Positive thinking

[psychosomatic?]

Hi all,
yet again, I am not late even a couple of minutes, even though it was all looking really promising... in my head.
I've been reading about how to stay positive while trying to conceive. I am currently under a lot of stress and we both have also been ill quite a lot, so it is no surprise that it has not happened, but still.
I am kind of preparing myself for it never to happen, but perhaps this is the wrong attitude to take.

One site, which i can't post here because it does not allow me to, recommends to think things like "I am a healthy woman." "My uterus and ovaries are ready to create a baby." "My partner and I are wonderful parents." which just reading it makes me cry.

other site (ehow) recommends th same kind of thinking.

So, why am I so scared of thinking like that? it terrifies me to allow myself to think like that and then be disapointed, and think that preparing for the negative result is better.
I must be wrong, but what do you think?

 

[Mervs Mum]

I think it's a great idea. I used positive thinking and affirmations like the ones you mention to prepare me for a positive labour and birth experience and I totally believe it makes a difference

 

[Emmamb]

I think positive thinking is the way to go,i think the dissapointment will be the same either way,even when expecting a negative theres always still that hope that a BFP will show. xxx

 

[mrsH2009]

I totally believe PMA will work as you aremuch less stressed about the whole situation

 

[psychosomatic?]

Well, will give it a go! thank to you all for your replies.

 

[Mervs Mum]

I have a PMA on most things in life. I never consciously used it with TTC but I'm definitely not scared to believe and it took me 3 months with #1, 2 with #2 and 1 month with #3

 

[peachypam]

I'm a bit like you...feel very negative alot of the time.I'm gonna try and be more positive and see what happens!

 

[Mrs_B]

I have a book that says to think positively and use affirmations. Hasnt worked so far (but have had a lot to deal with recently), but I am not going to stop the PMA and affirmations. It will work!

 

[psychosomatic?]

I suppose Mervs_mum is the best example of it working, isn't it? or at least helping to keep you sane... I have been trying it for a day now, and it has to be said that I feel a lot better. Telling myself those things feels a bit of a ritual within myself, and it feels good.
Thanks again!

 

[serenitylove]

prffesor winston fertilty dr guy said on tv that stress etc has no bearing on conception at all which goes against what most say but he says it a pyhsical thing of sperm swimming to egg so stress is nothing to do with it i talked to the little swimmers on my lucky month and just layed there and told them to get a wriggle on lols

 

[psychosomatic?]

So are you saying that you or your thinking did have something to do with it? or do you believe it might have happened any way? I respect a lot Prof. Winston, and of course the science will say that, after all, you might not want to get pregnant and that would not necessarily be enough to stop you from getting pregnant, but perhaps it is just a mechanism to stay on the right frame of mind? it has been proved that possitive thinking does help patients with cancer, for example, but then we only hear the survivors' stories.
I suppose it can't do any harm, and I'm not yet buying water as medicine.
Congrats on your 14th week!