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hi hun i dont know what to say really if you keep all 3 which i am sure some people have you will have to make sure that baby is kept under cats nets when asleep or alone or maybe start teaching the cats now that there r certain rooms that they r not allowed in, we had a cat when kieron was a baby and never had a problem but she would never have gone upstairs, hope your ok hun
well it does sound like u care alot for these cats ..... fell sad for you
have u got any family members who could have the cats , then u could see them ocasionally.
dont no what else to suggest hun.... unless if you really love them and are cut up this badly surely its not worth putting yourself through this. i also found when i had ellie my cats didnt wanna go near her anyway.
hope this helps
here have a hug and wipe those tears
have u got any family members who could have the cats , then u could see them ocasionally.
dont no what else to suggest hun.... unless if you really love them and are cut up this badly surely its not worth putting yourself through this. i also found when i had ellie my cats didnt wanna go near her anyway.
hope this helps
here have a hug and wipe those tears
I was worried sick that my 2 cats would lay on Dan, jump in his bed etc etc especially as they are allowed anywhere in my house. Its really weird but they have no interest in him. For months I watched them like hawks, I even would lock them outside at night (they could still curl up in my back outhouse) as I was scared of what they would do. Now they go where they like and I have never caught them in his bed. Again though you can get cat nets if you are concerned.
Do you live by a main road or actually on a main road??
Maybe faced with the prospect of losing his cats your OH might face up to his fears. Tell him it's not fair on the cats and they should be allowed to go out. Maybe your vet might beable to reassure him?? He might think it's better to let them out than lose them altogether
Do you live by a main road or actually on a main road??
Maybe faced with the prospect of losing his cats your OH might face up to his fears. Tell him it's not fair on the cats and they should be allowed to go out. Maybe your vet might beable to reassure him?? He might think it's better to let them out than lose them altogether
The More I Think About It The More I Cant Do It. Then I Think "I have To".. and It Starts Again. My Main Concern Is The Litter Tray Thing. I HATE Having It In The House, I Mean, Three Cats 
and They're Just Going To Get Bigger.. I Wont Be Able To Live Like That. But Like You Said, Maybe They Could Go Outside? We Have a Garden But Cats Jump So Im Scared They'd Get Run Over As The Road Is Right Outside Our House. God It Just Gets Harder, I Wish There Was An Easy Answer
and They're Just Going To Get Bigger.. I Wont Be Able To Live Like That. But Like You Said, Maybe They Could Go Outside? We Have a Garden But Cats Jump So Im Scared They'd Get Run Over As The Road Is Right Outside Our House. God It Just Gets Harder, I Wish There Was An Easy Answeri had an adult cat and 2 kittens. the adult cat was fully trained and went in and out as he pleased but the kits were a nightmare. they used litter tray and eventually went out on there own and were fine.
its not just a case of putting nets over your baby when they sleep, after your kit has burried its poo with its feet, it then walks around your home, on your work surfaces etc, transferring germs wherever it goes. and they are deadly germs ( i have to say, i hope you are letting OH clean litter trays and not doing it yourself)
i eventually gave my kits away to a loving home.
i believe it is cruel to keep cats as 'house'cats and i valued my babies health more than my love for the kits.
i know this sounds harsh but in my opinion it was in my babies best interests for them to go.
we still have the older cat and he has never been a problem........hope this helps
its not just a case of putting nets over your baby when they sleep, after your kit has burried its poo with its feet, it then walks around your home, on your work surfaces etc, transferring germs wherever it goes. and they are deadly germs ( i have to say, i hope you are letting OH clean litter trays and not doing it yourself)
i eventually gave my kits away to a loving home.
i believe it is cruel to keep cats as 'house'cats and i valued my babies health more than my love for the kits.
i know this sounds harsh but in my opinion it was in my babies best interests for them to go.
we still have the older cat and he has never been a problem........hope this helps
is it a really busy road hun??
I'm not on a main road, but not far from one. My cats really don't wander that far, they normaly just hang around my garden. I remember the first time I let my kitten out. I was scared but my mate told me just to let her go. She didn't leave my garden for about a month!!
I'm not on a main road, but not far from one. My cats really don't wander that far, they normaly just hang around my garden. I remember the first time I let my kitten out. I was scared but my mate told me just to let her go. She didn't leave my garden for about a month!!
hun if you can presuade your OH to let them out you really don't have to lose them. I do agree they should go out, its not fair on them, but if there is no litter tray in the house and they a pooping outside................cats are very clean animals. Obviously they shouldn't be walking all over your surfaces anyway. If its breaking your heart to lose them, talk to your vet he will probably beable to reassure you
This is worth a read too:
http://www.messybeast.com/cat_baby.htm
This is worth a read too:
http://www.messybeast.com/cat_baby.htm
Misslarue said:
Yeah Its Busy Unfortunately. Tomorrow Morning Im Going To Speak To Th OH & Talk About Them Going Outside From Now On. The Only Problem Is One Of Them Is Scared Stiff Of Outside & Probably Wont Go Anyways, Which Winds Me Up Thinking About It. God This Is Really Doing My Head In. Its Too Hard
Misslarue said:hun if you can presuade your OH to let them out you really don't have to lose them. I do agree they should go out, its not fair on them, but if there is no litter tray in the house and they a pooping outside................cats are very clean animals. Obviously they shouldn't be walking all over your surfaces anyway. If its breaking your heart to lose them, talk to your vet he will probably beable to reassure you
This is worth a read too:
http://www.messybeast.com/cat_baby.htm
Oh Thanks So Much For That Link!
