Pregnant, but so anxious over previous Micarrage

[BTurley01]

Hi All,

Last November I miscarried with my first child at around 10 weeks. It was horrendous and was not prepared for how bad it would be at such an early stage still. I spent a night in hospital with the pains and amount of blood loss. We were advised that 1 in 3 women miscarry before 12 weeks so to stay positive and statistically we should be ok. I am pregnant again and currently 7 weeks 😊 I’m so please. We have out 8 week appointment on the 24th when I will actually be 12 weeks so then it’s just a couple of weeks until out first scan (we didn’t get to that point last time) I am sooooo anxious and every twinge I get I worry and there is still a part of me worrying that it was something I did last time. It might be me...and I am going to have to go through the miscarriage again and not be able to carry

I just want 12 weeks to come and it seems so far away.

I just don’t …..feel…..pregnant, but I didn’t last time, I didnt get morning sickness but my breast are a little sore and I know I'm just overthinking things I know I am but I’m so nervous. Any advice or words of wisdom anyone has I would greatly appreciate 😊

 

[candymycandy]

Hi, sorry for your loss. It's really hard being pg again after an MC. The only way I get through it is to take each day at a time trying to stay positive and finding distractions! Is there any chance of you going for a private scan before 12 wks? Chances are you'll be fine and have a happy and healthy baby in 6 months!xx

 

[JulyBug]

I haven't once really 'felt pregnant' I've had no sickness & my boobs haven't hurt at all- it's worried me the entire time that I feel so normal!.. I'm nearly 19 weeks now and even after two scans I still don't feel pregnant and I still worry every day something's happened! The don't think the worry ever leaves.. it's one big anxious rollercoaster!

I had a private scan at 11 because my NHS scan wasn't until 14 weeks and I just needed to know everything was ok. I was so glad I did and would recommend it!

xxx

 

[MunchBunch]

Hi sorry for your previous loss. I've had 3 mc's and honestly you will always worry about it happening again. I have carried healthy pregnancies as well as my mc's and I am 23+6 weeks pregnant at the moment and I still don't feel pregnant even though I can feel movements from the baby. Pregnancy is definitely one big rollercoaster like JulyBug said.

Do you have a scan date booked to look towards? Try to take it one day at a time xxx

 

[BTurley01]

Thanks everyone. I have my 8 week appointment on 24th Feb which is next Friday so hoping I will get a letter through with a scan after that for around 12 weeks. I may ask for asking early scan but don't want to seem needy lol we will see. I am really trying to stay positive thanks everyone. Will keep u posted

 

[MissCharli]

Hi, I also had an MC before and am pregnant again. There are a lot of us on here, so you're not alone

I agree its horrible at the beginning, but once I had my scan I definitely relaxed into it. It might feel a long way off for you, but just take each day at a time. Nothing you do or worry about will affect it, so just try and keep yourself busy and distracted.

I also didn't really have any symptoms, only my boobs and how awfully tired I was. I was worried that no MS meant something was wrong, but it turns out I was one of the lucky ones.

 

[candymycandy]

Thanks everyone. I have my 8 week appointment on 24th Feb which is next Friday so hoping I will get a letter through with a scan after that for around 12 weeks. I may ask for asking early scan but don't want to seem needy lol we will see. I am really trying to stay positive thanks everyone. Will keep u posted

It's unlikely they'd offer a scan on the NHS, you'd have to go privately but it's well worth the money!

 

[Blueclass]

Hi ya i mc before I had my daughter who had just turned 8months. I spent the whole pregnancy worrying and paid for countless scans. I then needed an induction as I couldnt feel her move much and I'd panic, ended in c section. Try talking g to someone now because I really did not enjoy being pregnant, I had no sickness which was great but the worry just over took everything.

 

[Jgward1990]

We mc at around 6weeks, got pregnant 2 cycles later, we are now 9 weeks and had some blood, i obviously panicked and after 4 hours in a+e we are going back today for an early scan i feel sick with nerves, the time just cant come quick enough! Also have the midwife doing my bloods at surgery today. Its so hard.

 

[PeanutButter]

I think if you have a mc it ruins every future pregnancy, instead of being full off happiness your stressing incase something happens again. Lots of women pay to have scans early on, God I've probably spent well over a grand now for them, worth it for piece of mind though.

 

[ams25]

Congratulations on your pregnancy And so sorry for your loss Bturley. I'm 21 weeks pregnant after my last pg ended in miscarriage at 8 weeks and I was very nervous during those first 12 weeks, i also had absolutely zero symptoms which really didnt help as I'd been exhausted with my 2 sons but had no symptoms with MC. So I convinced myself it was happening again. I was such an emotional wreck on my 12 week scan day, I got into the scan room and burst into tears before id even laid down on the bed because I was convinced there would be no baby. But there was an extremely wriggly little one with a strong heartbeat as it was such a relief. So definitely a lack of symptoms doesn't mean bad news Hun.

Funny enough I started to feel absolutely exhausted and quite sick pretty much the day after my 12 week scan which continued for a good few weeks. I actually think maybe my body and brain were in denial about being pregnant because of me expecting it to go wrong which caused a lack of symptoms, then as soon as I saw there actually was a baby it was like my brain went 'oh we can have some symptoms now!' Lol.

My best advice is just to get through one day at a time And try to keep busy And distract yourself as much as possible. I asked for an early scan and midwife said hey only do them after 3 mc's, because after 1 your chance is still as high as anyone else's for a successful pregnancy. I'm an hour away from the nearest private scan place so I didn't pay for a private one but I probably would have done if there was one in my town.

Good luck lovely keep us update xx

 

[BTurley01]

We mc at around 6weeks, got pregnant 2 cycles later, we are now 9 weeks and had some blood, i obviously panicked and after 4 hours in a+e we are going back today for an early scan i feel sick with nerves, the time just cant come quick enough! Also have the midwife doing my bloods at surgery today. Its so hard.

Hoe are you getting on? Hope everything is ok x

 

[BTurley01]

Thanks everyone, Friday cant come quick enough for my appointment with the Midwife, I think I will wait for a scan date to come through, it will hopefully only be 3 weeks away because on Friday I will be 9 weeks and 2 days, they are usually around 12 weeks right?

I am feeling more positive as no pain or blood this time and I had last time at this point. My only real symptom is feeling tired and its hard to know if that is even from the pregnancy lol

Thanks everyone, reading all these messages really is helping. I'm definitely just taking each day at a time....Roll on Friday!

 

[Blueclass]

If you can afford it go private and get a reassurance scan that's what I did. I used peekababy and it was only £50. I later used baby bond to find out the sex and they was more expensive but friends had used them at 16 weeks and they was right about the sex. My scan was nearer 14 weeks.

 

[BTurley01]

I'm so scared I started bleeding today. Only very title so may be ok but was around this time last time. On Friday I may ask to go for a scan