Please help me, 13 months ttc still nothing .. Feeling so low

[Need2hangon]

Hi I have been ttc for 13 months already . At the moment I feel my period coming on with very bad cramping, so could be 14 months ttc very soon. I have went and got tested for my fertility and have been told i have a tilted uterus , my doctor said that will have no affect on ttc. I was also told I have pcos but the non hormonal type and again told that this wil have no affect on my fertility, I have already had my hsg and think I will be going for my lap very soon. I am currently awaiting my partners semwn analysis but having got this checked already before and it came back normal, I feel so low as to what is going to happen. Myself and my partner are only in our early twenties , we both so desperately want a baby, it's all I think about, I can't stop crying as this is always on my mind. My sister just found out she is pregnant after ttc for 1 month and all my friends seem to be pregnant now and I was trying before them. Has anyone been through the same situation as me and have an success story or any tips or advice, I would very much appreciate it, as of now I feel like I can't speak to anyone and feel like isolating myself from the world.pleas help me .

 

[nfeeney90]

Yes i know exactly how you feel i was their 4 years ago, was tryin and nuthing and then my brother in law announced they are expecting and it wasnt planned which annoyed me even more anyway a year later finally got pregnant and at 12 weeks miscarried so had to try again and nothing but 4 months later got pregnant again and now she is almost 3 lol you just need to find something to take your mind off it and help you get through it my way was max (a puppy) he was just like a different kind of baby and now he and my daughter are like best friends, bit sad but hes my baby too lol it will happen just when the time is right sorry if that sounds patronizing as i didnt want to hear that back then either x

 

[peanut head]

I agree with the lady above, it does feel like everyone in the world is having babies when you want one so much but it will happen for you to. I really do believe the stress of wanting one can sometimes hinder it actually happen but its such a vicious circle. Sending baby dust your way x

 

[Loubalouba]

Totally agree with above! We have been trying for 12 months and got our first bfp last month but sadly miscarried last week my best friend is 10 weeks pregnant after trying once!! And 2 of my work friends have just had babies after trying at the same time as me, it is all I live and breathe for which I am sure is not healthy! But I think about it 24 7 just like you. I am using a clear blue monitor my husband has stopped wearing boxers and having hot baths and is on wellman conception vitamins, I find being proactive and trying stuff like this helps and gives u hope... I have also started reflexology in order to reduce my stress and stimulate my reproductive system! This I would highly recommend! It really helps to talk about it with someone and it is soooo relaxing we have tried all of the above in the last 2-3 months and did get a bfp so it must have helped! We also got a puppy and that has helped me no end!!! I could channel my focus and energy into this gorgeous lab pup of course it helps if u r an animal person

I know how you feel Hun it is really tough esp when everyone around u is pregnant and u think why not me but u have to have faith that it will happen one day, research into ways u can boost fertility eg diet. Exercise acupuncture reflexology etc and try different things so u feel proactive about it? Everyone is different and I guess this is just how I deal with it

Good luck to you really hope you get your bfp soon xxx

 

[Lynds77]

Are you taking vitamins and using opks etc?

I caught first month but I was using 3000mg EPO day, soft cups, pregnacare plus, preseed, opks and we used SMEP too

Back to ttc again next month and I will be doing the exact same again!

Good luck. Hope you catch soon x