Putting things on hold with TTC

[Maximus17]

Hiya just wanted to ask you if anyone else also putting things on holiday while TTC like booking a holiday, starting a hobby just anything really? Well I certainly do so I had a chat with hubby last night and starting from today I am moving on. We are going to book a holiday, I am going to start eating very healthy to lose weight, and stop thinking every month I am pregnant. I am really going to make an effort here as the reality is it might never happen x

 

[Elven]

I think that sounds like a good plan. You can't put your life on hold and it will only make you feel worse. It will happen when it happens, even if you do have other things going on you will figure out at the time and manage. xx

 

[liz85]

I used to put my life on hold and nothing ever came from it. I book holidays and looking to book one in August. They way I see it if I have to cancel my holiday it will because I’ll be pregnant and can’t fly or I’ll habe a baby in my arms. Life is for living. Hope you get your good news very soon xxx

 

[MoominGirl]

I'm also feeling new year, new me. We are not putting our lives on hold though we do have to be mindful that it's probably going to be IVF for us this year so I don't want to get too carried away with booking things but we still need a balance of things to look forward to. We're going to Rome in March. That was booked around 6 months ago and I'm very glad we did. I've also been looking at some new hobbies as well.

 

[SugaryIris]

We are ttc but I’m carrying on with life until I get that bfp. The only slight thing we have changes is we don’t book holidays more than 6 months in advance! I think it’s important to live life!

 

[MoominGirl]

We are ttc but I’m carrying on with life until I get that bfp. The only slight thing we have changes is we don’t book holidays more than 6 months in advance! I think it’s important to live life!

Yeah we also have a '6 month rule' for any major plans. Everything else we just carry on as normal.

 

[LuckyLaura]

You should definitely get started on any new hobbies haha get stuck in! Who knows when you will have a baby in your arms and you won't have time to start the hobby anyway! haha no point in putting it off until when you have a baby, get stuck in now haha xx

 

[linxminx21]

I could have written this....
We're booking a holiday in the next few weeks for October, I keep thinking we'll what if I get pregnant. But I have a family to think of. I can't put everything on hold for a pregnancy that might not happen.

We agreed that if af got me this month (due a few days ago so she's torturing me as I know I'm not pregnant) then we will go book our holiday.
And stop ttc until April May time so I'd be able to enjoy the holiday with my family.
Of course I want a baby, but letting it consume every spare moment, letting it alter choices i make and making me miserable month after month isn't good!
I seriously nearly didn't buy alcohol over Xmas because I might get pregnant. I did in the end and thank god because af came boxing day and I needed a drink lol!
Good luck on your journey hun, grab life by the balls and enjoy it. Ttc takes up far. Too much of our time... Try and squeeze some fun in in between.. I'm sure going to try! X

 

[Maximus17]

So nice to see we are really all in the same boat. We have to live our life and move on. Like everyone said I am making plans for 6months in advance and I will have a holiday to look forward to which means try to lose some weight to wear a nice swimming costume and if it happens that I get pregnant than that’s ok too as I would need a holiday before the baby comes anyway. I really hope we all get our babies soon x

 

[LillyFlower]

I was the same, me and hubby have been TTC baby number 1 for 14 months now, last year we put EVERYTHING on hold - we didn't go on holiday, we rarely planned anything 'just in case'
This year we have booked 2 holidays away to 2 of the places we have both always wanted to go too. Trying for a baby can easily take over your life and last year it made me very poorly, emotionally and physically. We're doing things differently this year.

I think it's the right thing to do to carry on with life - it took me a long time to realise that getting pregnant isn't as easy as some people make it out to be.

 

[Maximus17]

It’s not easy is it? I mean it’s easy for some. I went to see my friends today. They all had 2 kids each and some of them weren’t even planned. Oh what I would give to see 2 lines on that pregnancy test. I am so fed up of seeing one line and just keep staring at it and if I do that long enough I start seeing things but those seconds I can another line I feel sooo happy. So sad isn’t it !

 

[Princess81]

It took me a year last time.... I’m going to try not to fixate this time and just enjoy life. Having said that, I’m mindful of healthy diet, minimal alcohol intake etc.

 

[Alexis2017]

We booked a holiday almost 5 months ago and I am still not pregnant- we go in 3 months ! Yeah we took a risk but I needed something else to focus on. They let us secure the holiday with a £200 deposit and Balance paid 13 weeks before we go so was safe enough to do without losing too much if a miracle did happen ( obviously it hasn't) I am going to book a 3 night city break in Amsterdam for August with my friend too as I will need something to look forward too once Thailand is over. I don't think you should put your life on hold it's not healthy and it becomes very difficult to focus on anything else. We prob won't book up for next year until we know more about ivf waiting times as we were plan being on going to Australia to visit friends Feb 2019 if still in same position. Good luck !

 

[Alexis2017]

I was the same, me and hubby have been TTC baby number 1 for 14 months now, last year we put EVERYTHING on hold - we didn't go on holiday, we rarely planned anything 'just in case'
This year we have booked 2 holidays away to 2 of the places we have both always wanted to go too. Trying for a baby can easily take over your life and last year it made me very poorly, emotionally and physically. We're doing things differently this year.

I think it's the right thing to do to carry on with life - it took me a long time to realise that getting pregnant isn't as easy as some people make it out to be.

Snap 14 months for us too. I agree ...book holidays and live your life as it's hard enough long term ttc with no fun , no holidays at .