomorrow and can't wait to spill!

 

[PeanutButter]

Close family new we were ttc cos I had so many mcs and was in hospital for some of them. They new were pregnant with dd from the start but told everyone not to get hopes up. Then that was that.
This time only my oh and sister knows, not telling anyone else until I've had my gender scan, then I'm getting a 'oops we did it again, I'm going to be a big sister' baby grow for dd to announce, then I'm getting a vest saying its a boy or girl! And then will post on fb to people that I'm not close to but should know.
IDK how people will react to my new pregnancy. Cos I only had my dd is August lol x

 

[JemRose]

I remember the day I took my test and I ran in the living room screaming at my OH that I had a line! Took him about 2 hours to agree with me lol. We both sat and had a little cry, it was so lovely

I told my mum and step-dad the same day as we're very close, my mum (who is disabled) actually stood up, did a little dance, sat back down and clapped her hands for ages haha. My sister has a 1 year old little boy and I threw an amazing baby shower for her, so I rang her and said "do you remember the time that I did your baby shower? Looks like you're going to have to return the favour" - she was screaming and so excited for me! Then rang my brother and asked him if he could keep a secret? He had no idea that the pregnancy was coming and asked me if I was going to keep it!! Obviously a yes!

My whole family have been amazing with the news and kept it very secret, I'm really happy I told them so early as we're all so close.

My OH told his twin brother the same day, who proceeded to tell the whole world so I definitely regret that, as at almost 10 weeks pregnant, a lot of people know who we wouldn't want to know!! I feel like it jinxes things, I've had a lot of pain and some bleeding (an early scan showed HB and everything was fine) but I'm a worrier and hate that so many people know my special news without being able to tell them personally!

 

[Loveandpeace]

I got my BFP (first baby) exactly 3 weeks after my Mums funeral, so it was extremely bittersweet and emotional. It was also the day before DHS birthday so I wanted to be sure before telling him so went and bought more tests and a babys bib. Did several tests that day and all positive then one more the next morning. That afternoon I gave DH one more birthday present with a baby bib wrapped around a positive test. He was so happy he cried!
We kept it a secret for as long as possible but I was going on holiday with my aunt so I told her on holiday on our first day so that she wouldnt guess with me not drinking. I then told my sister around 9 weeks.
We kept it from everyone else until after our 12 week scan. We told family face to face but most friends were told by whattsapp with a scan pic!
We havent done any announcement on FB but I did one on Instagram as I prefer it anyway and its more private for me.

I really treasured that small period of time where only DH & I knew. It felt really special. Even those 24 hours or so that only I knew was unforgettable.

 

[Surveyor]

Thank you all for these beautiful answers, it's been really interesting reading about your journeys.

Keep them coming lovelies.

-Sev

 

[Juice]

DD1 we kept secret from everyone except my mum until 12 weeks. Dd2 I had a scan at 8 weeks and told everyone then. We always tell important people first and then think of a cute way to announce it on Facebook. For dd2 we got dd1 to do a video saying mummy has a baby in her tummy.