Pregnancy of unknown location.

[Lollypop79]

I’m writing this to help make sense of what is going on and also to document the process and what is happening. In case this happens to anyone else.

After some spotting I went for an ultrasound scan at the local hospital. From the lmp I should be around 7 weeks today I predict around 5 weeks when I went in.
An abdominal scan was first attempted and then an internal scan. All that was found was a 2mm either gestational sac or cyst like structure. The sonographer couldn’t advise which one it is as it was so small and they don’t confirm it’s a gestational sac u till they see a foetus inside.
So could go either way.
I sobbed, like a child if i’m honest. So Many thoughts flying through my head. Have I lost it, am I just earlier, am I going to lose it?

We were taken to a counselling room to discuss the next steps. A nurse came in and explained that they weren’t sure what was on the scan or it just wasn’t clear enough. She advised it could be ectopic, I may have lost the pregnancy or it’s just too early.
All this was explained sounding like there was no baby. Even asked if I had done a pregnancy test. When was first and last one. The last one was done by them the Sunday. The doctor was like your definitely pregnant.

So she explained that they will take some blood to check bhcg. I got the regulars later that night. 2305. They are taking more bloods tomorrow (Thursday) to see if doubled or more. Then they will decide if more bloods to do or to schedule a scan.

They apologised for the wait and understood what I was going through. As lovely as she was I don’t think she does. I’m stuck in a horrible limbo going back and forward that my baby has gone or it’s there it’s just too small.
I’ve not slept and walking round in a kind of dreamlike state

A google search doesn’t really show anything. They don’t know what is happening in the situation. But he general consensus is it’s a lot of going back and forward for tests for some women upto 3 weeks.
I honestly don’t know how i’m gonna cope mentally with this. Hopefully writing all this down on here will help.
I will of course keep this updated with how things turn out.

Thanks for reading.

 

[night owl]

Sorry you are going through this hell lollipop, I can totally relate to the not sleeping and walking around in a dream-like state this is exactly how I felt when I went through a miscarriage earlier this year, I see by your signature you got a bfp 30th Aug, I think realistically the earliest you would get a bfp is around 10dpo, so assuming you were around 10dpo when you got your bfp that would put you at around 6 weeks at the earliest when you had your scan, did they say what they seen on the scan could match around 6 weeks? I truly hope it works out for you and baby is just hiding in there xx

 

[Lollypop79]

They didn’t say much, only that they couldn’t say either way. The bloods have come back at 2305 yesterday which she seemed positive about. I guess would know more tomorrow. The other nurse just said things weren’t clear on the scan.

 

[night owl]

Well hopefully it’s just much earlier on then you initially thought and your next hcg results show a nice rise, keeping everything crossed for you x

 

[Lollypop79]

Thankyou night owl. I really appreciate your comments x

 

[firstfreakout]

I just wanted to say I'm thinking of you and hope this is all just a case of it being slightly too early to see anything on the scan.


I remember going for an early scan with DS when I was about 4 weeks to determine dates, as I got a bfp a whole week before my period was due and had a high hcg, and they thought I was further along. They couldn't see anything but a sac and called it an unknown viability or something. I was told to prepare for a miscarriage, but I didn't have any of the compassion they have shown for you. I went home sobbing and spent the next week freaking out and feeling awful. At my next scan I was dated at 6+1 and could see a fetal pole and HB.

In the end, after my 12 week scan, everything was dated a whole 7 days before what my LMP said, which means I either implanted earlier than possible or ovulated a whole week early. But if that was the case, then why did I not see anything at my 4 week scan, which would have been nearer to 5 weeks?! It's all so confusing. So it's completely possible that your dates are a bit off... Without a scan telling you when you ovulated it's so hard to know. And I think at this early stage in pregnancy everything is guess work.

I completely sympathise with you on how awful it is not knowing for sure, especially when you clearly still have pregnancy symptoms.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you. Try to stay calm and take care of yourself in the next week x

 

[IVW]

Oh Lollypop how awful its just a continual waiting game isnt it and the whole not knowing is the most distressing thing ever.

I am hoping and preying that its just too early and the tiny little bean wasn't make their self visible just yet

 

[Lollypop79]

Thanks everyone. I keep going back and forward on of things will be good or bad but trying to remain positive overall.
It is awful but I can’t help but think i’m just a lot earlier than we thought. So fingers crossed for bloods tomorrow.

 

[Princess81]

Really sorry to read this, I hope it’s happy news x

 

[Lollypop79]

Just to let you all know. My hcg only went up by 494. They did another scan and the sac is in the right place however it doesn’t look promising. They have advised to expect to miscarry soon. I’m back in for a scan in 11 days on the off chance they they got it wrong (doctors words) but he said he needs me to know it’s not looking good.

Thanks for all your support and kind words. Xx

 

[firstfreakout]

I’m so sorry to hear that, Lolly

 

[night owl]

So sorry lollypop, sending you hugs x

 

[Radleycat]

I'm so sorry. I just read your post and the update today. I can't even begin to imagine how you have been feeling and this really is a sh#t and cruel situation. I'd like to be able to paint a silver lining on this for you but sometimes its fair to say when something is sad, and you are right to feel how you are feeling.
PLease look after yourself and use people around you, and on here - talking about how you feel, good or bad is the way forward.
ghost hug xx

 

[Princess81]

Oh I’m sorry Hun xx

 

[CasOli]

Sending positive vibes your way!