Please say this is my hormones.....

[mermaid]

Since baby Finley was born last week I can't stop crying. I feel so emotional having left the hospital and I am missing the whole experience of pregnancy and birth soooo much! It's like I have lost something. Sounds strange I know. It makes me cry just talking about it. I just want to feel 'normal'. I keep telling myself this is my hormones and it will settle down. The breastfeeding every two hours in the night isn't helping much either. Please reassure me somebody, I feel so alone and under pressure.......

 

[MissGobby]

awww hun sorry i cant help as ive never been PG but i just wanted to send you lots of

 

[skatty]

Oh god yes its the hormones! I never cried so much in my life as the first couple of months! I was the opposite of you though, I would cry at the thought of ever being pregnant again The lack of sleep is what makes you most weepy though, the less sleep I got the more down I would feel. It really wont be long before your LO goes longer between feeds and once he goes 3 hours and you are able to express get someone else to do the late evening feed and you should be able to get a 6 hour chunk of sleep before the middle of the night shift. This made all the difference for me.

I bet even by next week you will be going longer between feeds, just take all the help that is offered. You are doing great

 

[Daggers]

Yes Memaid it does get better, just take each day as it comes and if Finley needs you to hold and cuddle him then just go with it, poor little baba is probably just as distressed and like you needs a kiss and cuddle. I know it's not always recommended but Otis and I used to have naps together, in that way I loved the time we spent together and knowing that I was the only one who could feed and to an extent clam him, think it really helped in building a bond between us.
As mentioned already just try to let everything else go and sleep as much as you can, when you can (when baba is sleeping).

 

[Tina & Gabs]

It does get better hun and like the girls have said; the lack of sleep definitely doesn't help.

Take care of yourself

 

[foxymum]

i can echo what the other girls have said, it deffo does get better, honestly, a big from me & Louie.
hormones are awful damn things eh?
i still sometimes feel like this, but you will soon settle into your new life with Finley. take care.xxxx

 

[Melanie]

It gets better hun. As soon as baby goes for long between feeds and you can get some sleep it all seems brighter!

 

[mermaid]

Thank you so much, that has really helped me to feel better. I am already expressing a feed for my partner to give Finley in the evening.
I go to bed around 10 and get a few hours then. It really helps.

 

[LucyBee]

Mermaid - if it helps I'm exactly the same. Can't stop crying and feeling completely overwhelmed by the responsibility.
I love Tom to bits but it's such a massive change and I'm finding it hard to cope. Sometimes it helps just to know you're not the only one who feels that way. PM me if you like. We can be miserable together and hopefully help lift each other out!
Lucyx

 

[Jaidy]

Hey Mermaid,

I had Zac just over 3 weeks ago now and I feel EXACTLY the same as you.

I miss being pregnant (as mad as that sounds) and because its 'all over' so to speak I kinda feel like im on a comedown?? That probably makes no sense because I have a beautiful little boy but it is weird going from being pregnant to having your baby all in one day isnt it?? You do feel like something has been missed out.

Im the same with the tiredness too, I am formula feeding but still get extremely tired and the more tired I am the crapper I feel and if Zac is having an upset time I can feel totally rock bottom! I think all these feelings are normal from what the others have put, and hopefully it will ease!

 

[cassi]

aww dont worry hun i was exactly the same its baby blues it does go!!!

 

[mermaid]

Jaidy, you're feeling exactly the same as me, I can totally relate to what you are saying there! I feel a lot better knowing it is normal to feel this way. Each day gets a little bit better in terms of the emotions but boy am I finding the breastfeeding hard at night! Last night at 1am I told OH I couldn't do it anymore and I just wanted to sleep.....I couldn't be bothered to pick Finley up to feed at all and I felt so guilty.

Lucybee, I have pm you, thanks