I Just Wish Someone Would Wave a Magic Wand and They Could Vanish & Take The Decision Out Of My Hands, Like, Make Them Disappear So I Can Just Start The Grieving Process Instead Of This Devastating Feeling Day In Day Out Of Seeing Them & Trying To Make a Choice. Them Being Here Is Breaking My Heart Thinking About Them Leaving But I Feel Like If They Were Gone I Could Start To Heal & It Wouldnt Hurt So Bad. I Feel Horrible For Saying It.
TBH i felt terrible about Merlin, and was really upset, but now hes gone, i know he is probably better off as he has a garden now, and not dealing with his poos is a big relief (they stunk) My other cat seems a lot happier also, maybe see if a friend can help out then at least you can pop round and see them xx
I Cant Do It Nope I Just Cant.. Our Kitten Just Miowed At Me Like She Always Does When She Wants To Be Picked Up & Cuddled. She Was Just Sitting At My Feet Staring At Me, Then My Other One Walked Past & Its Almost As If He Knows He Could Be Leaving. Poor Things. No, No Way Can I Do This. Aww I Dont Know 
Nope I Just Cant.. Our Kitten Just Miowed At Me Like She Always Does When She Wants To Be Picked Up & Cuddled. She Was Just Sitting At My Feet Staring At Me, Then My Other One Walked Past & Its Almost As If He Knows He Could Be Leaving. Poor Things. No, No Way Can I Do This. Aww I Dont Know Right.. Thanks So Much For All Your Replies. Im Going To Have a Chat With The OH Tomorrow & Try & Come Up With a Solution. We Tried Earlier But I Couldnt Talk I Was Too Upset. Its Hard To Know How Im Really Feeling Aswell Due To Pregnancy Hormones Exaggerating Everything So I Dont Want To Make Any Hasty Decisions. I'll Let You Know What Happens Thank You. Godnight xxx
Thank You. Godnight xxxAaawwwwwwwwww
I just wanted to pass on these
I know there's lots o fmembers here who have cats, I'm sure it's possible to have a cat and a baby, safely, if you're dedicated to acheive that? But I don't really know as I don't have cats, we have a dog, not much help, but really feel for you, and whatever you do just know you're thinking of what's best for everyone and you cannot please everyone so don't be too hard on yourself
Very best wishes, I really hope you sort something out soon that you feel comfortable and happy about
I just wanted to pass on these
I know there's lots o fmembers here who have cats, I'm sure it's possible to have a cat and a baby, safely, if you're dedicated to acheive that? But I don't really know as I don't have cats, we have a dog, not much help, but really feel for you, and whatever you do just know you're thinking of what's best for everyone and you cannot please everyone so don't be too hard on yourself
Very best wishes, I really hope you sort something out soon that you feel comfortable and happy about
Redshoes said:whatever you do just know you're thinking of what's best for everyone and you cannot please everyone so don't be too hard on yourself
Very best wishes, I really hope you sort something out soon that you feel comfortable and happy about
Thank You Thats Really Comforting & So True, I'll Keep This In Mind
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sorry i missed this. i hav 2 cats and it is hard with a baby, u gotta be on ur toes make sure keep doors closed even if u leave ur baby in a room for one minute while u make a cup of tea- make sure the cats dont go on babys things as they leave hairs on everything etc.
when millie was a few days old my boyf had her on his lap and one of the cats jumped onto his lap it didnt see her, his paw went on her face it was really frightening coz we had 2 push him off but not scare him coz his claws wouldve come out. i did think at first i can see why people rehouse their pets but it has got easier
a lot of people feel differently about their pets once they hav babies read this http://www.pregnancyforum.co.uk/forum/v ... hp?t=50542
i hope u decide whats best 4 u xxx
when millie was a few days old my boyf had her on his lap and one of the cats jumped onto his lap it didnt see her, his paw went on her face it was really frightening coz we had 2 push him off but not scare him coz his claws wouldve come out. i did think at first i can see why people rehouse their pets but it has got easier
a lot of people feel differently about their pets once they hav babies read this http://www.pregnancyforum.co.uk/forum/v ... hp?t=50542
i hope u decide whats best 4 u xxx
